49 going on 39....help me find a date

[Anonymous]

How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

[Anonymous]

I am you op. Just turned 50, divorced without bitterness. In my head I'm 30. I am convinced that we need to move West. Seattle, Denver, Portland and parts of California (not bimbo LA though). The District is a tough place for our mindset but the west and mountain states are crawling with mid-life but youthful, outdoorsy men with jobs and perspective.

[Anonymous]

If you look for it, it won't be there.

[Anonymous]

Keep your pool very wide open. Don't compromise on your must-have's, but be flexible on race, height, job, etc. I dated for about three years after my divorce, finally found a great guy who is a good match for me. I did online dating and primarily looked at profiles vs pics. I am not very photogenic, so my rule was that unless they were terribly unattractive (to me), I would accept the date if asked. I also initiated messaging. My bf did not have great pictures, but I was really cute in person.

I'm 46. He's 44. We are both really active and young at heart. Keep getting out there, there is someone for you. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

*I = he

[Anonymous]

Get active at your gym. Take yoga, do the spinning classes, play coed volleyball, join a training group for local 5K race. Do active stuff with other active people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you look for it, it won't be there.

+1

When I stopped looking I found Mrs. Right. I did it just by doing the things I wanted to do in work and my personal life. There's no guarantee it will happen with that approach, but I think the odds are greater.

[Anonymous]

Running clubs
Hiking clubs
Biking clubs

[Anonymous]

Running or biking clubs are ideal and are full of single people who are fighting father time. They also like to organize social events where people can connect. The are much better than fitness places where people just come and go.

[Anonymous]

Hiking is great. When you pass on a trail you can't help but say hi. Sometimes a longer conversation results. Lot of nice people, male and female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get active at your gym. Take yoga, do the spinning classes, play coed volleyball, join a training group for local 5K race. Do active stuff with other active people.

Been doing this for 2 years , love spinning and body works and yoga. But met NO women other than the instructors . Women are very unfriendly at
these types of classes. Good for your heart and soul but don’t depend on them to meet women, at least not in nova area.

[Anonymous]

I second this. I'm a dedicated gym rat and people do not go there to meet others. It's just too physical and sweaty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep your pool very wide open. Don't compromise on your must-have's, but be flexible on race, height, job, etc. I dated for about three years after my divorce, finally found a great guy who is a good match for me. I did online dating and primarily looked at profiles vs pics. I am not very photogenic, so my rule was that unless they were terribly unattractive (to me), I would accept the date if asked. I also initiated messaging. My bf did not have great pictures, but I was really cute in person.

I'm 46. He's 44. We are both really active and young at heart. Keep getting out there, there is someone for you. Good luck!

Thanks. Glad it worked for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am you op. Just turned 50, divorced without bitterness. In my head I'm 30. I am convinced that we need to move West. Seattle, Denver, Portland and parts of California (not bimbo LA though). The District is a tough place for our mindset but the west and mountain states are crawling with mid-life but youthful, outdoorsy men with jobs and perspective.

Any luck yet? OP here, hoping 2018 is better.

[Anonymous]

If you are woman look for an 70+
A man can look at the 35+