Open marriage

[Anonymous]

Anyone here have an open marriage? My husband and I just decided to have one. He wants to have sex with other people, not only because we don't do it enough, and not because he's not attracted to me anymore, but because he feels like he can't be satisfied sexually without having multiple partners. The book "Mating in Captivity" really spoke to him and he wants to be honest and true to his needs. I'm ok with it for kind of opposite reasons. I don't want to have sex with him anymore. I love him and enjoy being married to him, but I'm not physically attracted to him. I also just don't have much of a sex drive at all these days. I'm just not interested. We both feel like we have a really strong relationship - we get along really well, enjoy each others' company, make each other laugh, support each other through difficulties, co-parent really well. But when it comes to sex we just completely diverge. So I said let's just go our separate ways in that area. Let him go sleep with other people and take the pressure off me. Then we both get what we want right now. If at any point I decide I want to go sleep with someone, I can do so.

Obviously the fear is that he (or I if I ever do it) will develop feelings for someone else. But believe it or not I feel like our marriage is strong enough that I'm not too worried about that. It probably sounds crazy but it's the way I feel.

OK, go ahead and tell me I'm an idiot and we're crazy, etc. But I'm also dying to know if there's anyone else out there doing anything like this. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Please talk to my wife

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should read the thread about the husband having a baby with his ap. How would you feel if he gets one of these women pregnant? What about an std? Either scenario will detroy your happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

All the open marriages I know ended in really ugly divorces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the open marriages I know ended in really ugly divorces.

How many do you know?

[Anonymous]

Also what kind of modeling are you setting for your children? If you have a daughter would you want her in a marriage like this? Do you want your son to think that is how a man is supposed to behave?

I get that married life can get stale but are we animals or humans? I see hot guys all the time but what seperates me fro, being a dog is that I can control myself.

[Anonymous]

How would the kids know

Tell him to get snipped

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the open marriages I know ended in really ugly divorces.

How many do you know?

7

I am 52, lots of open marriages in our 40's.

[Anonymous]

He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your son to think that is how a man is supposed to behave?

But what is wrong with it exactly? Is this a biblical objection? Where is it established that it's WRONG? Isn't that just a social convention? If both people are ok with it, what's so wrong with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

Wow, you're extremely rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

You sound like a terrible lover

[Anonymous]

OP, go out and get some!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your son to think that is how a man is supposed to behave?

But what is wrong with it exactly? Is this a biblical objection? Where is it established that it's WRONG? Isn't that just a social convention? If both people are ok with it, what's so wrong with it?

It is not a biblical objection but a moral one. I teach my son to be honest, have integrity, not to steal, respect people, etc.
I would hope my son is better than an animal. Just because you are horny doesn't mean you have the right to sleep with every women you see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

You sound like a terrible lover

No OP, that is you, since your man wants new vagina. How bad could you be in bed?