Do Men Have Honor?

[Anonymous]

Maybe this topi? belongs elsewhere, but I'm going to start it here. I am a man. I am frankly confused and frustrated by the Hollywood sex scandals. I don't understand them. What are these men thinking! Have they no honor? I would never, even in the worst state of mind, think of showing my genitals to anyone, much less a professional colleague. Have I and am I attracted to women in my workplaces? Of course. I'm a man. I'm not dead. But I have discipline, self control and honor.

If someone can explain it to me, please do. I just can't wrap my mind around it.

[Anonymous]

It appears as though many do not. At least any of those with a tiny bit of power and money. Sad!

[Anonymous]

I’m sure some do. It’s been awhile since I have encountered any.

[Anonymous]

I agree it's sickening.

[Anonymous]

The strangest part seems to be that in more than one field, the worst people rise to the top. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

I'm starting to think they dont.

[Anonymous]

Many men (Clinton, O'Reilly, Weinstein etc.) prefer power over honor. Other men like Spacey and Louis CK are sick.

[Anonymous]

There are 160,000 members of SAG (screen actors guild) and probably half are men. The majority are not like Weinstein and the like.

[Anonymous]

It's clearly not just Hollywood. Happens in politics, media, probably any field in which there are large power discrepancies. Obviously plenty of men have honor, but plenty don't. Many people embrace the idea that they're entitled to do whatever they can get away with. I'm glad we're in an era when people feel empowered to speak out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The strangest part seems to be that in more than one field, the worst people rise to the top. Why is that?

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This is the same as nerd guys who think that women dig jerks.

It's the opposite: the more power and success you have, the more you are able to let the horrible sides of you show and get away with it. Thankfully, with the internet and the ability to publicly shame people, there are finally consequences.

[Anonymous]

It just gets more exposure. There were 765 homicides in Chicago last year, and murderers tend to be men. That's just in one city, but the number of murderers in Chicago in one year vastly outnumbers the number of Hollywood actors/producers who are sexually harrassing. Just one makes better headlines than the other.

[Anonymous]

I think some of it is because people wind up powerful in fields where no one says "no" to them. It starts to become normal. There's so much money to be made by "the talent" that no one wants to rein them in, and since for some of them this is like being a kid in a candy store or they didn't come from functional backgrounds to begin with, they don't realize how whacked their behavior is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just gets more exposure. There were 765 homicides in Chicago last year, and murderers tend to be men. That's just in one city, but the number of murderers in Chicago in one year vastly outnumbers the number of Hollywood actors/producers who are sexually harrassing. Just one makes better headlines than the other.

That's a red herring. You sound like a grab em by pu$$y type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just gets more exposure. There were 765 homicides in Chicago last year, and murderers tend to be men. That's just in one city, but the number of murderers in Chicago in one year vastly outnumbers the number of Hollywood actors/producers who are sexually harrassing. Just one makes better headlines than the other.

Are you arguing murders have honor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just gets more exposure. There were 765 homicides in Chicago last year, and murderers tend to be men. That's just in one city, but the number of murderers in Chicago in one year vastly outnumbers the number of Hollywood actors/producers who are sexually harrassing. Just one makes better headlines than the other.

Are you arguing murders have honor?

No -- that murderers seem to be more widespread than these harrassing males, but one gets more coverage than the other, while the other results in more harm to the victim (comparatively).

Both are problems indeed, and it's great people are coming forward, but I just don't think this is such an epidemic compared to other societal problems.