Invited daughters friend over to play and the dad asked if I could watch other child, too
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Anonymous
| Daughter's friend from soccer came over. Her father dropped her off and had their 7 year old son with him. He asked if the son could stay, too while he took care of a few things. I never met the dad. Met the mom a handful of times thru soccer events. I felt put on the spot and told him I wasn't planning on supervising the girls, they are 12 and he said it's ok. The sister would keep an eye on him. I ended up agreeing and regretted because this kid was a handful. Not sure where the mom was. |
Anonymous
It is okay to say no OP. |
Anonymous
| "Sorry, that won't work today. But we're happy to have Lily for the afternoon as planned." |
Anonymous
| Similar thing happened to me, but the mom wanted to stay!! What do you say to that??? |
Anonymous
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The father was totally out of line. Who are these parents who just couldn't care less about their kids? Next time you will feel strong enough to say no. |
Anonymous
+1. For me it was the dad. I had invited a friend for DD over on Thanksgiving morning. The dad showed up with the friend and her little sister and proceeded to stay. It was really awkward because you know... I was cooking Thanksgiving dinner. When I extended the invite, the mom was thrilled as she was planning to cook Thanksgiving dinner also. We both agreed that the girls would occupy each other and therefore would stay out of our hair. I’m not married and it was just really odd to have someone else’s husband and child watching football in my living room. |
Anonymous
| That's how you make friends. I would see no problem with the question. Answer honestly. |
Anonymous
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This same situation has happened to me before too! Once it was a parent strongly hinting how much fun it would be for her younger child if she could stay too - and of course, being a wimp, I said, "Sure, she can absolutely stay!" That child turned out to be the biggest pain in the neck. She kept pretending to get hurt so that she could "cry" and get all the attention. I was so mad at myself for saying yes to the mother.
The other time, a dad came to pick up his son from a playdate with my son. The dad wound up *staying* for over an hour, while I was trying to cook dinner for my family! He just stuck around in the kitchen, talking about nothing, while the boys continued to play. I said several times, "Ok, I think Larlo's ready to go now," and he would not take the hint. I think he must have had some sort of social skills issues since he couldn't pick up on obvious cues. Very strange. |
Anonymous
| That is so rude. I would have had to call the dad to pick the child up- I'm not his free babysitter. And it's not his sister's job to "watch him"- she's there for a play date with her friend! He may be clueless, but that is no excuse. |
Anonymous
I enjoy play dates with older kids because my kids are occupied and I can get stuff done without them. Having a small.child or parent stick.around ruins it for me.and causes me extra stress, esp.if the house isn't in order. |
Anonymous
| Text the mom. "Is John ok? I was caught off guard when he asked us to watch little Jimmy so he could take care of some things. John said Jane could watch Jimmy but I had to step in several times. I hope there was nothing wrong at home? Larla had fun with Jane. They made slime and asked to get together again soon." |
Anonymous
This is hilarious because it's so outrageous and incredibly weird. Like something out of a sit com. |
Anonymous
Exactly. Totally defeats the purpose of having a play date so that your child has someone to play with and you have some time to yourself! Some parents are completely clueless. |
Anonymous
This is so annoying and rude. Just be direct. |
Anonymous
It happened on Seinfeld 
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Wt5SPuvt-sg |