Why I hate doing certain things with the family....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm this wife... I hate the crowds at the end of events. FWIW, I do this at the concerts I have picked out and events I want to go to, barring play off games or something really spectacular. I just have anxiety in really large crowds. I try to respect my husband and if the game is tight we stay and stand in the aisle behind all the seats in our section. If it's a landslide we basically do the same thing, but creep closer to the exit and watch the TVs in the concourses. I am much better after my husband had a conversation with me about being a Debbie Downer at ball games. Now I try to get into it and he brings me a bag of peanuts to keep me occupied. Ha!

Why the hell don't you just leave early, or not go? Do you have anxiety about being alone, or going home alone too? If so, maybe therapy and meds would help?

Well, I like going and I also want to stay so my husband enjoys as much of it as possible. I do not have anxiety about being home alone or walking alone. I don't need therapy or meds. I just hate feeling like cattle walking in a mass of people to the train after a game. I prefer to jump the gun a bit and not feel like I'm in a mosh pit.

Then why not stay until after the crowds have mostly left and thinned so your husband can see the end of games? I get that you don't care if you see the end but to most sports fans, the end is important. Since he caters to you, you don't see any impact of your anxiety on others, but it is actually impacting him and his enjoyment of the game. That is where meds could help - so it isn't always about you and your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Next time take a buddy.

[Anonymous]

"Here's the keys, drive safe!"

Enjoy the game. Take an Uber.

I grew up with season tickets to the Cardinals and we went to every game in its entirety. DH hates all sports and tolerates about an hour when we visit my family. He leaves early and either goes back to the hotel or meets up with my cousins and I join them when the game ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Here's the keys, drive safe!"

Enjoy the game. Take an Uber.

I grew up with season tickets to the Cardinals and we went to every game in its entirety. DH hates all sports and tolerates about an hour when we visit my family. He leaves early and either goes back to the hotel or meets up with my cousins and I join them when the game ends.

Examine Uber. You will see it is not an option to get to the 'burbs after a game. It involves surge pricing, often 3x. Metro requires you to leave before 11:00....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I came here to vent. I knew going in, she would not want to stay for the whole game -- even without the delay. We have been through this before. On the plus side, she wanted to share it as a family outing. A 2 hour outing. Except the game rarely only lasts two hours.

Because of this, I usually go alone or with friends; I get to 10 or so games a year. So, perhaps, this is an example of taking one for the team. (If we had gone to last night's game, she would have wanted to leave before the Nats came back and won. This has happened before).

I often think she just wants things she can post on Facebook to keep up appearances. I want the actual experiences...

Should I ask about the last time you had sex??? because I'm thinking you aren't if she really is that kind of wife.

Sex? twice in 2017 so far. Why would she? No selfie on facebook.

[Anonymous]

Woman here- it would be a cold day in hell before I ever left a hockey game early. Next time your family can leave, you uber home.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is the approach we take for college lacrosse games. Wife is not crazy about the sport but likes to be outside, take in the crowd etc. If the game is pretty much decided near start of fourth quarter, we leave, If it is still competitive, we stay. I hate driving in traffic so leaving before the end is OK with me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"I'm happy you want to come, but I would like to stay until the end of the event. What are some solutions so that you can leave when you'd like to, and I can stay?"

Yeah, she needs to compromise. Either let you go alone or take separate cars or something. I'll never understand why people act like she does.

Don't be a doormat OP. She doesn't respect you and the kid is following her lead. Just TELL you are going and plan to stay the entire game and you fine if they want to leave early on their own.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are pathetic, very passive aggressive, immature and downright lame.

Grow some balls and tell your wife you want to see the whole game. Then work out a solution, like either you take separate cars to the game from now on, or maybe you go by yourself and with buddies, and you all choose a different family activity.

But what you don't need to do is cry like a bitch baby just because your wife made you leave the game early. And you already know this is her m.o. So, pre-empt this type of frustration by thinking strategically and planning ahead, and either exclude her or discuss with her your plans for things you really want to see and enjoy in their entirety.

You act like you're scared to communicate with your own wife, but communication is the only way you'll get your needs met with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went to Nats park to watch a baseball game. I love baseball and like to stay to the end....DW is meh. 15 yo DD is there for the food. So, we get there, and have a rain delay (even though it was not raining). It continues on....By 9:00, I am hearing complaints from DW and DD about bordom. At 9:15, we leave. I had no justification for staying (I did not know what was happening). But, I have not seen any baseball. Game started at 10:10.

At baseball games (or some other things I enjoy), my wife does not like and makes me leave early. This has included Concerts, Sporting events. I get that she does not like the events. But she insists on going (and leaving early). I would rather go alone. Now, if it is something she wants to do, and I do not, I have to stay to the end.

I am just pissed. It was her idea to make the family outing to the ball game....thinking I would like it.

I agree with you, OP. I would love it if DH wanted to do those things!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I came here to vent. I knew going in, she would not want to stay for the whole game -- even without the delay. We have been through this before. On the plus side, she wanted to share it as a family outing. A 2 hour outing. Except the game rarely only lasts two hours.

Because of this, I usually go alone or with friends; I get to 10 or so games a year. So, perhaps, this is an example of taking one for the team. (If we had gone to last night's game, she would have wanted to leave before the Nats came back and won. This has happened before).

I often think she just wants things she can post on Facebook to keep up appearances. I want the actual experiences...

Should I ask about the last time you had sex??? because I'm thinking you aren't if she really is that kind of wife.

Sex? twice in 2017 so far. Why would she? No selfie on facebook.

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