Just Friendly or interested?

[Anonymous]

I ran into a mom of one of my daughter’s elementary school friends... I had not seen her for at least a year.. She was friendly before.. But she started texting me a couple days after seeing her. She was very friendly... and responsive as we exchanged text. Yes we are both married.

Is she just friendly or interested? I wish that there was an easy less risky way to find out. Would inviting her to lunch be too bold/risky?

[Anonymous]

Assume she's just friendly and go on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assume she's just friendly and go on with your life.

I agree... but it seems very tempting.

[Anonymous]

Why would you have lunch?

What do you want?

[Anonymous]

Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you have lunch?

What do you want?

What every man wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you have lunch?

What do you want?

What every man wants.

To embarrass his children, wreck his life, and end up divorced and alone at the end of his days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

More friendly with me than my wife... but that happens a lot. The text were not sexual... just kids and other stuff. We had no prior relationship.. but she was always friendly and seemed interested. Some possible invitations that I let go by me..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you have lunch?

What do you want?

What every man wants.

To embarrass his children, wreck his life, and end up divorced and alone at the end of his days?

They don't "want" that but that is often the result of pursuing what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

More friendly with me than my wife... but that happens a lot. The text were not sexual... just kids and other stuff. We had no prior relationship.. but she was always friendly and seemed interested. Some possible invitations that I let go by me..

That's extremely unlikely, OP. Just keep thinking that it's nice that someone is friendly to you besides your wife and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you have lunch?

What do you want?

What every man wants.

To embarrass his children, wreck his life, and end up divorced and alone at the end of his days?

I am more interested in seeing if I reading this correctly. It would be fun if we were not married, but for now I find it interesting. Based on the scenario... how would you verify the interest.

I have been pursued before... and didn’t take them up on the “offer”... but this situation is different. Her husband is a very nice guy... And I would not want to be the other guy... And the odd thing is that they seem like a good couple..

So yes you could falsely assume that I am only after one thing.. I am just wondering how to safely verify her intentions based on the scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

More friendly with me than my wife... but that happens a lot. The text were not sexual... just kids and other stuff. We had no prior relationship.. but she was always friendly and seemed interested. Some possible invitations that I let go by me..

Not that I'm advocating you pursue it but lunch could be skipping a step. Sounds like the text exchange has stopped. If you want to find out, find an excuse to start it back up and see if the exchange moves off generalities like kids. Look for an opportunity to throw in a subtle innuendo or make a playful accusation 'are you trying to get me in trouble '. Where the conversation goes from there should tell you. If she continues to get playful, she might be open to it. If she takes you literally and apologizes, it's just an overly friendly personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

More friendly with me than my wife... but that happens a lot. The text were not sexual... just kids and other stuff. We had no prior relationship.. but she was always friendly and seemed interested. Some possible invitations that I let go by me..

Not that I'm advocating you pursue it but lunch could be skipping a step. Sounds like the text exchange has stopped. If you want to find out, find an excuse to start it back up and see if the exchange moves off generalities like kids. Look for an opportunity to throw in a subtle innuendo or make a playful accusation 'are you trying to get me in trouble '. Where the conversation goes from there should tell you. If she continues to get playful, she might be open to it. If she takes you literally and apologizes, it's just an overly friendly personality.

She just started it back up... And yes.. she is very interesting, intelligent and attractive... and could be someone that I would date IF we both didn’t already have spouses..

I thought about your approach but I would prefer to do that in person to read their reaction.

It could be that she just needs to communicate with a adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Need more info about the content of the texts and the prior relationship (how close were you? Was she friendly with your wife, etc)

More friendly with me than my wife... but that happens a lot. The text were not sexual... just kids and other stuff. We had no prior relationship.. but she was always friendly and seemed interested. Some possible invitations that I let go by me..

Not that I'm advocating you pursue it but lunch could be skipping a step. Sounds like the text exchange has stopped. If you want to find out, find an excuse to start it back up and see if the exchange moves off generalities like kids. Look for an opportunity to throw in a subtle innuendo or make a playful accusation 'are you trying to get me in trouble '. Where the conversation goes from there should tell you. If she continues to get playful, she might be open to it. If she takes you literally and apologizes, it's just an overly friendly personality.

this ^ is perfect and by the way, it works

[Anonymous]

I think there is a good chance you are reading too much into this. Seems like she is just being friendly.