How do I undo a stupid mistake

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

[Anonymous]

Ugh! Never speak of it again.

[Anonymous]

You must have good looking IT people!

Don't worry about it. It'll all blow over and you'll be left with the fun memory.

[Anonymous]

i think a roll in the hay is fair compensation for IT housecalls! joking, joking.

don't bring it up, and don't engage him further. it'll blow over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i think a roll in the hay is fair compensation for IT housecalls! joking, joking.

don't bring it up, and don't engage him further. it'll blow over.

OP here - I can't disagree with your first point - LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

[Anonymous]

Totally irrelevant but I need to know....how good looking/fit are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

Hot. You gave this guy a lifetime Dear Penthouse story.

[Anonymous]

OP, obviously you can't "undo" it but it wasn't really a mistake if you are both single, consented, and had a good time. Relish the memories...not the guilt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

OP here - I've only been divorced three months after a 17 year marriage and I hadn't had sex in well over a year. The guy was cute and charming and I was horny. That's not an excuse, just the facts. I'm sure other women have felt the same way.

[Anonymous]

Some practical advice, since you're mostly just getting "It will blow over." Maybe, but you need to cover your bases.

Do not put anything in writing, like if he texts or emails you. Hopefully you aren't writing this post on a work computer or phone.

I personally would recommend starting to keep an eye out for a new, equally high-level job at a different company, just in case it starts to feel like something is brewing. Probably won't, but you have nothing to lose by looking around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

Hot. You gave this guy a lifetime Dear Penthouse story.

What should she do? Help him write that letter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

OP here - I've only been divorced three months after a 17 year marriage and I hadn't had sex in well over a year. The guy was cute and charming and I was horny. That's not an excuse, just the facts. I'm sure other women have felt the same way.

I am so jealous of this guy.

[Anonymous]

If shit does start to hit the fan, get advice from an excellent employment law attorney ASAP. Don't dick around with HR and trying to cover your own ass if it does start to get around, get legal advice.