Husband won't cut grass.

Anonymous
Is your DH helpful in other ways around the house? Or is this his ONE CHORE that he cannot do? BTW, how big is your yard or how long does it take to mow?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Get a dog. The dog will ruin your lawn and you won't have to worry about your grass being too tall anymore, because you won't have any grass.


Truth! I definitely don't need to mow anymore.
Anonymous
You should go out and get a job and use the money to hire a lawn guy..
Anonymous
Well, you could always go out and get a job.. Use the money to pay for child care and lawn service.
Anonymous
I think you may be my sister wife, OP. He does the exact same thing at my house.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm in a very similar boat with a cheap, stobboem, resident (long hours) spouse. I ended up hiring a lawn service despite the pouting from him. It actually whipped him into shape enough to do it himself when it needs done now, but it took about 3 months last year of paying for it first. Girl, tony mind his pouting! And don't do that shit yourself! I was out there 8 months pregnant doing it last summer when I finally decided to hire someone!


I got this compliment too, preggo and mowing the lawn in the summer, while "too busy" hubby "researched stuff online."
Same thing for shoveling. City-boy swears it can wait until morning when it hopefully melts instead of freezes over and makes a worse mess. Stupid, lazy, on a power trip???
Anonymous
LawnStarter App. Much easier than fighting with your DH.
Anonymous
http://www.husqvarna.com/us/products/robotic-lawn-mowers/
Buy him one of these for his birthday.
Anonymous
Or hire a babysitter so you can cut the grass! This way you're not defying your husband by hiring a lawn service.
Anonymous
Hire a service and don't tell him who you hired or give him their contact info.
Anonymous
I actually like cutting the grass and don't like it when my DH does. Thrown on some music, it's an hour of "me time" and it's exercise. Who cares if he complains/pouts. The lawn is cut, the kids can play win win.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm in a very similar boat with a cheap, stobboem, resident (long hours) spouse. I ended up hiring a lawn service despite the pouting from him. It actually whipped him into shape enough to do it himself when it needs done now, but it took about 3 months last year of paying for it first. Girl, tony mind his pouting! And don't do that shit yourself! I was out there 8 months pregnant doing it last summer when I finally decided to hire someone!


I got this compliment too, preggo and mowing the lawn in the summer, while "too busy" hubby "researched stuff online."
Same thing for shoveling. City-boy swears it can wait until morning when it hopefully melts instead of freezes over and makes a worse mess. Stupid, lazy, on a power trip???


OMG my idiot DH also wants to wait for the snow to melt -- why shovel? it's just going to melt? And he's from western PA where they get a lot of snow so you can't tell me he didn't grow up having to shovel. Every time it snows it's me shoveling and one of the kids helping. And he'll come outside 20 times to tell me how much time I'm wasting shoveling when it's just going to melt. I don't mind shoveling, I actually like it. DH is lazy
Anonymous
Same here. We check the weather and even when it's below freezing for 3 days in the forecast he tries to say it will all melt. All 8 inches coming down. Even when the nanny complains about the driveway or steps the next morning.

My vote is power trip. Coupled with ignorance. Coupled with passive aggressiveness.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Curious how others would handle this situation:

I'm a SAHM with young kids (one not yet walking.) My husband works long hours, sometimes not returning home until 7-8pm. Getting him to cut he grass is like pulling teeth. On his days off, he doesn't want to do it. "I'll do it tomorrow." But that never happens. Meanwhile, the kids can't even play in the backyard because the grass is so tall. He won't let me hire a lawn service, even though all of our neighbors use the same service, because he's so cheap. I can't cut it while he's at work, because I'm alone with the kids. If I attempt to cut the grass myself when he's home, he gets upset and ends up cutting it himself, but is mad and pouts the rest of the night.

It always gets cut before it looks horrible, the in the meantime, we can't enjoy our yard.

Do I hire a lawn service and be done with it? He will be mad.

Do I try and coordinate the kids naps and cut it myself while they sleep? He will be mad.

I'm so over it.


Purchase a play mower for your child who is walking. Put the non-walking child in a backpack or front pack carrier. Mow the lawn with your walking child mowing behind you. Put noise cancelling headphones on your non-walking child. It is okay if you do it halves, thirds or fourths.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".

Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.


He gets mad when she cuts the lawn.


It seems he gets mad no matter what. Mow the lawn so you can enjoy it.
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