Getting the cold shoulder since giving my notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound a bit clueless. You should be focused on the fact that this manager was willing to be a reference TWICE.

You should profusely thank her/him, do everything you can to leave a smooth transition after your departure and try to return the favor down the road.

+1.

[Anonymous]

You've been there 11 months and a lot of time and money has been spent training you and now they have to go through this again. Of course they are miffed. I suspect that you change jobs often.

[Anonymous]

Just ignore it. I just gave notice and my friends have been exactly the same, but the other people have just been not as chatty. I don't care - leaving soon anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've been there 11 months and a lot of time and money has been spent training you and now they have to go through this again. Of course they are miffed. I suspect that you change jobs often.

+1.

You knew the commute, location, salary, travel requirements, etc. when you accepted the job. 11 months really too soon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

I'd be pissed too if you left after only 11 months.

+1. I'd be more than pissed. And OP has balls to complaint about her coworkers/boss.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Could you share why on earth you used your CURRENT boss as a reference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound a bit clueless. You should be focused on the fact that this manager was willing to be a reference TWICE.

You should profusely thank her/him, do everything you can to leave a smooth transition after your departure and try to return the favor down the road.

+1.

Exactly! OP, you are ridiculous. On top of that, all these people are going to have to do your job until a replacement is hired and trained so, yeah, I don't care how much I liked you before, you just screwed me for at least the next month so I'm not going to be all happy and giddy for you. Get real!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound a bit clueless. You should be focused on the fact that this manager was willing to be a reference TWICE.

You should profusely thank her/him, do everything you can to leave a smooth transition after your departure and try to return the favor down the road.

+1.

Exactly! OP, you are ridiculous. On top of that, all these people are going to have to do your job until a replacement is hired and trained so, yeah, I don't care how much I liked you before, you just screwed me for at least the next month so I'm not going to be all happy and giddy for you. Get real!

+100. OP -- I hope you meant this as a troll post, because I can't believe you'd be so ungrateful to your boss. He/She is an incredibly kind person to give you a good reference twice if you've only been there for 11 months!

[Anonymous]

yeah, from their perspective, they invested in you and you bailed after less than a year. that doesn't mean you did anything wrong - i'd make the same decision! but you can't expect them not to be frustrated.

[Anonymous]

also, my office tends to do this to anyone who stays less than 3 years. less than a year would mean someone never seriously intended to work here. it may not be fair in particular instances and i try not to support it. but, it is a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound a bit clueless. You should be focused on the fact that this manager was willing to be a reference TWICE.

You should profusely thank her/him, do everything you can to leave a smooth transition after your departure and try to return the favor down the road.

+1.

Exactly! OP, you are ridiculous. On top of that, all these people are going to have to do your job until a replacement is hired and trained so, yeah, I don't care how much I liked you before, you just screwed me for at least the next month so I'm not going to be all happy and giddy for you. Get real!

This +100
I bet you’re 26, OP. You’re leaving everyone worse off AND you’re expecting some kind of special parade in your honor. Try having an ounce of empathy & humility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employer knew I was looking for a new job, as he recently provided a reference for me for a new position. I didn't end up taking the job due to hiring delays at the company.

I was unexpectedly called back for a gov't job I applied to a long-time ago, they asked for a reference from my current boss (which he gave). They gave me a job offer the same day he provided the reference.

I gave him my notice and I got a very curt response from him. Since then, my co-workers have basically been giving me the cold shoulder. My office manager ignored me completely yesterday, usually we at least say hello or goodbye. I know my boss probably feels a bit jilted, since I've only been at the company 11 months and he basically helped me get a new job. But the new job is a 10K raise and eliminates my commute (the office is 5 minutes down the road from my house). I'm currently commuting 1hr/day and driving up to 500 miles on the job each month.

Needless to say, i'm glad to be leaving that environment if this is how they treat departing staff.

Congratulations! Good for you! People are jealous jerks when you leave a job to pursue a better opportunity,especially for a gov't job. The only time I have known people to be friendly was when a person was leaving was having a baby and relocate for spouse's job or retiring (but not if a person retired at 55). Enjoy your new life & don't look back. (btw don't be surprised if some of these jerks don't ask for your help to get a fed job, in the future.) Oh, I'm late 50's, seen this jealousy many, many times

[Anonymous]

okay, first off, unless you're on a time limited fellowship or something, the fact that you were looking less than a year in is not something to publicize at your workplace. Get recommendations from outside! Or at the very least, give your boss's reference ONLY after you're basically getting an offer.

In all job situations, I have provided references outside of my current workplace and said that I would provide that reference if needed, only if an offer was forthcoming (hinging on reference) and if I wanted the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you share why on earth you used your CURRENT boss as a reference?

Not OP - total guess: because this is her first "real" job and there's no one else to give

[Anonymous]

You are dead to them.