Sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

Husbands If you rarely gave sex with your wife, why not? Do you think it can be fixed?

[Anonymous]

Coming from a guy that could have sex every night with my wife, I always find it hard to believe that there are guys out there that have that low of a sex drive. I've worked in a all male occupation all my life with easily 200 different guys. I would say 5% have little or no interest in the opposite sex even though there not gay. All are married with kids.

I'm guessing there's little that can change a guys sexual desire, not unlike a females.

[Anonymous]

Because she rarely wants to have sex with me. If it can be fixed, she'll have to be part of the solution. Anything I've tried solely on my end has been ineffective.

[Anonymous]

Not a guy, but I've had 2 partners with little/no interest in sex. It was due to combination of severe depression/excessive porn use/addiction/various other mental problems. Probably low T for one of them.

Neither were willing to try to fix things until I had checked out of the relationship and was actively trying to attract other men. Too late by then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coming from a guy that could have sex every night with my wife, I always find it hard to believe that there are guys out there that have that low of a sex drive. I've worked in a all male occupation all my life with easily 200 different guys. I would say 5% have little or no interest in the opposite sex even though there not gay. All are married with kids.

I'm guessing there's little that can change a guys sexual desire, not unlike a females.

My husband is just more into TV and drinking. Even when we were dating, the sex was never spectacular or long. Even then, it was 3X a week. By the time we got married, I was complaining that he only wanted it every five days or so. Twenty years later, he still wants it only every five days or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coming from a guy that could have sex every night with my wife, I always find it hard to believe that there are guys out there that have that low of a sex drive. I've worked in a all male occupation all my life with easily 200 different guys. I would say 5% have little or no interest in the opposite sex even though there not gay. All are married with kids.

I'm guessing there's little that can change a guys sexual desire, not unlike a females.

We used to have sex all the time when dating. Our marriage has been rocky and sexless however.

[Anonymous]

As a DW in the same situation, I will be following this thread with much interest.

[Anonymous]

She has put on a ton of weight and it's hard for me to get excited about having sex with her. We've talked about it a lot but she just doesn't seem to care. She will say I'm still the same person you married. Well in my eyes she isn't. Over time we all put on some pounds but she outweighs me. I'm not one to cheat but I'm nearing the end of my rope. My daughter leaves for college next year and I will probably follow her out the door.

[Anonymous]

A lot of it has to do with consistently being rejected, when it happens tons of conditions(only do it this one way, do not touch this, etc), the okay lets get this over with attitude, the person being bad in bed, etc, etc. How many times would you want to have sex with someone like that? After a while you just do not think of that person as someone who you want to have sex with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of it has to do with consistently being rejected, when it happens tons of conditions(only do it this one way, do not touch this, etc), the okay lets get this over with attitude, the person being bad in bed, etc, etc. How many times would you want to have sex with someone like that? After a while you just do not think of that person as someone who you want to have sex with.

I understand this, sure. But for those of us where that's never been the case, thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I guess it depends if it's always been that way, or is it a new thing? I think a lot of guys get pushed to the side when children come and are told to "just deal with it. Years later when the Wife wants it, they expect the man to just turn it back on, sorry ladies, its your turn to "just del with it"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because she rarely wants to have sex with me. If it can be fixed, she'll have to be part of the solution. Anything I've tried solely on my end has been ineffective.

+100.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because she rarely wants to have sex with me. If it can be fixed, she'll have to be part of the solution. Anything I've tried solely on my end has been ineffective.

You haven’t tried everything. Your wife has decided that sex isn’t important to her. Inform her it is to you. If she’s not interested, seek assistance outside the marriage. She doesn’t have to know. If she finds out, well then she should realize why you did what you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because she rarely wants to have sex with me. If it can be fixed, she'll have to be part of the solution. Anything I've tried solely on my end has been ineffective.

You haven’t tried everything. Your wife has decided that sex isn’t important to her. Inform her it is to you. If she’s not interested, seek assistance outside the marriage. She doesn’t have to know. If she finds out, well then she should realize why you did what you did.

Not going to happen. I'm sexually frustrated, but at least I have my honor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because she rarely wants to have sex with me. If it can be fixed, she'll have to be part of the solution. Anything I've tried solely on my end has been ineffective.

You haven’t tried everything. Your wife has decided that sex isn’t important to her. Inform her it is to you. If she’s not interested, seek assistance outside the marriage. She doesn’t have to know. If she finds out, well then she should realize why you did what you did.

I have told my wife sex is important to me. That doesn't seem to matter to her.