I can’t settle down.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why but I can’t seem to settle down. I love the feeling of being chased, and the rush of a new guy. I will really like a guy for a month or two, but then get a wandering eye when all the lust settles down. I love the newness of getting to know a guy, the sex, and the overall excitement. I’m not a cheater, but I tend to break things off because I get bored. I don’t want to be like this. I’m 28 and need to start settling down, but I just can’t. I don’t know how to remedy the situation.

[Anonymous]

Therapy

[Anonymous]

Why remedy it? Clearly none of these guys is a keeper yet so keep going.
Try to date a better class of guy and maybe your settle down instincts will kick in?

[Anonymous]

It's okay to be like that. But don't drag some unsuspecting guy into your drama.

Some people crave monogamy while others crave adventure. Know who you are and pursue life accordingly. Do not settle down; you'll be miserable, and you'll end up divorcing.

I know several men like you. They are serial daters. They like the chase and novelty. They married, had kids, cheated, and moved on. No more kids with the girlfriends/new wives...keeping their options open.

I know some women like you, and I feel sorry for their husbands. The women are the ones with the issues, yet they blame their husbands. Not fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why remedy it? Clearly none of these guys is a keeper yet so keep going.
Try to date a better class of guy and maybe your settle down instincts will kick in?

This.

Just because your friends are ready to settle, doesn’t mean you have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's okay to be like that. But don't drag some unsuspecting guy into your drama.

Some people crave monogamy while others crave adventure. Know who you are and pursue life accordingly. Do not settle down; you'll be miserable, and you'll end up divorcing.

I know several men like you. They are serial daters. They like the chase and novelty. They married, had kids, cheated, and moved on. No more kids with the girlfriends/new wives...keeping their options open.

I know some women like you, and I feel sorry for their husbands. The women are the ones with the issues, yet they blame their husbands. Not fair.

Do you feel sorry for the wives and kids of the serial dater men?

[Anonymous]

Why is this a problem? If I were to get divorced, I would be thrilled to be dating ans having sex with new guys whrn I wanted. Id never ever remarry or seriously settle down with someone. It is over rated.

[Anonymous]

28 is still young. Keep having fun and see how you feel in a few years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's okay to be like that. But don't drag some unsuspecting guy into your drama.

Some people crave monogamy while others crave adventure. Know who you are and pursue life accordingly. Do not settle down; you'll be miserable, and you'll end up divorcing.

I know several men like you. They are serial daters. They like the chase and novelty. They married, had kids, cheated, and moved on. No more kids with the girlfriends/new wives...keeping their options open.

I know some women like you, and I feel sorry for their husbands. The women are the ones with the issues, yet they blame their husbands. Not fair.

Do you feel sorry for the wives and kids of the serial dater men?

Yes and no.

The one guy I'm thinking of in particular came from a broken home with a serial cheater dad who had tons of girlfriends and wives. He was cut from the same cloth, and cheated on his high school sweetheart regularly. Nonetheless, she married him and they had kids. Everyone knew he wasn't capable of monogamy. She couldn't turn a blind eye any longer when he came down with mono...yep, he was dating a college student.

But generally speaking, yes I do feel sorry for anyone impacted by cheating. Cheating is wrong. And it sounds like the OP isn't equipped for long term monogamy. There's nothing wrong with that unless she tricks a guy into marriage.

[Anonymous]

As long as you are honest with they guys about not wanting an LTR or marriage I don't think there's anything to fix or change.

28 is young. I wasn't ready to settle down at 28 (I'm also a woman). By the time I reached my early 30's I felt differently but at 28 I definitely wasn't ready for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Oops-sorry for the typo-I meant "the guys"

[Anonymous]

You don't have to settle down at 28. Sure, plan for your future. Set yourself up with a home, a retirement and a plan for yourself alone. Be that kind of adult. But you don't have to include anyone in that plan until you are ready and sure. Be you. Be 28. Most of my friends didn't settle down until 35-40.

[Anonymous]

m'eh, you'll be plenty ready to settle down in another ten years.

Problem is, no one is going to settle for you then. In case you haven't noticed, there's not exactly crowds of men beating down church doors to wed 40-something party girls.

Go open any bridal magazine. How many of those brides to be are 40+?

None.

Enjoy the dick-parade now, while you're young and they want you. When it's over, I'd suggest going lesbian and finding a wife with some money. Grow old together. But die first, so the cats don't eat your eyeballs.

[Anonymous]

Haha could we ever imagine a man writing a post like this?? Can't stop dating women- what should I do??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha could we ever imagine a man writing a post like this?? Can't stop dating women- what should I do??

I think the difference is dating for a few months, knowing the other person wants to "settle down," and then pulling back as if it meant nothing. If OP is dating guys who communicate they want to settle down, then that sucks. If she is dating guys who know shw isn't ready ti settle down, then it is fine.