Ladies, advice for 30something women?

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Or as Warren Buffett said .... plant a tree when you're young if you want to sit in the shade when you're older.

[Anonymous]

Don't think there will be any difference between 30-something and 50. There will not be. You will still be you. Now is still now, you will still be striving to meet many of the same goals, lose that ten pounds, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Keep working out even when it's hard to maintain because you have kids and a career. Maybe you won't be able to do it as often as you want but make it a priority to keep up with it as much as you can. Because I hung in there and did that and now I have the time to work out and I feel fantastic in my 60s!

Put money into a 401k even if it's a small amount each month and don't take it out. Don't rack up credit card debt.

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Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This is by far the most important. Consider this decision very carefully.

Don't overpluck eyebrows, use sunscreen, and teeth care as stated previously will serve you well.

This. Who you marry and their family matters. Marry a partner in life, someone supportive of you and your goals. Talk about all the hard stuff a lot before marriage: kids, where to live, finances, relationships with family, travel desires. Yes people can and will change their minds about some things but it's so much better knowing who you are partnering with for life and not find out they are completely incompatible with your values/desires later on.
I'd also say look st your career and where it is and where you want to be in 10 years and where you could be. If those two things are not the same work to bring them closer together or you'll end up resenting work.

Great advice. You will go through a lot in a long marriage -- raising kids, dealing with in laws, sickness and deaths, etc. Choose wisely or you will never make it through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This is by far the most important. Consider this decision very carefully.

Don't overpluck eyebrows, use sunscreen, and teeth care as stated previously will serve you well.

This. Who you marry and their family matters. Marry a partner in life, someone supportive of you and your goals. Talk about all the hard stuff a lot before marriage: kids, where to live, finances, relationships with family, travel desires. Yes people can and will change their minds about some things but it's so much better knowing who you are partnering with for life and not find out they are completely incompatible with your values/desires later on.
I'd also say look st your career and where it is and where you want to be in 10 years and where you could be. If those two things are not the same work to bring them closer together or you'll end up resenting work.

Great advice. You will go through a lot in a long marriage -- raising kids, dealing with in laws, sickness and deaths, etc. Choose wisely or you will never make it through.

The man I married is fine, we've made it through - but only because I've sacrificed heavily. We had a SN child and I did the lions share of the sacrificing of myself - career, time, endless tasks. If that isn't what you think you wanted I wouldn't marry. Or, I would have picked someone who would have supported my career but I don't think that is easy to find.

Have sex a lot would be my second tip. You're only young once - enjoy it now while you can.

[Anonymous]

Have a kid before 32

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Anonymous wrote:Have a kid before 32

Or don't have any. Not everyone on this earth needs to have children.

[Anonymous]

Wear sunblock

Don't throw your marriage in the trash because it's hard. Trouble blows over, people grow and kids grow older. Being divorced is not necessarily easier than a difficult marriage.

Don't have more kids than you can afford

Don't work your life away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a kid before 32

I disagree. Have a kid when you are ready. There is no magic number.

[Anonymous]

Use your vacation time. All of it. Every year.

You won't get the years back, and vacations are where you make many of life's best memories. Don't think you'll take your vacation "later," just do it. Don't let your work peers vacation-shame you, either. Someday, they will regret that they never took a real vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:If you choose to marry, marry well. It's the single most important decision you will make.

This 100x. It literally is the single most important decision you will make.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't think there will be any difference between 30-something and 50. There will not be. You will still be you. Now is still now, you will still be striving to meet many of the same goals, lose that ten pounds, whatever.

Oh but there is. At 52, I can assure you that the older you get, the more established and surer you will get of yourself and your priorities, but the tougher certain physical things will be. I wish I had spent more money in my mid 30s to make my life easier. I'd have less money now but I'd have better memories. Enjoy the heck out of your youth! Plan for the future, but don't let worries consume you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep working out even when it's hard to maintain because you have kids and a career. Maybe you won't be able to do it as often as you want but make it a priority to keep up with it as much as you can. Because I hung in there and did that and now I have the time to work out and I feel fantastic in my 60s!

Put money into a 401k even if it's a small amount each month and don't take it out. Don't rack up credit card debt.

I echo both of these wholeheartedly.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have a kid before 32

I disagree. Have a kid when you are ready. There is no magic number.

Totally agree. Had mine at 34 and 36 and it's been perfect for me. Plenty of time to enjoy them.

[Anonymous]

There is never too much sex or travel. Have sex while traveling. Travel to have sex.