DH is being accused of sexual assault.

[Anonymous]

I don't know where to begin. I am shaking.

DH works in another state for six weeks in a remote area during the summer. There is a woman who is accusing him, and multiple coworkers of his of sexual assault. He was questioned today in our home and swabbed. Which leads me to believe there is substantial evidence. DH is trying to brush it off, saying he doesn't know her and he just went to sleep that night.

I kicked him out and told him not to come back until he is cleared.

I'm completely distraught and emotional. I don't want him near me. I don't believe he did it, but what if?

[Anonymous]

I think you do believe he did it, or you wouldn't have kicked him out and wouldn't be saying you don't want him near you. If I though my husband had participated in a gang rape I would kick him out too.

[Anonymous]

He needs to get a lawyer.

Why don't you believe him? If you don't believe him, you must have some evidence to suspect him.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like perhaps she was assaulted, doesn't quite know who did it, and so accused everyone to figure it out??

If you don't believe he did it, why did you kick him out?

[Anonymous]

A friend's DH was accused of sexual assault and cleared by DNA. If she'd kicked him out, they would be divorced right now. If you don't think your DH did it and he's cleared, you have probably killed your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you do believe he did it, or you wouldn't have kicked him out and wouldn't be saying you don't want him near you. If I though my husband had participated in a gang rape I would kick him out too.

I have no way of knowing for sure if he did it or not. I have no way of proving or disproving it until the investigation is complete.

Regardless, if he did it, how can I sleep at night next to a RAPIST?! What the hell. How is this my life.

[Anonymous]

He was accused.

He's guilty.

Period.

File for divorce. Today.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like either oil drilling or archaeology. Both of which often have 90% or more male crews. Gang rapes are not uncommon. Drugging women so they can be raped is not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you do believe he did it, or you wouldn't have kicked him out and wouldn't be saying you don't want him near you. If I though my husband had participated in a gang rape I would kick him out too.

I have no way of knowing for sure if he did it or not. I have no way of proving or disproving it until the investigation is complete.

Regardless, if he did it, how can I sleep at night next to a RAPIST?! What the hell. How is this my life.

You must suspect him. In no way, shape or form would I think my DH capable of something like that. I would just assume it was dark and she had people mistaken.

[Anonymous]

One woman is one thing...multiple is another. Sadly looks like this guy is one scary person and you were smart to get him out of there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like perhaps she was assaulted, doesn't quite know who did it, and so accused everyone to figure it out??

If you don't believe he did it, why did you kick him out?

That's an interesting read, like she woke up from being drugged and told the cops "these were the guys I was drinking with". Sad as it is to say, that's a better take on it than my initial reaction, which was a group assault.

[Anonymous]

This sounds mighty trollish. Why on earth would you kick your husband out over a "what if" when you don't believe he did it? You sound like a horrible spouse if this is in fact not an imaginary scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you do believe he did it, or you wouldn't have kicked him out and wouldn't be saying you don't want him near you. If I though my husband had participated in a gang rape I would kick him out too.

gang rape ? Did I miss that in the OP ?

One accusation is prove it. More than one means he did something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One woman is one thing...multiple is another. Sadly looks like this guy is one scary person and you were smart to get him out of there.

One woman is accusing several people of sexual assault, not multiple women accusing one man. Supposedly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you do believe he did it, or you wouldn't have kicked him out and wouldn't be saying you don't want him near you. If I though my husband had participated in a gang rape I would kick him out too.

I have no way of knowing for sure if he did it or not. I have no way of proving or disproving it until the investigation is complete.

Regardless, if he did it, how can I sleep at night next to a RAPIST?! What the hell. How is this my life.

You must suspect him. In no way, shape or form would I think my DH capable of something like that. I would just assume it was dark and she had people mistaken.

#1. I would think my DH was innocent until proven guilty. Something is already off somewhere-- in his past, in his behavior, multiple affairs, something-- or you wouldn't go to guilty until proven innocent.