Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is refusing to host Christmas because I’m not speaking with my sister (we are 32 and 29 years old).

It cut off before I was done. So my grandparents are hosting Christmas, but they are ordering pizza. I’m pregnant and very emotional over this. My husband and I have decided to have our own Christmas feast.

I don’t blame your mom. She doesn’t need your drama ruining her holiday.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws want to host Christmas but don’t want us to come until 5 ( they’re local) and we’re having Chinese takeout. I don’t mind the takeout but we’ve got the whole day then will be rushing to do presents and dinner/dessert. I have to get up for work at 5am Monday so can’t stay late. We’re going to have a roast dinner at lunchtime at home just us…. Then go there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is refusing to host Christmas because I’m not speaking with my sister (we are 32 and 29 years old).

It cut off before I was done. So my grandparents are hosting Christmas, but they are ordering pizza. I’m pregnant and very emotional over this. My husband and I have decided to have our own Christmas feast.

That sounds like a good idea since you’re 50% of the reason a normal Christmas with your mom isn’t happening.

[Anonymous]

High maintenance sibling is coming for Christmas for 2 days. Super appreciate the purchase of the flight ticket, not super loving the long list of things I am required to have to host this person. I had to go to three different stores to find the specific liquid, no-sugar, no calorie sweetener drops that are needed for coffee, plus coconut water but not the kind that’s only the shelf, only the kind that’s in the fridge? Plus specific type of soap for showering and about 12 different organic fruit and veggie requests. I have 4 kids and am planning meals for 12 people, is regular sugar or Splenda really not sufficient for two mornings worth of coffee??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re at my SIL’s. I’m a coffee addict and usually power up with several shots of espresso during the first couple hours of the morning. SIL has two options for coffee: (1) single-cup pour over, which takes 7 minutes start to finish for one measly cup at a time, or (2) a $900 espresso machine you need an engineering degree to operate. I feel like the Goldilocks of coffee.

Why didn’t you pack some Starbucks VIA packets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is refusing to host Christmas because I’m not speaking with my sister (we are 32 and 29 years old).

It cut off before I was done. So my grandparents are hosting Christmas, but they are ordering pizza. I’m pregnant and very emotional over this. My husband and I have decided to have our own Christmas feast.

I don’t blame your mom. She doesn’t need your drama ruining her holiday.

+1. I wouldn’t cook a nice meal for brats who can’t pull it together and be civil for the duration of a three-hour holiday gathering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High maintenance sibling is coming for Christmas for 2 days. Super appreciate the purchase of the flight ticket, not super loving the long list of things I am required to have to host this person. I had to go to three different stores to find the specific liquid, no-sugar, no calorie sweetener drops that are needed for coffee, plus coconut water but not the kind that’s only the shelf, only the kind that’s in the fridge? Plus specific type of soap for showering and about 12 different organic fruit and veggie requests. I have 4 kids and am planning meals for 12 people, is regular sugar or Splenda really not sufficient for two mornings worth of coffee??

You’re too kind and accommodating, no way I would do this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re at my SIL’s. I’m a coffee addict and usually power up with several shots of espresso during the first couple hours of the morning. SIL has two options for coffee: (1) single-cup pour over, which takes 7 minutes start to finish for one measly cup at a time, or (2) a $900 espresso machine you need an engineering degree to operate. I feel like the Goldilocks of coffee.

Starbucks drivethru is your friend

[Anonymous]

Not petty, but FIL just violently threw a library book all the way across the room and yelled at MIL that she hadn’t put it away. And then launched into a diatribe about how she retains printed paper for reuse on the blank side because people (eg my family) can see their private info. He may not be quite right in the head? My teens were stunned and no one said anything. I wish my husband would have but the moment just…passed. We just arrived last night and are here for a week.

[Anonymous]

Brother and SIL went to visit mom for the week, and SIL brought a huge dog that wants to eat mom's tiny dog (which wants to kill SIL's huge dog). I am getting 3-4 tearful phone calls a day about dog drama. Dog drama.

[Anonymous]

We are headed back to my hometown to visit family. They don't live in an area where there is a hotel nearby and my mom's downsized house is too small to accommodate us.

That leaves my useless brother, whose entire existence is managed by SIL. They have never visited us in 20 years, or hosted overnight house guests. Not even their kid's friends.

They don't have an extra bedroom, which is fine. They do have a finished basement with a tv, ping pong table, and gym, which is where we will be staying. I asked about sleeping arrangements and he said DH and I and our teenage son could share the sectional sofa. They don't have any plans to set up a mattress or inflatable bed (money is not an issue).

So on top of loading up the car with our luggage, food, and gifts, we will also need to cram in an inflatable bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is refusing to host Christmas because I’m not speaking with my sister (we are 32 and 29 years old).

It cut off before I was done. So my grandparents are hosting Christmas, but they are ordering pizza. I’m pregnant and very emotional over this. My husband and I have decided to have our own Christmas feast.

I don’t blame your mom. She doesn’t need your drama ruining her holiday.

Ruining HER holiday? If you have kids they definitely hate you 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH communicates with his parents about exactly what we are making/providing and what we’d like them to bring (they offer), and he also reminds them that fridge and counter space are very limited.

Here they come again with their full-ass cooler of random, half-expired crap. They got pissy when DH told them flat out no, you can’t store an open can of Snapple in our overstuffed fridge; all this half-eaten stuff can stay in the cooler in the garage. Why they always feel the need to bring a small container of expired sour cream with one tablespoon remaining is beyond me. But at least he puts his foot down.

This is the content I’m here for. 😂😂😂😂😂

Me too 😂! I can totally relate to this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH communicates with his parents about exactly what we are making/providing and what we’d like them to bring (they offer), and he also reminds them that fridge and counter space are very limited.

Here they come again with their full-ass cooler of random, half-expired crap. They got pissy when DH told them flat out no, you can’t store an open can of Snapple in our overstuffed fridge; all this half-eaten stuff can stay in the cooler in the garage. Why they always feel the need to bring a small container of expired sour cream with one tablespoon remaining is beyond me. But at least he puts his foot down.

So funny but also maddening. This is my in laws too! They will bring the bones leftover from a rotisserie chicken they ate who knows how long ago to our house to “make chicken soup” when weve already planned all the meals for their visit and don’t want to make chicken soup! But I love them so I choose to just laugh about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not petty, but FIL just violently threw a library book all the way across the room and yelled at MIL that she hadn’t put it away. And then launched into a diatribe about how she retains printed paper for reuse on the blank side because people (eg my family) can see their private info. He may not be quite right in the head? My teens were stunned and no one said anything. I wish my husband would have but the moment just…passed. We just arrived last night and are here for a week.

You really stood by and:
A) Didn’t protect your MIL from an act of violence (and no, it didn’t have to hit her or anyone else to be an act of violence)
B) Didn’t show your kids that violence is not OK, and immediately told him cut it our or we are decamping to a hotel?