I feel like some non-AAP parents are starting to snub me because we are switching schools

[Anonymous]

Parents at our school are constantly saying negative things about AAP and the center, how the program is diluted and the center just gives more busywork and homework. I try not to talk about AAP at all. I can't help but feel like some parents are giving me the cold shoulder. There is one mom in particular that used to be really friendly to me. Her daughter was in pool but don't think she got in. I have not asked her directly if her daughter got in but she would talk about dates for decisions and now nothing. I did talk to another mom that I saw at orientation and she just walked away from us.

[Anonymous]

so what?! you and your kid will made new friends.

[Anonymous]

This falls into one of two scenarios.

1. Either you're projecting some of your own weird insecurities onto these other parents and imagining social snubs that don't exist.

2. The other parents are insane.

The good news is, neither of these things matter if you're leaving them in your AAP dust.

[Anonymous]

They know you are leaving. That means you made a choice to take some other school over what they have. You did choose something else. It'll be awkward for a little while. Then next year when they are happy with 3rd grade at the base and you are adjusting to the new routines, they will probably be more open to hearing about your struggles and they will feel better about their kid not being in AAP. Then your kid will adapt and the initial struggle will pass.... you will be fine, they will be fine.

Right now, they feel like you have rejected their kid's school (and you have).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They know you are leaving. That means you made a choice to take some other school over what they have. You did choose something else. It'll be awkward for a little while. Then next year when they are happy with 3rd grade at the base and you are adjusting to the new routines, they will probably be more open to hearing about your struggles and they will feel better about their kid not being in AAP. Then your kid will adapt and the initial struggle will pass.... you will be fine, they will be fine.

Right now, they feel like you have rejected their kid's school (and you have).

I agree with this. With the FCPS set up, unfortunately that's life and you just have to get used to it and be sensitive to it, and not brag that your kid got in (I'm not saying you're doing that now).

[Anonymous]

BTDT. Just focus on your kid and don't worry. Only weird thing is if you have another kid at base. BTDT too. Find friends outside of school/neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BTDT. Just focus on your kid and don't worry. Only weird thing is if you have another kid at base. BTDT too. Find friends outside of school/neighborhood.

I do have younger kids at base (not OP). Any particular advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTDT. Just focus on your kid and don't worry. Only weird thing is if you have another kid at base. BTDT too. Find friends outside of school/neighborhood.

I do have younger kids at base (not OP). Any particular advice?

Find friends outside of school/neighborhood. I could give two s-ts about what parents at my kids' schools think of me and if we're friends. Is it nice to have carpool help, sure but otherwise, who cares. I have real friends who have been through life with me.

[Anonymous]

Things will be different in September. People are hyper-sensitive to this right now. Just move forward and concentrate on your own children. You can't control how other people behave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so what?! you and your kid will made new friends.

+ 1. You are not married to them are you?

[Anonymous]

we have this in our neighborhood, with kids leaving the local level IV and going to AAP. they will all meet up again in middle school--or later in high school. the kids seem to stay in touch thru sports, scouts, the pool. just focus on the similarities, not the differences.

[Anonymous]

My kid stayed at our LLIV while some other kids went to the center. I didn't feel any hostility toward them -- why would I?-- but I also felt like if their kids were going to be at a different school next year, there wasn't really a reason for me to continue to invest emotional/social energy in them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid stayed at our LLIV while some other kids went to the center. I didn't feel any hostility toward them -- why would I?-- but I also felt like if their kids were going to be at a different school next year, there wasn't really a reason for me to continue to invest emotional/social energy in them.

Sorry -- by "them" I meant the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid stayed at our LLIV while some other kids went to the center. I didn't feel any hostility toward them -- why would I?-- but I also felt like if their kids were going to be at a different school next year, there wasn't really a reason for me to continue to invest emotional/social energy in them.

This was us too. We stayed, as did most the kids, but a small amount left for the center. We didn't feel slighted by those who opted to leave (again they were the minority), but my time is limited so I'm not going to spend it chatting up someone I won't see again for another 5 years when our kids are in middle school. I'm going to focus on the parents I'll be connected to for the next 5 years as our kids navigate AAP together and their remaining GE friend's parents.

[Anonymous]

Our eldest left to a center (not staying with the local level IV- best decision academically and socially). i had a younger sibling still at the base. DC kept getting some invitations but not that many. The clicky group at our base school did alienate people- going to the center school wasn't an issue- they were just clicky on who they and their kids should socialize with. SO glad we are not there anymore.. I am happy but so are my kids which is paramount.