Getting the cold shoulder since giving my notice.

[Anonymous]

My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

[Anonymous]

They, in part, treat people this way to discourage others from looking. It's too bad their human side can't shine through. Or they may be afraid your joy, your momentum, that comes with anticipating a job change is harmful to moral. It probably is. I think generally you're being too sensitive. They are the ones that have to carry on. Look for touchy-feely elsewhere. A true friend or two from that office may have more latitude to express, share your joy when a new normal (without your) is further established.

[Anonymous]

This always happens. People stop investing in you once you've given notice. It's not a big deal, really. And it's odd that you had your current boss as a reference.

[Anonymous]

Some of the people treating you differently probably wish that they were also leaving for a new job.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on your new job! If they are acting that way then good riddance. That side of them was eventually going to come out anyway.
They will eventually get over it. They are probably jealous that they didn't get out first.

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the people treating you differently probably wish that they were also leaving for a new job.

I said the same thing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This always happens. People stop investing in you once you've given notice. It's not a big deal, really. And it's odd that you had your current boss as a reference.

Yes, this is odd. Why aren't people pushing back on this? It's kind of ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

I'd be pissed too if you left after only 11 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

I'd be pissed too if you left after only 11 months.

np. same. i've helped a few junior/mid-level people find jobs (these are jobs that they found and wanted!) in the past couple years, and more often than not they leave too soon. i'm not inclined to help them again, especially if it was for a 10k raise.

[Anonymous]

You sound a bit clueless. You should be focused on the fact that this manager was willing to be a reference TWICE.

You should profusely thank her/him, do everything you can to leave a smooth transition after your departure and try to return the favor down the road.

[Anonymous]

In my office, we would escort you to the door as soon as you gave notice, so you would never even see the cold shoulder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my office, we would escort you to the door as soon as you gave notice, so you would never even see the cold shoulder.

That's the way to do it. The two week notice thing is BS. It's nice if you have some things to wrap up and maybe do a transition, but I don't want people hanging around telling everyone else about how happy they are to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

I'd be pissed too if you left after only 11 months.

+1. I'd be more than pissed. And OP has balls to complaint about her coworkers/boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

I'd be pissed too if you left after only 11 months.

+1. I'd be more than pissed. And OP has balls to complaint about her coworkers/boss.

OP sounds like a Millennial snowflake. I'm waiting for this to become 'bullying'.

[Anonymous]

Eh, I don't think it's the cold shoulder. It's just, as a PP mentioned, they don't have the bandwidth to invest in you anymore. Don't take it personally; they're just doing a job.