Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are in a beautiful tropical resort. My husband, who has gained a lot of weight recently, is snoring like a freight train (I only mention the weigh because in his case when he gains weight he is a terrible snorer). I used to be able to nudge him and he’d roll over and be quiet but it’s not working. I’ve been up since 2am listening to this. He told me today I must be exaggerating. My only relief is when the crazy loud AC comes on for 5 minutes every 20 mins or so. Finally I just recorded him to prove I’m not nuts! I can’t go anywhere because kids are asleep in the living room area (room has a little bedroom then a pull out couch in a separate room). Tomorrow I’ll get ear plugs from the front desk and have the air run all night. But now it’s pure awful misery. And yes it’s petty because we are in a beautiful place but we have an excursion and I am going to be wrecked from lack of sleep. He in turn has done nothing to help plan and will be completely unhelpful as I wrangle the kids. He’s generally a good guy but lack of sleep and confined spaces don’t make for great trips. I’m just letting him snore it up at this point so one of us gets sleep.

I’m sorry, OP. This is the worst. Snoring is a relationship killer. Tell him he needs to take the kids later so you can nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My FIL just lost his shit over a perceived slight to his conservative values/trump. My husband felt the need to go to toe to toe with him. Husband eventually left the room but when our 11 year old told FIL that what we needed was Kamala Harris as president, I thought that he might have a heart attack. He yelled at my kids for being involved ing the conversation- my MIL cried- he apologized. My kids were involved because they were in the room when he lost his marbles. What a mess and we have 3 more days.

I feel you - this sounds like something my dad would do. His conservative principles, his politics, and his nationalism have always taken priority over his relationships with people, even his own family. He takes it as a personal insult when someone disagrees with him or expresses a different opinion. This is why I don't really enjoy visiting him or talking with him, and neither do his grandkids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this petty? My ILs sent out a photo Christmas cards of all of their grandchildren/my DC + SIL DC.

Years past, GMo would pose holding my infant DC and as the family grew, each grandparent holding a DC.

Bugs me like they are the parents?

That makes me so mad - we informed my in laws after the first time they did this that they need our permission to use our children's photos anywhere except displayed in their home. No social media, no Christmas cards. Our kids, not theirs.

That's some serious control freakishness on your part. Very weird.

Agree. Who are these crazy people?!? It’s THEIR GRANDKIDS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My FIL just lost his shit over a perceived slight to his conservative values/trump. My husband felt the need to go to toe to toe with him. Husband eventually left the room but when our 11 year old told FIL that what we needed was Kamala Harris as president, I thought that he might have a heart attack. He yelled at my kids for being involved ing the conversation- my MIL cried- he apologized. My kids were involved because they were in the room when he lost his marbles. What a mess and we have 3 more days.

I feel you - this sounds like something my dad would do. His conservative principles, his politics, and his nationalism have always taken priority over his relationships with people, even his own family. He takes it as a personal insult when someone disagrees with him or expresses a different opinion. This is why I don't really enjoy visiting him or talking with him, and neither do his grandkids.

My husband has tried to avoid visits for years but I always felt we could avoid politics and get along fine. They way he spoke to his two granddaughters today May have been a bridge to far. We have a high schooler as well, who in my mind is entirely welcome to participate in these conversations and FIL should get a grip. His mind has been completely addled by Foc News. DH doesn’t even know that he yelled at the kids because he had already left the room. If he hears about it we may be leaving early- oh wait- we flew SWA.

[Anonymous]

I believe someone touched on this earlier but why do my parents feel the need to give me details about people I don’t know?
“So this woman I was playing pickle ball with… she went to Drexel and majored in organic chemistry!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe someone touched on this earlier but why do my parents feel the need to give me details about people I don’t know?
“So this woman I was playing pickle ball with… she went to Drexel and majored in organic chemistry!”

That is my vent too!! My sister insists on talking about all her kid's friends, their parents and ppl I do not know or care about. I finally just lost it during my niece's graduation and told her to stop talking about each kid who walked across the stage and let me listen. I love her kids and would love to hear more about them and not the perceived popular kids and their "important" family members. It was ridiculous at Christmas with her overtalking everyone about strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are in a beautiful tropical resort. My husband, who has gained a lot of weight recently, is snoring like a freight train (I only mention the weigh because in his case when he gains weight he is a terrible snorer). I used to be able to nudge him and he’d roll over and be quiet but it’s not working. I’ve been up since 2am listening to this. He told me today I must be exaggerating. My only relief is when the crazy loud AC comes on for 5 minutes every 20 mins or so. Finally I just recorded him to prove I’m not nuts! I can’t go anywhere because kids are asleep in the living room area (room has a little bedroom then a pull out couch in a separate room). Tomorrow I’ll get ear plugs from the front desk and have the air run all night. But now it’s pure awful misery. And yes it’s petty because we are in a beautiful place but we have an excursion and I am going to be wrecked from lack of sleep. He in turn has done nothing to help plan and will be completely unhelpful as I wrangle the kids. He’s generally a good guy but lack of sleep and confined spaces don’t make for great trips. I’m just letting him snore it up at this point so one of us gets sleep.

This sounds awful. My husband is a terrible snorer and I've been in your shoes.

[Anonymous]

My mom has fully committed to bright white lighting. Everytime I flip a switch I feel like an interrogation or operation is about to begin.

And, yeah, she told me a long story about what Linda and Peter have been up to this year. About 5 minutes in I remembered who they are. She is a family friend I haven't seen since approximately 1986 and he is her husband I've never met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom has fully committed to bright white lighting. Everytime I flip a switch I feel like an interrogation or operation is about to begin.

And, yeah, she told me a long story about what Linda and Peter have been up to this year. About 5 minutes in I remembered who they are. She is a family friend I haven't seen since approximately 1986 and he is her husband I've never met.[/quote]

This is my dad! “You remember Blah Blah right? She was in your grade! Her younger sister made varsity volleyball as a freshman. Well
I saw her dad recently and their grandfather died.”

So someone I haven’t talked to or even thought about in thirty years. What am I to do with this info?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got presents for my step brother’s wife and her nieces and nephews and no one got anything for my young son.

Unnecessary gifting. Kids get enough crap. Just stop. Really.

No.

For the type of “gifter” above, know that everything is donated or goes up on Buy Nothing a few days after you visit. Even my kids don’t like the garbage you give, and think it’s excessive. They like gifts, not the “stuff” you give.

You’re such an unhappy person. I pity you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe someone touched on this earlier but why do my parents feel the need to give me details about people I don’t know?
“So this woman I was playing pickle ball with… she went to Drexel and majored in organic chemistry!”

My mother will tell me the race/ethnicity of the person she is talking about. Unless that person is white.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom made cake mix cupcakes and mix cookies. Ugh. They were horrible but I’d never say a word.

Mix cupcakes are really good.

Eww no. So sweet, with a weird slightly rancid aftertaste. No thanks.

Well girl, sounds like you are just too cool for school. Nobody can please you but yourself. Stick with that.

She’s just a spoiled princess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom has fully committed to bright white lighting. Everytime I flip a switch I feel like an interrogation or operation is about to begin.

And, yeah, she told me a long story about what Linda and Peter have been up to this year. About 5 minutes in I remembered who they are. She is a family friend I haven't seen since approximately 1986 and he is her husband I've never met.[/quote]

This is my dad! “You remember Blah Blah right? She was in your grade! Her younger sister made varsity volleyball as a freshman. Well
I saw her dad recently and their grandfather died.”

So someone I haven’t talked to or even thought about in thirty years. What am I to do with this info?

My mom loves to interrogate me about my which of my former high school friends I'm still talking to. I keep up with a few, I'm Facebook friends with a dozen more but we don't really talk. The answer was the same last time you asked. It will be the same next time. I'm completely uninterested in having a deeper friendship with most of my former classmates

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got presents for my step brother’s wife and her nieces and nephews and no one got anything for my young son.

Unnecessary gifting. Kids get enough crap. Just stop. Really.

No.

For the type of “gifter” above, know that everything is donated or goes up on Buy Nothing a few days after you visit. Even my kids don’t like the garbage you give, and think it’s excessive. They like gifts, not the “stuff” you give.

You’re such an unhappy person. I pity you.

NP. Plenty of us are happy to have clutter-free homes. If my kids genuinely like something, we keep it. If it’s more stuff, they voluntarily put it in a basket we keep for donations. Things on Buy Nothing usually get claimed within minutes of posting, and picked up the same day or the next day. It’s fine if you are obsessed with stuff and keep every little thing that comes your way, but plenty of us don’t hoard.

[Anonymous]

DH strained his back cooking Christmas Eve and so spent the entire following week laying on the couch, moaning and groaning about his back. At least DCs are now of enough to not need a lot of supervision, but I’ve been working long hours all week and am supremely annoyed that despite being home and off work, DH has done virtually nothing. In an effort to help him/get him to the point where he can help out again, I’ve made an appointment with my massage therapist for Sunday, New Years Day. Massage therapist is fantastic, very accommodating and wants to help before the work week starts. I tell DH and his response is that he’d rather wait a week to allow his back to rest up and heal before getting the massage 🙄🙄🙄

NO. The whole point is for you to get better so you can stop being so useless.