Why I hate doing certain things with the family....
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We went to Nats park to watch a baseball game. I love baseball and like to stay to the end....DW is meh. 15 yo DD is there for the food. So, we get there, and have a rain delay (even though it was not raining). It continues on....By 9:00, I am hearing complaints from DW and DD about bordom. At 9:15, we leave. I had no justification for staying (I did not know what was happening). But, I have not seen any baseball. Game started at 10:10.
At baseball games (or some other things I enjoy), my wife does not like and makes me leave early. This has included Concerts, Sporting events. I get that she does not like the events. But she insists on going (and leaving early). I would rather go alone. Now, if it is something she wants to do, and I do not, I have to stay to the end. I am just pissed. It was her idea to make the family outing to the ball game....thinking I would like it. |
Anonymous
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Next time let them go home and come home separately. Take Lyft. It can't be much more than the cost of the ticket to do that.
Try to save your resentment for things that can't be fixed. Life is short. |
Anonymous
| That was an incredibly unusual circumstance for a baseball game. I'd be bored too. |
Anonymous
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Then have a talk with her, OP. Point out all the things that you compromise for her. Perhaps she will come out with a list of all the things she compromises for you, that you hadn't even noticed (or not, just want you to reflect on this). And then you can make plans for the next event. Perhaps either of you can leave earlier, separately. Perhaps you give each other passes not to attend. As for tonight, well, anybody would have been bored, right? |
Anonymous
| the other night, I mean. |
Anonymous
| The game went until 2 am. Don't you or she work? |
Anonymous
| Your DW is like most DWs...it's all about their happiness and men can suck an egg. |
Anonymous
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Your wife sounds like a selfish bitch, to be frank. She also doesn't seem to respect you. If it was just this one instance, I would be on her side with the leaving, but she always makes you leave things you enjoy early, and always forces you to stay to the end of things she enjoys? Completely selfish.
My husband and I have interests in common, and interests we don't. Occasionally one of us will do what the other enjoys and we don't, and in those cases (barring extenuating circumstances), the person whose enjoying the activity dictates when we leave. If the other really really wants to leave, they can do so alone without recrimination. The rest of the time, we encourage each other to do things they enjoy - with friends who also enjoy them. Your wife 1) insists she be the one to go, even when you'd rather go with friends or alone, 2) makes you leave when she wants to, 3) makes you stay if she wants to. SELFISH. and p.s. she's teaching your daughter to treat you (and her future partners) the same way. |
Anonymous
| "I'm happy you want to come, but I would like to stay until the end of the event. What are some solutions so that you can leave when you'd like to, and I can stay?" |
Anonymous
Yeah, she needs to compromise. Either let you go alone or take separate cars or something. I'll never understand why people act like she does. |
Anonymous
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She "makes" you leave early?
If you let her do this and then complain, can you think of the obvious solution, which is to stand firm? |
Anonymous
Then she'll probably just pout and make the rest of the game a miserable experience for him anyway. Do you not get that? |
Anonymous
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OP, you're picking the absolute wrong game to make an issue out of. The non-rain rain delay by the Nationals was a disaster.
For those who don't know the situation: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/dc-sports-bog/wp/2017/07/07/at-nationals-park-an-embarrassing-fiasco-and-an-absolute-joy/?utm_term=.bb2a88b2b8a3 No one can be blamed for leaving early from that. |
Anonymous
| We do know the situation, which is why several of us noted that last night was understandable. The issue is that she does this all the time. |
Anonymous
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If I'm being honest, you both sound pretty immature.
Surely there has to be something that you both enjoy doing. |