Anyone else been a one night stand?

[Anonymous]

I'm 56 and divorced and dateless for the past two years. Last Thursday I was at a charity event and met a very nice man and we really hit it off. My friends whom I had ridden with were leaving early and he offered to give me a ride home. On a whim I invited him in and one thing led to another and then to another. I was definitely the initiator which is not normal for me but after a few years of no sex I was really ready. The sex was wonderful and I know he was very happy! The next day we exchanged brief texts but since then nothing! For a couple of days I was upset until I realized that I was a one night stand and it was my fault but at the same time I had really enjoyed it. Live and learn!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 56 and divorced and dateless for the past two years. Last Thursday I was at a charity event and met a very nice man and we really hit it off. My friends whom I had ridden with were leaving early and he offered to give me a ride home. On a whim I invited him in and one thing led to another and then to another. I was definitely the initiator which is not normal for me but after a few years of no sex I was really ready. The sex was wonderful and I know he was very happy! The next day we exchanged brief texts but since then nothing! For a couple of days I was upset until I realized that I was a one night stand and it was my fault but at the same time I had really enjoyed it. Live and learn!

Not since college. But, you enjoyed it, I wouldn't fret. You've still got it!!!

[Anonymous]

Dang, I need to sign up for charity events.

[Anonymous]

Good for you. Sounds awesome. Just take it for what it was and enjoy the memory!

[Anonymous]

Don’t look at it as being used. You weren’t a one night stand. You had a one night stand. And yes, I’ve had my share. Sometimes a lady just needs to get laid.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I'm not trash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t look at it as being used. You weren’t a one night stand. You had a one night stand. And yes, I’ve had my share. Sometimes a lady just needs to get laid.

What PP said. Re-cast the experience. You had agency, you made your fun. You were a protagonist. No need to fret about it. I've also had my share and turned down plenty when I didn't feel like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I'm not trash

Actually, it sounds like you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I'm not trash

and you're probably not fun either

[Anonymous]

Many of us have done this at some point or another, often without realizing it. If you enjoyed it and you were safe and nobody was married, I don't see the harm in it.

[Anonymous]

He might be thinking the same thing! Who sent the last text? If I were you I wouldn't worry about it. You were the initiator and got what you wanted and it sounds like you had an overall fun evening so just chalk it up to a new life experience.

[Anonymous]

Why would you characterize this as "being" a one night stand vs "having" a one night stand? I haven't done it since college but I never considered it something that "happened to" me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 56 and divorced and dateless for the past two years. Last Thursday I was at a charity event and met a very nice man and we really hit it off. My friends whom I had ridden with were leaving early and he offered to give me a ride home. On a whim I invited him in and one thing led to another and then to another. I was definitely the initiator which is not normal for me but after a few years of no sex I was really ready. The sex was wonderful and I know he was very happy! The next day we exchanged brief texts but since then nothing! For a couple of days I was upset until I realized that I was a one night stand and it was my fault but at the same time I had really enjoyed it. Live and learn!

I'm definitely going to DC Fight Night next year!!!

Hey, OP, you need to think about it this way: (1) you enjoyed the sex and undoubtedly the experience got you back in the game; (2) realize that you still got game and you're still very attractive to pull in a guy you just met.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me a couple of years ago when I was 47. I had never had a one night stand before and certainly didn't expect it to be one but it was. I was initially upset with the guy, then with myself and then simply realized it was a fun night with great sex. It's not something I plan on repeating but you never know....

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have and it left me feeling bad for a while. I was at a strip club and the stripper really liked me (this sounds so cliche). She asked for my number and if she could come over and hang out on her way home. I had been divorced and dateless for a few months and she was extremely hot so I gave her my number. Honestly, I expected to never hear from her again. She called me on her way home and came over. Of course I used protection but she got on top and pretty much rode my bed off of its rockers.

Afterwords we talked and I mentioned that I was divorced (because of wife's affair) and she mentioned that she was split and in the process of divorce. I felt terrible for sleeping with someone who was still married. She wanted to hang out again but I couldn't do it.