49 going on 39....help me find a date

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am you op. Just turned 50, divorced without bitterness. In my head I'm 30. I am convinced that we need to move West. Seattle, Denver, Portland and parts of California (not bimbo LA though). The District is a tough place for our mindset but the west and mountain states are crawling with mid-life but youthful, outdoorsy men with jobs and perspective.

Any luck yet? OP here, hoping 2018 is better.

I can tell you from experience, Seattle is full of three kinds of people
1) homeless
2) awkward Indian computer programmers
3) anarchists fighting against income inequality even though they are part of the 1%.

You'd have better luck in Denver.

[Anonymous]

Colorado. Know several fit active guys in their fifties there, but not in DC.

You are full of crap. I live in Tysons, run a sub-8 min mile, and have 10% body fat. In my workout group of other 50+ men, I am one of the slowest and least fit.

My bet, you are sitting at home telling your five cats that all the fit active guys are somewhere else while you make your way through the last carton of ice cream.

[Anonymous]

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Colorado. Know several fit active guys in their fifties there, but not in DC.

You are full of crap. I live in Tysons, run a sub-8 min mile, and have 10% body fat. In my workout group of other 50+ men, I am one of the slowest and least fit.

My bet, you are sitting at home telling your five cats that all the fit active guys are somewhere else while you make your way through the last carton of ice cream.

You lie you lie you lie. There are no fit men in the D.C. area. Who are rich. Who have no kids. Who look sufficiently like Brad Pitt. Who are willing to work around OP's schedule. Who live close to OP. Who have a grand enough beach house.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. My fairly attractive and extremely young acting ex wife has had no trouble getting frequent dates from men ranging from 32 to 50s. She’s young at heart and literally hangs out with women in their 20’s and 30’s (endearing until you realize it’s one dimensional and a little unstable).

Try Tinder and also befriending young single women to hang with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. My fairly attractive and extremely young acting ex wife has had no trouble getting frequent dates from men ranging from 32 to 50s. She’s young at heart and literally hangs out with women in their 20’s and 30’s (endearing until you realize it’s one dimensional and a little unstable).

Try Tinder and also befriending young single women to hang with.

Forgot to mention she’s 48. And comes with a nice dowry. Wish she would get remarried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Terrible advice. I have nothing in common with men 16 years older. I am not looking for younger men, just ones my own age who are equally active and fit.

Unfortunately they are probably looking at dates 10-15 yrs. younger, so it could be a while.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you look for it, it won't be there.

+1

When I stopped looking I found Mrs. Right. I did it just by doing the things I wanted to do in work and my personal life. There's no guarantee it will happen with that approach, but I think the odds are greater.

This advice always makes me laugh --- because PLENTY of people find their significant other when they are, in fact, looking.

Looking is one thing, but I think they're trying to say that it's easy to slide over toward desperate, which is never attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

I enjoyed your profile and am interested! I am 56, single, intelligent, healthy with lots of energy, serve as a senior manager in a federal agency, own my home near Ft. Belvoir...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

I enjoyed your profile and am interested! I am 56, single, intelligent, healthy with lots of energy, serve as a senior manager in a federal agency, own my home near Ft. Belvoir...

OP probably doesn't want a "near Ft. Belvoir" fed if she's looking for a city-dweller.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

I enjoyed your profile and am interested! I am 56, single, intelligent, healthy with lots of energy, serve as a senior manager in a federal agency, own my home near Ft. Belvoir...

OP probably doesn't want a "near Ft. Belvoir" fed if she's looking for a city-dweller.

Also you're 7 years older.

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Anonymous wrote:How can I meet people who are my age but youthful? Not religious. Not looking to get married again but would like long-term monogamous relationship with city-dwelling yet outdoorsy intellectual male. I am female.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Terrible advice. I have nothing in common with men 16 years older. I am not looking for younger men, just ones my own age who are equally active and fit.

50 year old guys with a little game want nothing to do with 50 year old women. You might be able to land a 60 year old beta from dc if you are lucky. If you want to go younger, he will probably be a slob.

Not true. Most 50 year old guys do not want more kids and are thrilled with women their age and most 35 year old women do and feeling desperate may go for an old guy and the ones who don’t do not want 50 year old men. Anyway my friends in their fifties are having better luck dating than my late thirties friends who have not yet found someone.

Nope, nope, nope. Guys in their 50s (like me) if they get divorced do NOT want women their age or even over 45. They just divorced that, FFS, they want younger and hotter. They are definitely going to start looking in the 30-40 age range. If they are like me - over 6' tall, very fit, highly educated, make good money - they can probably get a woman in her 30s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are woman look for an 70+
A man can look at the 35+

+1000

OP owns up to your age. Otherwise your 49 yo self will have to date your 39 yo superego. Have a party.

I'd love to know the age of the two people who posted this advice. I assume they were men.

Seriously recommending that a 49 year old woman looking for a fit, active guy shoot for a man 70 years old or more? Reading comprehension, folks. Also, Eva Longoria is 51. Think she should go for Harrison Ford? Seriously......

Eva Longoria is 42, not 51, and recently pregnant. DP here, and I think OP should look for someone in early to mid-fifties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Terrible advice. I have nothing in common with men 16 years older. I am not looking for younger men, just ones my own age who are equally active and fit.

50 year old guys with a little game want nothing to do with 50 year old women. You might be able to land a 60 year old beta from dc if you are lucky. If you want to go younger, he will probably be a slob.

Not true. Most 50 year old guys do not want more kids and are thrilled with women their age and most 35 year old women do and feeling desperate may go for an old guy and the ones who don’t do not want 50 year old men. Anyway my friends in their fifties are having better luck dating than my late thirties friends who have not yet found someone.

Nope, nope, nope. Guys in their 50s (like me) if they get divorced do NOT want women their age or even over 45. They just divorced that, FFS, they want younger and hotter. They are definitely going to start looking in the 30-40 age range. If they are like me - over 6' tall, very fit, highly educated, make good money - they can probably get a woman in her 30s.

Barf. Then your saggy 50-something body will get the early 30-somethin' gold digger. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

I can tell you from experience, Seattle is full of three kinds of people
1) homeless
2) awkward Indian computer programmers
3) anarchists fighting against income inequality even though they are part of the 1%.

Eh. Categories 1 and 3 are out for me, but I'm open to 2.