Ex wife sent back kids gifts from grand parents...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids dont "need" gifts from grandparents. Your feeling are just, you are an adult, manage your own emotions.

Anger is rooted in the inability to control another person.

Kids do need love, and if these grandparents love them, there's no reason to cut them out of their lives.

+1000 I don't know why women do this. They should realize that there are many fathers being awarded full custody. Judges aren't looking kindly on this stuff anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

What do you mean stop infringing on HER life? That comment is very telling about you, PP. You probably have done this. Just because a couple breaks up does not mean the grandkids are no longer allowed to be in relationship with extended relatives.

This is sad and parents that split need to love their kids enough not to disrespect their kids’ other parent. I get that things happen, such as abuse, infidelity, etc... If you alienate your kid from their other parent it will come back to bite the person doing the alienating.

For OP, have grandpa keep the stuff wrapped just like it is and give to the kids when you see them next, even if it is March or April. Good luck and get a good lawyer or mediator.

See you agree with me but you are too dense to understand.

If the father really cares about the kids he will lighten up and wait his turn. For all you know there is a reason the courts refuse contact.

When he gets the courts to say they are not abusive psychos they can give them gifts.

Having been the cop in the scene of many domestics, yes you can wait your turn. You are divirced. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

Sweetie, I am far from dense. You seem to be reading a lot into the stated situation. Not every dispute between exes is a domestic dispute needing law enforcement. I have friends dealing with stressful custody disputes. It is never about the kids, it is about resentment toward the ex. If you are a cop, I find your abrasive verbal response and name calling very concerning. There are lots of amazing people in law enforcement, you don’t seem to be one of them.

PP is probably a criminal law studnt and by cases he/she means class assignments.
Anyway, OP have your mom keep the gifts for the next time you see the kids.
Document this as well as any other actions by your wife that attempt to alienate your relationship with them Get a good lawyer and good luck with your case!

Please! PP has probably just watched Law & Order on TV .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

You are a c*nt and so is the OPs exwife.

[Anonymous]

Does it bother anyone else that the supposed cop in this thread seems almost illiterate?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop send stuff to her house. Once the legal process is done they can build a relationship with their grand children.

Stop infringing on her life.

WTH?? Sending gifts to grand children that live in a different state infringes on the life of the ex wife? are you crazy? Gifts are sent to where the kids live. If they live with their mother where else do you send the gifts to?

If the father is not indigent to his house. If he is indigent there is good reason too keep that side of the family away.

Let the courts decide.

Obviously she has custody and he doesn't. He either left or was removed from the home so dad already has s few strikes against him.

You don't understand the meaning of that word. You sound unhinged.

Your right I should have said derelict. But the father could be indigent meaning he has not send money for food but the grandparents send toys. How backwards is that.

Isn't that what child support is supposed to cover? You sound nuts. Grandparents and father are separate. Mother provides food out of her income and child support. Grandparents should be able to send gifts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids dont "need" gifts from grandparents. Your feeling are just, you are an adult, manage your own emotions.

Anger is rooted in the inability to control another person.

Kids do need love, and if these grandparents love them, there's no reason to cut them out of their lives.

+1000 I don't know why women do this. They should realize that there are many fathers being awarded full custody. Judges aren't looking kindly on this stuff anymore.

Very few judges care. Been there, done that. Dad will go to court, Mom will be told to change her behavior and allow visits, Mom will continue to refuse and the relationship will be terminated between kids and Dad and Dad will be blamed.

OP, my husband's ex used to do that stuff. I wish you the best but if she will not cooperate, very little the judges will do. It would be nice if they tied child support to visitation for Dads who pay and want to see their kids but they will not as they claim it hurts the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids dont "need" gifts from grandparents. Your feeling are just, you are an adult, manage your own emotions.

Anger is rooted in the inability to control another person.

Actually, it is important in maintaining relationships. It is selfish not to allow kids to have gifts from paternal relatives. You are a selfish and controlling person not to see this. It isn't about your needs, but the child needs.

[Anonymous]

If I were divorced I wouldn't want my inlaws sending gifts to my house! My ex would have to keep them at his house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were divorced I wouldn't want my inlaws sending gifts to my house! My ex would have to keep them at his house.

Its not about you. Its about the kids and if you are the primary residence and kids are barely seeing Dad, it should go to your house. Why would you punish the grandparents for your divorce? You are selfish.

[Anonymous]

Some of these posts are ridiculous. I'm divorced, and my ex-husband's parents send my children's presents to my house. Actually, this Christmas, my ex-husband and his mother are at my house for Christmas. Some of you are idiots, and I feel sorry for your kids. OP, your ex is also an idiot. She needs to get over herself, and stop making her children's lives miserable. You can have an amicable divorce if both parties have common sense and are committed to the happiness of their children.

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I’m so sorry for you and your parents, OP. As the mother of three boys, I can’t deny that this type of scenario puts dread into my heart. I hope you get a chance to see your kids soon.