Bi sexual man and marriage

[Anonymous]

That's because bi's aren't gay. They don't form emotional relationships with other men. It's all about sex.

Bi men f*ck other men, but they only *love* women.

[Anonymous]

So, what about the guy that says he bi and can bond emotionally with both men and women, have sex with both men and women and have relationships with both men and women? Isn't that the definition of bi?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's because bi's aren't gay. They don't form emotional relationships with other men. It's all about sex.

Bi men f*ck other men, but they only *love* women.

you're an idiot and have no idea what you're talking about.

[Anonymous]

I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

Here's my situation: Dating a bi man, he has had past relationships with both men and women. He has had emotional relationships with men and women. He has had sexual relationships with men and women. The sexual part has always been LAST. He does not engage in promiscuous sex. He only has sex when he is emotionally invested. He is also low drive when with both men and women. Can you help me understand this situation. We talk, and this is what gets discussed. He wants to get married and to him it can be either a man or woman, it's whoever he has the strongest emotional bond with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

Here's my situation: Dating a bi man, he has had past relationships with both men and women. He has had emotional relationships with men and women. He has had sexual relationships with men and women. The sexual part has always been LAST. He does not engage in promiscuous sex. He only has sex when he is emotionally invested. He is also low drive when with both men and women. Can you help me understand this situation. We talk, and this is what gets discussed. He wants to get married and to him it can be either a man or woman, it's whoever he has the strongest emotional bond with.

A man who doesn't jump into bed with you within the first few dates is someone to be leery of. Men like sex. Emotional connection? A bonus. Maybe he has a low libido but do you want to be in a relationship with someone with a low libido? Someone telling you they need to develop an emotional connection before having sex and also telling you he has a low libido should be sending huge warning signs in your brain and being bi, straight or gay has little to do with it.

Now, do you have a low sex drive, too? If you do and you like him then maybe it's doable. But even so... multiple relationships with both men and women and still hasn't settled down and is frank about low sex drive and isn't interested in jumping into bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether he is Gay or Bi isnt the issue here. The issue is does he feel he can be monogomos
I am a sexually bisexual female but have been in a relationship with a female for 11 years now, married for 3 of those. I have no interest in cheating. So although the attraction is to both sexes it doesnt change the fact that I have no interest in screwing up my marriage.

He can be monogamous, because he is very low drive regardless of male or female. He has little interest in sex at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I'm dating a bi sexual man (I'm female). He's been tested and is clean. He was in a relationship with a few females before me, but his longest was with a gay man.
He said that he can have emotional and sexual relationships with both men and women. He considered marriage with the man he dated years ago (2008).

Does this mean he is really gay?

With me the sex is, "ok" Nothing over the top. Has been awkward at times, but he seems to be getting better.

If he is bi sexual and was going to marry a man, that would make him gay.

What am I missing?

I think you're missing a much needed sit-down with dude to express your concerns and clear up your confusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

But if it's a bi man married to a woman and the bi man has a low sex drive, that could be overcome. WHO DO BI MEN MARRY? Gay men marry men. Straight men marry women. Who do bi men marry?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I'm dating a bi sexual man (I'm female). He's been tested and is clean. He was in a relationship with a few females before me, but his longest was with a gay man.
He said that he can have emotional and sexual relationships with both men and women. He considered marriage with the man he dated years ago (2008).

Does this mean he is really gay?

With me the sex is, "ok" Nothing over the top. Has been awkward at times, but he seems to be getting better.

If he is bi sexual and was going to marry a man, that would make him gay.

What am I missing?

I think you're missing a much needed sit-down with dude to express your concerns and clear up your confusion.

He will say over and over and over that he is bi. But he sexually has little interest period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

But if it's a bi man married to a woman and the bi man has a low sex drive, that could be overcome. WHO DO BI MEN MARRY? Gay men marry men. Straight men marry women. Who do bi men marry?????

Bi men marry women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have in my years with various LGBT communities met gay men who'd previously been married to women, gay men married to women, bi men married to women but sleeping with gay men, bi men who were single and swinging, but never an openly bi man married to a woman.

Hmm. It's intriguing. I don't doubt there are bi men happily with a wife in a monogamous relationship but I suspect those are very few in numbers. The male sex drive is a difficult thing to overcome.

But if it's a bi man married to a woman and the bi man has a low sex drive, that could be overcome. WHO DO BI MEN MARRY? Gay men marry men. Straight men marry women. Who do bi men marry?????

Bi men marry women.

Or men. You just assume they're gay when married to a man.