Ladies, advice for 30something women?

[Anonymous]

With your experience and wisdom, what advice would you pass down to a woman who just entered her 30s?

[Anonymous]

If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

[Anonymous]

Use sunscreen and take care of your teeth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

On top of that, ask the big questions - money, where you want to live, # of kids, how often you visit family, sexual needs. Too many people don't do this.

[Anonymous]

All of the above (especially the thing about your teeth) and:

Everybody has something that they are ashamed of, regret, wish was different. Everyone. If you have such a thing and you think you are the only one you are wrong. The other person may have a different thing but everyone has something. This helps both for your own ability to accept your own shame and to realize that it isn't that big a deal and in relating to other people.

Watch the TED talk on shame by Brenne Brown or read The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls, or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This is by far the most important. Consider this decision very carefully.

Don't overpluck eyebrows, use sunscreen, and teeth care as stated previously will serve you well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This is by far the most important. Consider this decision very carefully.

Don't overpluck eyebrows, use sunscreen, and teeth care as stated previously will serve you well.

This. Who you marry and their family matters. Marry a partner in life, someone supportive of you and your goals. Talk about all the hard stuff a lot before marriage: kids, where to live, finances, relationships with family, travel desires. Yes people can and will change their minds about some things but it's so much better knowing who you are partnering with for life and not find out they are completely incompatible with your values/desires later on.
I'd also say look st your career and where it is and where you want to be in 10 years and where you could be. If those two things are not the same work to bring them closer together or you'll end up resenting work.

[Anonymous]

32 here and interested in this thread.

I get overwhelmed by the sunscreen thing.
1. I used to apply it in the morning to my face, neck, hands. But feel like.... doesn't it wear off every 2-3 hours? So, if I'm applying at 7:30am, what is the point if I'm outside at 2:30?
2. I got the idea that I should apply to my arms,shoulders (and remember my neck and hands more often), and to me that's overwhelming
3. At 30-31 I FINALLY got through about ten years of on and off acne. Like, my hormones changed and my face is really clear now. But I always feel like I'm on the verge of acne if I change up my products too much. For example, sunscreen occasionally gives me a few zits.

How do I overcome these obstacles? (For the second, I know, I just need to remember that something is better than nothing.). But for 1 & 3?

[Anonymous]

Use a good facial moisturizer every day.

If you're overweight, lose it now. It will be much harder to lose the older you get.

[Anonymous]

Save money. Invest in financial planning with money and time if you are not confident in this area. Trust me, when you are 50 you will thank me.

Focus now on developing a sustainable exercise routine, and cut down on the alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This plus stay fit and eat well. Save money. Don't look back on your 20's and regret that you're now over 30. The best is yet to come.

[Anonymous]

Don't just get married because all of your friends are married and you want to. Find the right person or hold out.

Exercise and eat healthy

Make as many friends as you can

Live within your means

Find something to enjoy about each day.

Remember birthdays

Keep working and saving money

Exude confidence

Pay it forward

Carpe Diem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

What exactly does marry well mean?

[Anonymous]

Don't get fat. Set yourself up with good eating and exercise habits that will endure through your childbearing/caring years. As you age and have a family, you will probably have less time to exercise and get daily activity. Your eating habits will be very important to fend off the weight creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

What exactly does marry well mean?

NP: I think marry well means not to compromise your major wants and needs. It can be personality, money, family...anything that is important to you because if you don't get it at first, you'll never get it. You can't change your spouse so don't enter into a relationship with the thought that you will eventually get what you want from him/her.