Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

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Anonymous wrote:We need all female resorts along with all female Ubers. With background checks.

Men are horrible!

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

The traditional American college experience is the problem.

Not everyone participates in the "traditional" American college experience. Have you heard of Alternative Spring Break programs?

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

How do you come to that thinking? YOU don't know what happened, do you??

Wait - weren’t all five girls drinking the alcohol that night?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

The traditional American college experience is the problem.

Not everyone participates in the "traditional" American college experience. Have you heard of Alternative Spring Break programs?

NP.

The LDS sponsors a number of these types of programs every Spring, in many different locations.

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

How do you come to that thinking? YOU don't know what happened, do you??

NP. I consider staying up all night, getting very drunk, hanging out with a strange man alone, and swimming in the ocean at dark making the choice to be a little wild. You don't think so? I didn't do any of those things in college. Not because I was a superior person, just because I was never bold enough to take those kinds of risks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need all female resorts along with all female Ubers. With background checks.

Given a choice, I would choose the bear every time.

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

How do you come to that thinking? YOU don't know what happened, do you??

Wait - weren’t all five girls drinking the alcohol that night?

Yes, but only one chose to stay behind with a stranger and swim in the ocean when it was dark. It was an unfortunate choice. She probably didn't want the fun night to end, and wasn't with a sober person who might have helped her in a dangerous situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We need all female resorts along with all female Ubers. With background checks.

Men are horrible!

Somebody could make a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

He was named to put pressure on him. If he harmed her I hope he confesses. Curious if he has a history of VAWG, even if in sealed juvenile records?

https://people.com/person-of-interest-named-search-missing-college-student-vanished-early-morning-beach-walk-police-11695281

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

How do you come to that thinking? YOU don't know what happened, do you??

NP. I consider staying up all night, getting very drunk, hanging out with a strange man alone, and swimming in the ocean at dark making the choice to be a little wild. You don't think so? I didn't do any of those things in college. Not because I was a superior person, just because I was never bold enough to take those kinds of risks.

This is wild behavior. Even if just letting loose for the moment. And it’s so unfair and sad there was a tragic outcome. Most of us on this board have done something similar at that age and are lucky we survived. The most plausible scenario is that she drowned. I do understand her parents continuing to search…we’d all do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Teach your kids not to go to a third world county country for spring break and get wasted go swimming.

The problem is that's not really teachable. You can do you best to instruct a kid about a variety of risks but college students are naive, inexperienced, and impulsive. They rarely know how much alcohol they can handle and can make terrible decisions when under the influence and cognitively impaired. No matter what they've been told.

This is why I let my kids date. They learn who they are by realizing their differences with others. And they will make better decisions about their eventual partner.
(Note: they broke up with their firsts in high school because, surprise surprise, that person & relationship was way different than they thought.)

I let my kids have light alcohol occasionally while dining. 18 year olds are allowed to drink in other countries (16 for light alcohol in some) and they need to be socialized to how to enjoy it responsibly while abroad. I know they have friends who are all giddy about drinking because they are not allowed to have it at all, but at least my kids understand their tolerance levels when in such party environments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was named to put pressure on him. If he harmed her I hope he confesses. Curious if he has a history of VAWG, even if in sealed juvenile records?

https://people.com/person-of-interest-named-search-missing-college-student-vanished-early-morning-beach-walk-police-11695281

I'm sure there will be a deep dive into his background. Probably just a drunken idiot, but I guess time will tell.

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Anonymous wrote:He was named to put pressure on him. If he harmed her I hope he confesses. Curious if he has a history of VAWG, even if in sealed juvenile records?

https://people.com/person-of-interest-named-search-missing-college-student-vanished-early-morning-beach-walk-police-11695281

Dumbest thing that guy did that night was allow himself to be alone with a drunk girl.

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Anonymous wrote:Teach your kids not to go to a third world county country for spring break and get wasted go swimming.

The problem is that's not really teachable. You can do you best to instruct a kid about a variety of risks but college students are naive, inexperienced, and impulsive. They rarely know how much alcohol they can handle and can make terrible decisions when under the influence and cognitively impaired. No matter what they've been told.

This is why I let my kids date. They learn who they are by realizing their differences with others. And they will make better decisions about their eventual partner.
(Note: they broke up with their firsts in high school because, surprise surprise, that person & relationship was way different than they thought.)

I let my kids have light alcohol occasionally while dining. 18 year olds are allowed to drink in other countries (16 for light alcohol in some) and they need to be socialized to how to enjoy it responsibly while abroad. I know they have friends who are all giddy about drinking because they are not allowed to have it at all, but at least my kids understand their tolerance levels when in such party environments.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:This all seems strange. Everyone went on day trip but her? There is a lot missing. I also am now understanding the problems with the power outage at hotel. Power just went on around 3 am that morning. The power had been off for 24 hours so more people were not in their rooms because no AC. It also could have allowed someone to sneak in resort because it was dark. There will be so many theories to run down. I am holding out hope that she was kidnapped and maybe could still be alive.

She was not kidnapped. Only two scenarios here. She drowned or the gringo did something to her.

To her parents, she is more of an innocent, virtuous, pure, sweet victim if she was kidnapped into international human trafficking.

That scenario is more pleasant than:

- she got wasted out of her mind and possibly wanted to get laid, like the popular resort cocktail “s*x on the beach” - all of which would have been “dumb” decisions their “brilliant” daughter surely could not have made.

Yes, cognitive dissonance for them because they have entrenched cultural and generational views about their "perfect" daughter. I felt her dad's anguish when he said she was a "good girl." No doubt she was. But of course she was human, too, and a sexual being who wanted to desire and feel desired. And young, enjoying a brief space of freedom from the hard academic work she's been focused on as long as she can remember. I feel so sorry for her, wanting to be carefree and even a little wild, with such a tragic outcome. I agree with a PP this could have been any of our kids and we should all be feeling very grateful they're safe right now.

How do you come to that thinking? YOU don't know what happened, do you??

NP. I consider staying up all night, getting very drunk, hanging out with a strange man alone, and swimming in the ocean at dark making the choice to be a little wild. You don't think so? I didn't do any of those things in college. Not because I was a superior person, just because I was never bold enough to take those kinds of risks.

This is wild behavior. Even if just letting loose for the moment. And it’s so unfair and sad there was a tragic outcome. Most of us on this board have done something similar at that age and are lucky we survived. The most plausible scenario is that she drowned. I do understand her parents continuing to search…we’d all do the same.

“OJ spent the rest of his life searching for the real killer, but never found him”