Indian ladies I need your help please

[Anonymous]

Is it typical for Indian men to be away for 10 hours on Saturday or Sunday playing a cricket match? Why are the games so long? My dh is 35 and we have a 1 year old. Our 1 year old is very active and fussy a lot of the time.
It's exhausting taking care of him during the week. My husband says its typical and most of the men have families.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter. If it's not working for your family then you need to revisit the commitment no matter what is normal.

[Anonymous]

Yes I've seen this from other desi friends. Usually their husbands are FOBs, and have a slightly archaic view of how they can use their free time vs who's taking care of the house/kids. It's generally a point of contention.

If your husband gives you time off on non-cricket days, then you should let it be. So if Saturday is a cricket day, you get Sunday "off" while he watches the kid. Find an equitable balance rather than saying a blanket no (which will be ignored).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I've seen this from other desi friends. Usually their husbands are FOBs, and have a slightly archaic view of how they can use their free time vs who's taking care of the house/kids. It's generally a point of contention.

If your husband gives you time off on non-cricket days, then you should let it be. So if Saturday is a cricket day, you get Sunday "off" while he watches the kid. Find an equitable balance rather than saying a blanket no (which will be ignored).

This would make me sad; then there's no family time at all!

[Anonymous]

In this thread, the OP is surprised that her Indian husband acts like an Indian man.....

[Anonymous]

no, not necessarily. It's the same as American husbands that spend their Sundays watching football. Obviously not all American husbands do this.

[Anonymous]

So he is at work and you SAH all day with baby? Yeah he is used to Indian life where you have domestic staff, and SAH is life of leisure. We

[Anonymous]

Cricket is one of the few team sports (the other is baseball) where they don't play against the clock. It could indeed take 10 hours.

Not justifying him being away from home, just answering your question about cricket.

[Anonymous]

a one-day cricket match is short!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no, not necessarily. It's the same as American husbands that spend their Sundays watching football. Obviously not all American husbands do this.

+1

Or those that spend the day playing golf.

My Indian husband does not go out to play cricket all day. At most he goes on a bike ride or run early before the kids are up.

He did play on a soccer league for a few years though. That was a few hours 1 evening a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cricket is one of the few team sports (the other is baseball) where they don't play against the clock. It could indeed take 10 hours.

Not justifying him being away from home, just answering your question about cricket.

Ok thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he is at work and you SAH all day with baby? Yeah he is used to Indian life where you have domestic staff, and SAH is life of leisure. We

Yes I SAH. He tells me to use the time and go shopping at the mall but that got old quick.

[Anonymous]

As an Indian man, I think your DH is just inconsiderate and that is nothing to do with either being Indian or the sport of cricket. There are of course many Indian males with feudal upbringing that will justify sexist, patronizing and inconsiderate behavior towards their spouse as being "typical". And in many cases that reflects the behavior of all the male role models that they have grown up around. But I speak of folks in small-town India with little exposure to the world. In the case of your DH who lives in the US of A, this is no excuse. It is just poor and insensitive behavior and you should call him out for that. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I don't know any American Indian men who play cricket. So, no, it's not "typical." Is it every week?? That would bother most women.... I would ask him not too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know any American Indian men who play cricket. So, no, it's not "typical." Is it every week?? That would bother most women.... I would ask him not too.

+1 This sounds like a troll post.