Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

For the influencer/narcissist I know, and the couple others I know who aren’t nearly as successful as the one, it definitely attracts these people.

We’ve been friend as far back as pre influencer times and my one friend always thought she had the market cornered on cleverness and that everyone was clamoring to hear what she had to say. She is charismatic and magnetic, but it’s superficial. She also blows through friendships at an impressive rate (once they can;’t help her climb to the next level and/or see through the grift).

She’s a MLM health coach, because of course, and has hit it big and then just fallen all over herself using that success to now sell her coaching and speaking and on and on.

I’d love to link her handles on here so you guys could go see it first hand…pearls of wisdom on her feed such as “a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life” in a pretty font with her signature at the bottom. At 45 years old to think that you have that insights like that to offer the world is pretty epic.

But the other couple wanna be’s I know are the same. It seems the magic combo is:
Mildly engaging personality/insecure/narcissist on some level/no real life skills or job training or credentials or degrees or anything real. Pretty faces, hats, good fashion sense, an overwhelming sense that what you have to say hasn’t ever been said before and everyone needs to know the pearl of wisdom you had while looking at the sunset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the influencer/narcissist I know, and the couple others I know who aren’t nearly as successful as the one, it definitely attracts these people.

We’ve been friend as far back as pre influencer times and my one friend always thought she had the market cornered on cleverness and that everyone was clamoring to hear what she had to say. She is charismatic and magnetic, but it’s superficial. She also blows through friendships at an impressive rate (once they can;’t help her climb to the next level and/or see through the grift).

She’s a MLM health coach, because of course, and has hit it big and then just fallen all over herself using that success to now sell her coaching and speaking and on and on.

I’d love to link her handles on here so you guys could go see it first hand…pearls of wisdom on her feed such as “a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life” in a pretty font with her signature at the bottom. At 45 years old to think that you have that insights like that to offer the world is pretty epic.

But the other couple wanna be’s I know are the same. It seems the magic combo is:
Mildly engaging personality/insecure/narcissist on some level/no real life skills or job training or credentials or degrees or anything real. Pretty faces, hats, good fashion sense, an overwhelming sense that what you have to say hasn’t ever been said before and everyone needs to know the pearl of wisdom you had while looking at the sunset.

Combined with a secret but deep insecutiry and knowledge that they are poseurs and fakes and imposters and that their "empires" are built on sad. Could you imagine living under that strain day in and day out?

[Anonymous]

Yes, dooce completed suicide : (

[Anonymous]

Jen’s leather knee high boots and short skirt-dress combo was a total fashion catastrophe.

I can’t imagine the thoughts that arrived at that place. I can’t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most adults in America period cope with alcohol or drugs (weed, coke, psychedelics, ketamine, etc.). Very few holistically healthy adults exist. And then the position corrupts. You cannot remain healthy by putting on an act nearly every day for the world to cruelly attack. No amount of positive praise can completely drown out the scathing critiques that all influencers deal with.


Some celebrities can cope by ignoring the public outside of work but for influencers, your whole life is work.

Bullshit. If this is your reality, find a healthier social circle. I mean this sincerely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if anyone in the history of these people have ever turned something down because it actually conflicted with their values. Imagine Brandon saying, Nah, I don't think I should write a book about Christianity because I'm not feeling it now. Or Jen saying no to writing a book about less consumption because she buys cheap, plastic garbage without a care in the world. Or Glennon saying no to writing a book about marriage because she's about to get a divorce. Or Dave saying no to writing a leadership book because he's a drug addict and not the leader he claims to be. These people are truly incapable of any self-awareness and seeing how their lives are completely incompatible with the garbage philosophies they're pushing.

Do you think Glennon intentionally wrote a book about marriage knowing she was gay? Sometimes Glennon can be a bit much for me but I believe it was something she figured out either during or after writing the book. If you know much about her story, it actually makes sense that she was gay and didn't know it. I say this as a lesbian who didn't come out until I was 30 years old.

Glennon is a class A narcissist. Don't compare herself with her. Please.

[Anonymous]

I posted on a bash Remy post and was subsequently blocked. I said "Oh look. Another post bashing Remy." Maybe the cake one?

This means that Jen is fully aware that others think her Remy posts are cruel and she doesn't give a shitTTE.

I CANNOT IMAGINE posting like this re my teenage daughters. It would cause irreparable harm. Hell, if my mom posted about me this way it would crush me and I'm in my 40s!!

I love my girls so much and their mental health is always the forefront of my mind. I cannot imagine hurting them this way. This is THE hardest time in history to be a teenage girl - and yes I'm well aware of history, I was a medieval history major. I stand by my statement.

Social media/phones were bad bad bad, then lockdown fED them up royally. 30% of our girls have considered suicide. If you have three daughters, at least one of them will probably attempt. You hear that?!?!? It no longer matters if you are a great mom who married a great dad. The pressures they face OUTSIDE the home are so Fking toxic.

All this to say: Jen knows, has been told, that she is hurting Remy. SHE KNOWS. She's wounding her daughter emotionally and spiritually BECAUSE IT GENERATES LIKES.

SHE DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT.

Ie, SHE IS A FING MONSTER.

[Anonymous]

I know Jen. I know Brandon. I went to ANC. I’m furious.

AMA.

[Anonymous]

Why are you furious?

[Anonymous]

Because of how she treats Remy and how she blocks people who point it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if anyone in the history of these people have ever turned something down because it actually conflicted with their values…,These people are truly incapable of any self-awareness and seeing how their lives are completely incompatible with the garbage philosophies they're pushing.

Disagree. Normal people DO turn things down if it would cause them to devote so much energy to being a hypocrite.

The addictions and overdoses/suicides prove that deep down they are fully self-aware that they are frauds. They fake it for the paycheck. But in their darker lonely hours, when their spouses/children/siblings/best friends exasperatedly scream it at them, they know. They know full well.

Jen lives in this tension of bullshite, I promise you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How did Jen go from a church planting Christian preacher to videotaping her large, expensively decorated, beautiful, virtually spotless house just so she can complain about a few shoes???? Are you kidding me??? What happened to that Jesus-style love and compassion? The gratitude?

BECAUSE IT WAS JUST THE FIRST NARCISSISTIC GRIFT IN A LONG LINE OF NARCISSISTIC GRIFTS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Jen needs to reframe her tasks and complaints and find the joy. Is she still Christian?

She never was a Christian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the utmost respect for Dooce for hanging it up and finding sobriety. She’s one of the only ones who I think will be okay because she stopped this BS.

😢

[Anonymous]

Can you someone link the shoes griping? Or is it gone?