49 going on 39....help me find a date

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Anonymous wrote:Terrible advice. I have nothing in common with men 16 years older. I am not looking for younger men, just ones my own age who are equally active and fit.

50 year old guys with a little game want nothing to do with 50 year old women. You might be able to land a 60 year old beta from dc if you are lucky. If you want to go younger, he will probably be a slob.

Not true. Most 50 year old guys do not want more kids and are thrilled with women their age and most 35 year old women do and feeling desperate may go for an old guy and the ones who don’t do not want 50 year old men. Anyway my friends in their fifties are having better luck dating than my late thirties friends who have not yet found someone.

Nope, nope, nope. Guys in their 50s (like me) if they get divorced do NOT want women their age or even over 45. They just divorced that, FFS, they want younger and hotter. They are definitely going to start looking in the 30-40 age range. If they are like me - over 6' tall, very fit, highly educated, make good money - they can probably get a woman in her 30s.

Barf. Then your saggy 50-something body will get the early 30-somethin' gold digger. Enjoy!

Uh ... that's his plan.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are woman look for an 70+
A man can look at the 35+

+1000

OP owns up to your age. Otherwise your 49 yo self will have to date your 39 yo superego. Have a party.

I'd love to know the age of the two people who posted this advice. I assume they were men.

Seriously recommending that a 49 year old woman looking for a fit, active guy shoot for a man 70 years old or more? Reading comprehension, folks. Also, Eva Longoria is 51. Think she should go for Harrison Ford? Seriously......

Eva Longoria is 42, not 51, and recently pregnant. DP here, and I think OP should look for someone in early to mid-fifties.

Also Eva Longoria is a freaking celebrity with $$$.

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Anonymous wrote:How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

I am 48, single, healthy, own a condo in Rosslyn, IT Manager now but raised on a farm...

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Thought this would make OP feel better. I am 50 year old woman. I guess you would call me pretty but I am in the process of losing weight-about 15-20 pounds to heavy but that is another story (trying to say I am not super perfect). In any event, I have been trying to dress better and doing my hair just for me though. I accidently hurt my hand working out and cannot wear my wedding rings for a few weeks. In any event, I have been asked out several times in the past week. Trust me I am not looking for it, happily married. The guys were all professionals etc and one very hot UPS guy that was young and that one I really laughed about. In any event, I think the guys are out there. I think people were asking me out because they thought I was available ie no ring but maybe I also came across as approachable and happy. Too often women get so stressed about finding someone that they lose their power. I saw the guy above's posting that he only wants young women. Intellectually we should all know that he is probably a jerk and best avoided. This doesn't mean that there are not great love stories of mixed ages. Sometimes love happens and there is an age difference but guys who say they only want a young woman have all sorts of problems that are best avoided. A confident guy wants a partner and confident gal wants a partner-you have to have enough in common so generally the same age works easier but there at exceptions. Keep going out and be happy and it will all come together.

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Colorado. Know several fit active guys in their fifties there, but not in DC.

You are full of crap. I live in Tysons, run a sub-8 min mile, and have 10% body fat. In my workout group of other 50+ men, I am one of the slowest and least fit.

My bet, you are sitting at home telling your five cats that all the fit active guys are somewhere else while you make your way through the last carton of ice cream.

You lie you lie you lie. There are no fit men in the D.C. area. Who are rich. Who have no kids. Who look sufficiently like Brad Pitt. Who are willing to work around OP's schedule. Who live close to OP. Who have a grand enough beach house.

I love this. You are so right.

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I would check your local Starbucks. The young lads who work as baristas are always nice

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Anonymous wrote:If you are woman look for an 70+
A man can look at the 35+

So let me throw some actual data on this. According to the Census, 90% of Americans are in a long term relationship with someone within 3 years of their age.

Another 5% within 5 years. About 1 percent are with people 10 or more years.

So....for most men, if you want a 35 year old, you need to be 38.

Oopsies!

(and if you are just talking flings, it's easier for a woman to find a quick hit than a man, every day of the week and twice on Sundays).

If you are a multi-millionaire, all this goes out the window.

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I (OP) am back and have good news to report: If you really do look younger than your age and are reasonably fit, the men will respond.

Having a blast on Tinder. It's morphed from just a hookup site to something with some variety. The men are good looking and fun.

I don't have to settle. (And neither do you.)

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Anonymous wrote:Thought this would make OP feel better. I am 50 year old woman. I guess you would call me pretty but I am in the process of losing weight-about 15-20 pounds to heavy but that is another story (trying to say I am not super perfect). In any event, I have been trying to dress better and doing my hair just for me though. I accidently hurt my hand working out and cannot wear my wedding rings for a few weeks. In any event, I have been asked out several times in the past week. Trust me I am not looking for it, happily married. The guys were all professionals etc and one very hot UPS guy that was young and that one I really laughed about. In any event, I think the guys are out there. I think people were asking me out because they thought I was available ie no ring but maybe I also came across as approachable and happy. Too often women get so stressed about finding someone that they lose their power. I saw the guy above's posting that he only wants young women. Intellectually we should all know that he is probably a jerk and best avoided. This doesn't mean that there are not great love stories of mixed ages. Sometimes love happens and there is an age difference but guys who say they only want a young woman have all sorts of problems that are best avoided. A confident guy wants a partner and confident gal wants a partner-you have to have enough in common so generally the same age works easier but there at exceptions. Keep going out and be happy and it will all come together.

Man in my 50s and this is exactly the kind of mix of upbeat good attitude and common sense I would look for in a partner. (Yes I know this poster is married). Looks certainly matter for me, I'm human, but I would take 15 pounds and some wrinkles in exchange for sanity/good cheer/wisdom any day of the week.