How do I undo a stupid mistake

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

OP here - I've only been divorced three months after a 17 year marriage and I hadn't had sex in well over a year. The guy was cute and charming and I was horny. That's not an excuse, just the facts. I'm sure other women have felt the same way.

you do not need to apologize OP. You are single, he is single. You wanted sex and you had consensual and good sex. Good for you!!

How do you know that he is single? OP never said that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL! This reminds me of my own IT story. About 15 years ago when I was single I was in my office and couldn't open a file that had been sent to me. I could barely spell IT so I was clueless on how to open it. I called our service desk and they sent over this really pretty technician to help me out. She leaned over my shoulder and looked at the computer screen and said matter of factly "Oh, you need to unzip!" I looked up at her and said "Isn't that sexual harassment?" She said, "I'm talking about your zip file you idiot, you need to unlock it". We ended up dating for a few months until she took another job in a different city. I did have fun asking her to unzip me on many occasions. We were both single and fairly junior so we never were at risk.

This is precious!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. He doesn't report to you and is not in your department. It might be worthwhile to talk to an employment law attorney just to cover your bases but this really doesn't sound like a big deal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and and divorced female with a high level job in a large company. At a company event last week I was chatting with a very nice early 30's guy in IT and I told him my home computer was so infected it was running like slow molasses. He offered to help me but since it was an old desk top he offered to come by after work to help me. He was charming and we quickly fell into very light banter that quickly got very flirty. To make a long story short we ended up in bed. I'm now back at work and know that sometime soon we will run into each other. This is not a relationship I want to pursue despite the fact that the sex was great. When we parted we didn't talk about getting together again or anything like that. I'm praying that he won't tell anyone but I can't be sure. Do I say anything to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm definitely not a one night stand person so I don't know what the rules are or if there are any. I know there would be HR issues if this got out even though we work in very different parts of the company. I know I'm an idiot for doing this so no need to pile on. Just advice, please.

OP: "I'm definitely not a one night stand person "

The facts would suggest otherwise

OP here - I've only been divorced three months after a 17 year marriage and I hadn't had sex in well over a year. The guy was cute and charming and I was horny. That's not an excuse, just the facts. I'm sure other women have felt the same way.

you do not need to apologize OP. You are single, he is single. You wanted sex and you had consensual and good sex. Good for you!!

How do you know that he is single? OP never said that.

OP here - he is single. I'm hopeful he is a nice guy!

[Anonymous]

Hmmm an IT guy! Did he give you an upgrade? Any downloads? Hopefully, no viruses! Hopefully the tools he brought were adequate to solve your problem.....and fix your computer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL! This reminds me of my own IT story. About 15 years ago when I was single I was in my office and couldn't open a file that had been sent to me. I could barely spell IT so I was clueless on how to open it. I called our service desk and they sent over this really pretty technician to help me out. She leaned over my shoulder and looked at the computer screen and said matter of factly "Oh, you need to unzip!" I looked up at her and said "Isn't that sexual harassment?" She said, "I'm talking about your zip file you idiot, you need to unlock it". We ended up dating for a few months until she took another job in a different city. I did have fun asking her to unzip me on many occasions. We were both single and fairly junior so we never were at risk.

Obviously fake, there are no cute girls in IT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you use virus protection?

Ok, I LOL'ed. Anyway OP, sound like it was fun and not a mistake at all. Don't text or talk to him and it should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL! This reminds me of my own IT story. About 15 years ago when I was single I was in my office and couldn't open a file that had been sent to me. I could barely spell IT so I was clueless on how to open it. I called our service desk and they sent over this really pretty technician to help me out. She leaned over my shoulder and looked at the computer screen and said matter of factly "Oh, you need to unzip!" I looked up at her and said "Isn't that sexual harassment?" She said, "I'm talking about your zip file you idiot, you need to unlock it". We ended up dating for a few months until she took another job in a different city. I did have fun asking her to unzip me on many occasions. We were both single and fairly junior so we never were at risk.

This is precious!

Great story!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL! This reminds me of my own IT story. About 15 years ago when I was single I was in my office and couldn't open a file that had been sent to me. I could barely spell IT so I was clueless on how to open it. I called our service desk and they sent over this really pretty technician to help me out. She leaned over my shoulder and looked at the computer screen and said matter of factly "Oh, you need to unzip!" I looked up at her and said "Isn't that sexual harassment?" She said, "I'm talking about your zip file you idiot, you need to unlock it". We ended up dating for a few months until she took another job in a different city. I did have fun asking her to unzip me on many occasions. We were both single and fairly junior so we never were at risk.

Obviously fake, there are no cute girls in IT.

My office has a ton of cute millennial women on the help desk!

[Anonymous]

You have nothing to worry about at work or with letting things lie. He would have contacted you by now if he thought there would be more to it. Sounds like a mutually beneficial evening that will be remembered only in a knowing smile as you pass each other in the hallway while exchanging casual greetings.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks for all of your thoughts. I did run into him yesterday and it was business as usual - friendly but professional. I could not help think about the great sex but I won't go there again. But I do need to get out more!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL! This reminds me of my own IT story. About 15 years ago when I was single I was in my office and couldn't open a file that had been sent to me. I could barely spell IT so I was clueless on how to open it. I called our service desk and they sent over this really pretty technician to help me out. She leaned over my shoulder and looked at the computer screen and said matter of factly "Oh, you need to unzip!" I looked up at her and said "Isn't that sexual harassment?" She said, "I'm talking about your zip file you idiot, you need to unlock it". We ended up dating for a few months until she took another job in a different city. I did have fun asking her to unzip me on many occasions. We were both single and fairly junior so we never were at risk.

Obviously fake, there are no cute girls in IT.

Many years ago, when I was working desktop support, I was working the graveyard shift with my friend. We'll call her Julie. Julie was/is an adorable bubbly blonde. I was/am brunette, and was fairly adorable simply by virtue of being 20. Anyway, we were bored and posted on a singles chat site that we were a pair of blonde and brunette 20-year old IT workers looking to double date.

Lots of guys answered, but only to tell us that they didn't believe us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for all of your thoughts. I did run into him yesterday and it was business as usual - friendly but professional. I could not help think about the great sex but I won't go there again. But I do need to get out more!

Glad to hear that it seems to be going the no-drama way. Consider it a a sign that it's a good time to get out there and start dating!

[Anonymous]

Volunteering for your next one night stand. No need to rush into that dating thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for all of your thoughts. I did run into him yesterday and it was business as usual - friendly but professional. I could not help think about the great sex but I won't go there again. But I do need to get out more!

what was it that made it so great?