Unfriendly neighbors in a friendly neighborhood
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Anonymous
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We live in a friendly neighborhood, but only have one home directly next to us since we are at the edge of the neighborhood. For whatever reason, these people are so damn unfriendly. I don't know why. Other (friendly) neighbors talk about how great they are, and how lucky we are to live next
To t hem.. and they seem to. Have plenty of friends.. but have been nothing but standoffish to us from the minute we moved in. We even had a baby in our first year living next door and there was no acknowledgment whatsoever. Is this strange? I am just confused! |
Anonymous
| What do you want from them? You might think I'm standoffish but I'm actually just a quiet introvert. I don't know any of my neighbors. I'm not mean; I'm just "off" when I'm at home and relieved to not have to be chatting and friendly and "on" like I am at work. You'd get a "hi" from me, and that's about it, unless you have a dog. If you have a dog, then I'd get a little friendlier. |
Anonymous
| Why should they acknowledge your baby? They don't owe you anything. |
Anonymous
| Have you tried reaching out to them? I would feel awkward(as a new person in a neighborhood) to acknowledge a stranger's new baby. |
Anonymous
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Op here: all I expect is a hi. Maybe a smile when we pass each other. That's it. They act like we don't exist.
And as for the baby, a "congratulations! is it a boy or a girl?!" Would have been nice. I'm not asking for a meal or a gift! |
Anonymous
No, we are the new people. They watched me get visibly pregnant and then saw me with a baby carrier. You would. Have think they'd have said something, no? Or is this normal? |
Anonymous
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Maybe it is not them, but you?
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Anonymous
Maybe they are busy and their world does not revolve around random neighbors. |
Anonymous
| Do they have kids? If they don't, maybe they are infertile and you are a constant reminder. |
Anonymous
| I don't know why PPs are being so hard on you. You neighbors are acting weirdly and when someone acts weirdly without a reason it is usually about them, not you. Nod and smile at them but don't take their reactions personally. |
Anonymous
| I trust your read on the situation. Something is def up. Is there anything that you might have inadvertently done in movingly in to upset them? Do you park in front of their house? Do you put your trash cans out and put them away when you should? When you were in the process of buying your house were you persnickety buyers in some way that their old neighbors (who used to own your house) might have complained about you or gossiped about you? Did you have a Trump sign in your yard or a bumper sticker on your car? Son you have a dog and does it bark? |
Anonymous
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Do either of you have a job or employer that some people might be bothered by because it's so political? You work at Planned Parenthod? NRA?
Do you have a social media presence? Is it overly opinionated or controversial? Guaranteed these neighbors have googled you. |
Anonymous
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Hmm. There's a neighbor like this on my street. Talks to everyone except us. Given everything, I suspect she doesn't particularly like Asians. I don't know what your neighbor's deal is, but it might be some prejudice like this.
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Anonymous
Sounds like maybe they find something about you incredibly annoying. Is there anything about your family/lifestyle that might annoy people? Like a barking dog, a cat that wanders into their yard, loud music playing, a loud vehicle, or anyone smoking near their windows or anything like that? |
Anonymous
| In our old neighborhood, my neighbors never knew I was pregnant until after I had the baby. |