Invited daughters friend over to play and the dad asked if I could watch other child, too

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My husband is having another dad and his 2 year old over for a play date tomorrow. They are planning on cutting down a shelving unit in my basement. I was sort of dumbfounded and asked who will be watching the 2 years olds. Of course it's me. Wtf. This is a mans idea of a play date!

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Anonymous wrote:That's how you make friends. I would see no problem with the question. Answer honestly.

I enjoy play dates with older kids because my kids are occupied and I can get stuff done without them. Having a small.child or parent stick.around ruins it for me.and causes me extra stress, esp.if the house isn't in order.

Exactly. Totally defeats the purpose of having a play date so that your child has someone to play with and you have some time to yourself! Some parents are completely clueless.

You simply say "sorry, no". There is absolutely no harm in asking. It's a question, not a order.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's how you make friends. I would see no problem with the question. Answer honestly.

I enjoy play dates with older kids because my kids are occupied and I can get stuff done without them. Having a small.child or parent stick.around ruins it for me.and causes me extra stress, esp.if the house isn't in order.

Exactly. Totally defeats the purpose of having a play date so that your child has someone to play with and you have some time to yourself! Some parents are completely clueless.

You simply say "sorry, no". There is absolutely no harm in asking. It's a question, not a order.

So you just say no, with no reason provided?

[Anonymous]

How rude

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Anonymous wrote:Similar thing happened to me, but the mom wanted to stay!! What do you say to that???

+1. For me it was the dad. I had invited a friend for DD over on Thanksgiving morning. The dad showed up with the friend and her little sister and proceeded to stay. It was really awkward because you know... I was cooking Thanksgiving dinner. When I extended the invite, the mom was thrilled as she was planning to cook Thanksgiving dinner also. We both agreed that the girls would occupy each other and therefore would stay out of our hair. I’m not married and it was just really odd to have someone else’s husband and child watching football in my living room.

This is hilarious because it's so outrageous and incredibly weird. Like something out of a sit com.[/quote

My guess would be that the dad wanted to watch a football game and doesn’t have cable at home...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's how you make friends. I would see no problem with the question. Answer honestly.

I enjoy play dates with older kids because my kids are occupied and I can get stuff done without them. Having a small.child or parent stick.around ruins it for me.and causes me extra stress, esp.if the house isn't in order.

Exactly. Totally defeats the purpose of having a play date so that your child has someone to play with and you have some time to yourself! Some parents are completely clueless.

You simply say "sorry, no". There is absolutely no harm in asking. It's a question, not a order.

So you just say no, with no reason provided?

If it's inconvenient then I would say that it is inconvenient. We had so many similar situations over the years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Similar thing happened to me, but the mom wanted to stay!! What do you say to that???

+1. For me it was the dad. I had invited a friend for DD over on Thanksgiving morning. The dad showed up with the friend and her little sister and proceeded to stay. It was really awkward because you know... I was cooking Thanksgiving dinner. When I extended the invite, the mom was thrilled as she was planning to cook Thanksgiving dinner also. We both agreed that the girls would occupy each other and therefore would stay out of our hair. I’m not married and it was just really odd to have someone else’s husband and child watching football in my living room.

This is hilarious because it's so outrageous and incredibly weird. Like something out of a sit com.

It happened on Seinfeld

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Wt5SPuvt-sg

LOL! I knew it! Hilarious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Similar thing happened to me, but the mom wanted to stay!! What do you say to that???

+1. For me it was the dad. I had invited a friend for DD over on Thanksgiving morning. The dad showed up with the friend and her little sister and proceeded to stay. It was really awkward because you know... I was cooking Thanksgiving dinner. When I extended the invite, the mom was thrilled as she was planning to cook Thanksgiving dinner also. We both agreed that the girls would occupy each other and therefore would stay out of our hair. I’m not married and it was just really odd to have someone else’s husband and child watching football in my living room.

Super weird! But if I were going to say yes, I’d stick a turkey baster in the guy’s hand and make him help.

[Anonymous]

I would be pissed, OP. The father was totally wrong and you never should have been put in that position. I hope your daughter doesn't like the girl because I would never have her over again.

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It is okay to say no OP.

This. Just say no. It’s really okay. People who push the boundaries like that don’t need an eloquent excuse. Just “No, that won’t work. See at 3pm when you pick up Larla.”

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me as well, and I also caved and agreed for the younger child to stay. It was a pain, and I would never do it again. It also ruined the playdate for my daughter because the younger one kept interfering. I just don't get these parents who think this is ok!! The same parent has multiple times tried to leave her younger daughter at my daughter's birthday parties! I learned to say NO!

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For the families that drag out pick up times I always say I will bring Larla home. It is a tad bit more work on my end but at least I know when it will be over.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's how you make friends. I would see no problem with the question. Answer honestly.

I enjoy play dates with older kids because my kids are occupied and I can get stuff done without them. Having a small.child or parent stick.around ruins it for me.and causes me extra stress, esp.if the house isn't in order.

Exactly. Totally defeats the purpose of having a play date so that your child has someone to play with and you have some time to yourself! Some parents are completely clueless.

You simply say "sorry, no". There is absolutely no harm in asking. It's a question, not a order.

So you just say no, with no reason provided?

If it's inconvenient then I would say that it is inconvenient. We had so many similar situations over the years.

You can say "No, I'm sorry, I was planning on taking care of a few things around the house myself and don't feel comfortable having a younger child here." If he says "Daughter will watch him" then you say "No that won't work. But if you need to take daughter home to watch him there and reschedule the play date, I understand."

The dad was rude and I would have been caught off guard too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is having another dad and his 2 year old over for a play date tomorrow. They are planning on cutting down a shelving unit in my basement. I was sort of dumbfounded and asked who will be watching the 2 years olds. Of course it's me. Wtf. This is a mans idea of a play date!

Oh no, ma’am. You need to get out of the house now! Go shopping, run errands, get lost in a bookstore, get stuck at Starbucks...whatever. Just be OUT OF THE HOUSE. There’s no discusssion—just leave. Let your child’s father and his friend figure this one out on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Similar thing happened to me, but the mom wanted to stay!! What do you say to that???

+1. For me it was the dad. I had invited a friend for DD over on Thanksgiving morning. The dad showed up with the friend and her little sister and proceeded to stay. It was really awkward because you know... I was cooking Thanksgiving dinner. When I extended the invite, the mom was thrilled as she was planning to cook Thanksgiving dinner also. We both agreed that the girls would occupy each other and therefore would stay out of our hair. I’m not married and it was just really odd to have someone else’s husband and child watching football in my living room.

This is hilarious because it's so outrageous and incredibly weird. Like something out of a sit com.

+1 for sure!!