Husband won't cut grass.

[Anonymous]

Curious how others would handle this situation:

I'm a SAHM with young kids (one not yet walking.) My husband works long hours, sometimes not returning home until 7-8pm. Getting him to cut he grass is like pulling teeth. On his days off, he doesn't want to do it. "I'll do it tomorrow." But that never happens. Meanwhile, the kids can't even play in the backyard because the grass is so tall. He won't let me hire a lawn service, even though all of our neighbors use the same service, because he's so cheap. I can't cut it while he's at work, because I'm alone with the kids. If I attempt to cut the grass myself when he's home, he gets upset and ends up cutting it himself, but is mad and pouts the rest of the night.

It always gets cut before it looks horrible, the in the meantime, we can't enjoy our yard.

Do I hire a lawn service and be done with it? He will be mad.

Do I try and coordinate the kids naps and cut it myself while they sleep? He will be mad.

I'm so over it.

[Anonymous]

Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.

[Anonymous]

I would go ahead and hire the lawn service. You need to position it as a temporary thing for this summer, saying that your kids need to play outside and you want both of you to be able to enjoy the time with family. Say you can reevaluate next season.

[Anonymous]

Hire a lawn service. If he is mad enough, he'll go outside and mow the lawn. If not, then he'll grumble a bit and get over it, and you'll be happy.

[Anonymous]

I would hire the service.

[Anonymous]

It always gets cut before it looks horrible,

Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.

This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.

I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it hire the lawn service . And when he pouts be honest with him, you need someone dependable

[Anonymous]

I love to mow so I do it - my husband used to fight me - turns out he was worried about the neighbor's perception - ha! And no, he is not sexist in any way. He got used to it and now I can mow in peace. But definitely hire a lawn service - there's many studies that show the best way to spend your money is on experiences or things that buy you time/relaxation instead of things. Housecleaning...lawn mowing..good vacations...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It always gets cut before it looks horrible,

Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.

My baby doesn't enjoy crawling through grass so long it's seeding.

[Anonymous]

Get a dog. The dog will ruin your lawn and you won't have to worry about your grass being too tall anymore, because you won't have any grass.

[Anonymous]

Definitely hire the lawn service.

He can either have pride for his home and take care of home maintenance himself or it needs to be hired out.

If you ask him when he will next do it and he fails to do it when he says he will, then I'd hire someone to cut it every other week for the next 2 months and then be done with it.

I'm sure you take care of a dozen household chores to keep your home running and maintained...he needs to do his as well or outsource them if he can't handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.

This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.

I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.

Schedule a service and tell him, "X company is scheduled to cut the grass Monday if you don't cut it this weekend. If you cancel the service and still don't cut the grass, I'm not going to tell you when I've scheduled it next time."

[Anonymous]

Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".

Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.

This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.

I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.

Quite a catch you have there. Step off, ladies, the pouting, cheap, stubborn man-child is taken!

Congratulations and best wishes, OP.