I feel like some non-AAP parents are starting to snub me because we are switching schools

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's not that she's giving you the cold shoulder, maybe she just feels akward saying her child wasn't found eligible. Give her space and time. I'm sure she doesn't have animosity toward you or your child. The pp saying they feel like you rejected them is crazy. I think it's more her disappointment and coming to terms with it.

[Anonymous]

For an incremental difference in instruction, AAP wreaks havoc on relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For an incremental difference in instruction, AAP wreaks havoc on relationships

If AAP wreaks havoc on your relationships, it wasn't a real relationship to begin with. Be glad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For an incremental difference in instruction, AAP wreaks havoc on relationships

If AAP wreaks havoc on your relationships, it wasn't a real relationship to begin with. Be glad.

No it is true. I'm not PP and have one in center, one not. The parents at the center don't want to be friends or facilitate their children making new friendships once they're in 3rd. And then you drift from the friends you left behind. No one talks about it but it sucks. I am considering bringing my DD back to a less challenging environment so she will have the "neighborhood" care back.

At our base new kids are welcomed and almost fought over because everyone wants to meet and get to know them. At a center you are just a visitor.

I realize this is my experience, but I don't think I"m alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For an incremental difference in instruction, AAP wreaks havoc on relationships

If AAP wreaks havoc on your relationships, it wasn't a real relationship to begin with. Be glad.

No it is true. I'm not PP and have one in center, one not. The parents at the center don't want to be friends or facilitate their children making new friendships once they're in 3rd. And then you drift from the friends you left behind. No one talks about it but it sucks. I am considering bringing my DD back to a less challenging environment so she will have the "neighborhood" care back.

At our base new kids are welcomed and almost fought over because everyone wants to meet and get to know them. At a center you are just a visitor.

I realize this is my experience, but I don't think I"m alone.

I understand what you're saying. We walk to base but DC1 will take a bus to the center and I realize I will rarely go there and make friends like the other parents like I do when we are all walking to school in our neighborhood. For that reason I feel "lucky" that DC2 will be at our base in K this fall so I won't be leaving the school entirely. I'm also pretty social and I'm planning to force the other second grade parents going from our base to the center to hang out with me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid stayed at our LLIV while some other kids went to the center. I didn't feel any hostility toward them -- why would I?-- but I also felt like if their kids were going to be at a different school next year, there wasn't really a reason for me to continue to invest emotional/social energy in them.

This was us too. We stayed, as did most the kids, but a small amount left for the center. We didn't feel slighted by those who opted to leave (again they were the minority), but my time is limited so I'm not going to spend it chatting up someone I won't see again for another 5 years when our kids are in middle school. I'm going to focus on the parents I'll be connected to for the next 5 years as our kids navigate AAP together and their remaining GE friend's parents.

+1

[Anonymous]

The AAP center thing is awkward. At the center you are the kid bused in. And at the former base you are the person who left. It's not that people are snubbing you because of the AAP thing it's because you are not at the school anymore. But they will drift away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The AAP center thing is awkward. At the center you are the kid bused in. And at the former base you are the person who left. It's not that people are snubbing you because of the AAP thing it's because you are not at the school anymore. But they will drift away.

My kids have never felt like the kids bused in at the center. It's their school just as much as a kid who is there in Gen Ed. Also, my DC still are friends with their neighborhood friends who stayed at the base school. The center only makes things awkward if you start acting like your kid is somehow better than the Gen Ed kids at your base and center.

[Anonymous]

What is your question OP?

[Anonymous]

If a student goes to an AAP center, that is one less student for funding. If your school is a local level IV, that is one less for local level IV funding. If your local level IV principal wants to- they can play with those extra funds and do whatever they want unless frankly someone notices or objects. A lot of schools with "mixed" local level IV in Vienna use the AAP funds for other areas or resources as they need.

[Anonymous]

If a student goes to an AAP center, that is one less student for funding. If your school is a local level IV, that is one less for local level IV funding. If your local level IV principal wants to- they can play with those extra funds and do whatever they want unless frankly someone notices or objects. A lot of schools with "mixed" local level IV in Vienna use the AAP funds for other areas or resources as they WANT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a student goes to an AAP center, that is one less student for funding. If your school is a local level IV, that is one less for local level IV funding. If your local level IV principal wants to- they can play with those extra funds and do whatever they want unless frankly someone notices or objects. A lot of schools with "mixed" local level IV in Vienna use the AAP funds for other areas or resources as they WANT

Does a school receive more funding for an aap student? Our local aap center seems like it has a lot more resources than our base school (only has level iii).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a student goes to an AAP center, that is one less student for funding. If your school is a local level IV, that is one less for local level IV funding. If your local level IV principal wants to- they can play with those extra funds and do whatever they want unless frankly someone notices or objects. A lot of schools with "mixed" local level IV in Vienna use the AAP funds for other areas or resources as they WANT

Does a school receive more funding for an aap student? Our local aap center seems like it has a lot more resources than our base school (only has level iii).

No. Sometimes the PTA support at the center can make a big difference. Also, is one title I and one not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents at our school are constantly saying negative things about AAP and the center, how the program is diluted and the center just gives more busywork and homework. I try not to talk about AAP at all. I can't help but feel like some parents are giving me the cold shoulder. There is one mom in particular that used to be really friendly to me. Her daughter was in pool but don't think she got in. I have not asked her directly if her daughter got in but she would talk about dates for decisions and now nothing. I did talk to another mom that I saw at orientation and she just walked away from us.

Congratulations! you should be one proud mom!

Why do you care? Why would you listen to someone who is not a qualified educator about what AAP has to offer? Most of these parents have gather the knowledge by listening to someone else or visiting forum like this!
Do what is in best interest of your child! If AAP works for your child, go for it! Rest doesn't matter.

If they are upset that your child will attend different school then they are not happy about your child achievement! Do you want to associate with someone who always compares their child with your child? As someone has pointed out here, your child will build new friendships and life will go on.

What these parents needs to understand is that AAP has no fixed quota hence number of seats are not limited.There is a cut-off. If their child did not get in then there is a valid reason behind it. It doesn't make that child less valuable. Neither is end of the world, there are ample of opportunities to get in AAP again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For an incremental difference in instruction, AAP wreaks havoc on relationships

If AAP wreaks havoc on your relationships, it wasn't a real relationship to begin with. Be glad.

No it is true. I'm not PP and have one in center, one not. The parents at the center don't want to be friends or facilitate their children making new friendships once they're in 3rd. And then you drift from the friends you left behind. No one talks about it but it sucks. I am considering bringing my DD back to a less challenging environment so she will have the "neighborhood" care back.

At our base new kids are welcomed and almost fought over because everyone wants to meet and get to know them. At a center you are just a visitor.

I realize this is my experience, but I don't think I"m alone.

I totally agree with this! We had one at a center and this was my experience. However, our other one didn't go to the center and didn't get into AAP. Our base school started local level iv. Interestingly, most of my friends' kids got into AAP and all of a sudden, they stopped including us in things. So I got the fun of being left out at the center and then again at my bas school by not being in local level iv.