Bi sexual man and marriage

[Anonymous]

Hi,

I'm dating a bi sexual man (I'm female). He's been tested and is clean. He was in a relationship with a few females before me, but his longest was with a gay man.
He said that he can have emotional and sexual relationships with both men and women. He considered marriage with the man he dated years ago (2008).

Does this mean he is really gay?

With me the sex is, "ok" Nothing over the top. Has been awkward at times, but he seems to be getting better.

If he is bi sexual and was going to marry a man, that would make him gay.

What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

Sexual orientation doesn't change upon marriage. Even if he married a man, he would still be bisexual. He would be a bisexual man in a same-sex marriage.

[Anonymous]

You are missing common sense.

Is a bisexual man who is in a relationship with a man gay?

Is a bisexual man who is in a relationship with a woman straight?

Is a bisexual man who is not currently dating anyone asexual?

[Anonymous]

Just find a straight guy.

[Anonymous]

I think he's a guy who leans closer to the gay side than the straight side but is able to have some sexual feelings for women.

I can do the math and reasonably assume he's probably in his late 30s or later. If he was in a serious relationship with a man in a more conservative time yet since then he has bounced from woman to woman without making much headway, instinct tells me his heart is really with a man and for some reason he's trying to make a go of it with a woman, probably in hopes of having a family and kids and all that.

Of course this is conjecture but your comment about sex seems to back this up. If he's only been with women for nine years and the sex is still just ok....hmm...mmm...

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I'm dating a bi sexual man (I'm female). He's been tested and is clean. He was in a relationship with a few females before me, but his longest was with a gay man.
He said that he can have emotional and sexual relationships with both men and women. He considered marriage with the man he dated years ago (2008).

Does this mean he is really gay?

With me the sex is, "ok" Nothing over the top. Has been awkward at times, but he seems to be getting better.

If he is bi sexual and was going to marry a man, that would make him gay.

What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he's a guy who leans closer to the gay side than the straight side but is able to have some sexual feelings for women.

I can do the math and reasonably assume he's probably in his late 30s or later. If he was in a serious relationship with a man in a more conservative time yet since then he has bounced from woman to woman without making much headway, instinct tells me his heart is really with a man and for some reason he's trying to make a go of it with a woman, probably in hopes of having a family and kids and all that.

Of course this is conjecture but your comment about sex seems to back this up. If he's only been with women for nine years and the sex is still just ok....hmm...mmm...

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I'm dating a bi sexual man (I'm female). He's been tested and is clean. He was in a relationship with a few females before me, but his longest was with a gay man.
He said that he can have emotional and sexual relationships with both men and women. He considered marriage with the man he dated years ago (2008).

Does this mean he is really gay?

With me the sex is, "ok" Nothing over the top. Has been awkward at times, but he seems to be getting better.

If he is bi sexual and was going to marry a man, that would make him gay.

What am I missing?

He's 38!

[Anonymous]

Sounds gay to me.

Find a straight guy.

[Anonymous]

Find a straight guy. Not worth the drama and worry.

[Anonymous]

He's gay..maybe. Straight..maybe.

[Anonymous]

Whether he is Gay or Bi isnt the issue here. The issue is does he feel he can be monogomos
I am a sexually bisexual female but have been in a relationship with a female for 11 years now, married for 3 of those. I have no interest in cheating. So although the attraction is to both sexes it doesnt change the fact that I have no interest in screwing up my marriage.

[Anonymous]

The fact that he was in a relationship with a man tells me he is gay, not bi.

Bisexual men might like sex with men (and women) but they don't bond emotionally with men the same way they do with women. Think of bisexual men as straight guys who occasionally like to have sex with men.


A guy who was in a relationship with man? That's a gay guy. Regardless of anything else. Bisexual men don't have relationships with men.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it, is there some assumption that bisexual men (and women?) cheat? It seems rather stereotypical. I would be more concerned with him being "closer to gay than straight" than cheating. Straight men and women cheat, not just bisexuals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he was in a relationship with a man tells me he is gay, not bi.

Bisexual men might like sex with men (and women) but they don't bond emotionally with men the same way they do with women. Think of bisexual men as straight guys who occasionally like to have sex with men.


A guy who was in a relationship with man? That's a gay guy. Regardless of anything else. Bisexual men don't have relationships with men.

I'm a bi guy and for me everything you say is true. But I can't speak for all bi guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he was in a relationship with a man tells me he is gay, not bi.

Bisexual men might like sex with men (and women) but they don't bond emotionally with men the same way they do with women. Think of bisexual men as straight guys who occasionally like to have sex with men.


A guy who was in a relationship with man? That's a gay guy. Regardless of anything else. Bisexual men don't have relationships with men.

I'm a bi guy and for me everything you say is true. But I can't speak for all bi guys.

+2. Same goes for me.

[Anonymous]

I have met bi men who are/were married to women. I have not met gay couples where one of the partners was bi.