Why so much negativity over dating a bi sexual guy?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a guy, 3 months in and he shared that he is bi sexual, but monogamous when in a relationship and currently devoted to our relationship fully. We've both been tested, shared results before we ever had sex.

Everyone I have talked to says this is a disaster waiting to happen.

Why?

Can't a bi sexual guy settle down and be in a monogamous relationship, get married, have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating a guy, 3 months in and he shared that he is bi sexual, but monogamous when in a relationship and currently devoted to our relationship fully. We've both been tested, shared results before we ever had sex.

Everyone I have talked to says this is a disaster waiting to happen.

Why?

Can't a bi sexual guy settle down and be in a monogamous relationship, get married, have kids?

Why don't you try it and then get back to us? Personally, I wouldn't trust a guy who says he is bi. Sure, he could cheat on me with a woman but, a guy's night out could always turn into something more....

[Anonymous]

Why are you telling everyone you bf's sexual orientation?

[Anonymous]

Because a lot of people think it's an interim step on the way to coming out as gay. Not saying that's true, but it's a common thought.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you are telling a lot of people seems to indicate that you are not comfortable with it. And are trying to get validation.

[Anonymous]

Without getting explicit, are you comfortable... fulfilling that need for him?

[Anonymous]

Of course bi guys can be monogamous and get married and have kids.

I don't date guys because of the associated STI/STD risks and me being female makes me more susceptible to the impact of STD/STIs

Bottom line your sex life is your business and mature people don't go to friends for approval.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question, I would be concerned that he would be more likely to feel unfulfilled by having to choose just one gender for the rest of his life if he wants both. And I'd also not like the idea of being with a man who enjoys having sex with men.

[Anonymous]

Guys are not bisexual. If he says he is bisexual then he is gay but not fully ready to accept it yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys are not bisexual. If he says he is bisexual then he is gay but not fully ready to accept it yet

Agree. I know two women who were married to bi-sexuals, so they claimed, and both men left marriage for another man. You are wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

He has had a penis in his mouth and ass. RUN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys are not bisexual. If he says he is bisexual then he is gay but not fully ready to accept it yet

Agree. I know two women who were married to bi-sexuals, so they claimed, and both men left marriage for another man. You are wasting your time.

Also agree - knew someone from college who married someone everyone but her thought was gay and it turns out everyone but her was right and the marriage didn't last 18 months.

I may get flamed for this but remember monogamy and honoring monogamy are not really valued in the gay community in the same manner that they are in the heterosexual community so if this guy is actually bi-sexual (which I think is a fiction) he is going to have more opportunities to cheat than a straight guy would but me more likely to keep quiet about it back in the heterosexual community which could put your health at risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys are not bisexual. If he says he is bisexual then he is gay but not fully ready to accept it yet

I may get flamed for this but remember monogamy and honoring monogamy are not really valued in the gay community in the same manner that they are in the heterosexual community so if this guy is actually bi-sexual (which I think is a fiction) he is going to have more opportunities to cheat than a straight guy would but me more likely to keep quiet about it back in the heterosexual community which could put your health at risk.

You’ll get flamed because it is total horseshit. Straight people have FWB, date around, cheat etc. so do gay people. Relationships are fraught and you just have to decide if you can trust your partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys are not bisexual. If he says he is bisexual then he is gay but not fully ready to accept it yet

I may get flamed for this but remember monogamy and honoring monogamy are not really valued in the gay community in the same manner that they are in the heterosexual community so if this guy is actually bi-sexual (which I think is a fiction) he is going to have more opportunities to cheat than a straight guy would but me more likely to keep quiet about it back in the heterosexual community which could put your health at risk.

You’ll get flamed because it is total horseshit. Straight people have FWB, date around, cheat etc. so do gay people. Relationships are fraught and you just have to decide if you can trust your partner.

It is a generalization which of course makes it imperfect but it is closer to the truth than it is to being horseshit.

[Anonymous]

same reason why people in the 1950s and 1960s said inter-racial marriage was a bad thing, or why certain groups even today have similar outlandish thoughts about homosexuals, and the broader LGBTQ community.

People are ignorant - not necessarily evil or malicious, but ignorant.