Found DH's old sex tape from 20 years ago. Trying to decide what to do

[Anonymous]

I was doing some spring cleaning in his study and while going through some boxes he had in a closet, I found a VHS tape with the name of one of his old college GF's written on it in his handwriting. I'm pretty sure it's probably a sex tape, although I can't tell for sure because we don't have a VHS machine. I don't even know anyone with a VHS anymore. Regardless, it's pretty clear what it is.

I'm trying to decide how to handle it. I'm hella angry he's kept it all these years. It's not quite like being cheated on, but it's a similar feeling.

Admittedly, he did make this long before we even knew each other, so I can't really condemn him for that part, but the fact that he kept it all this time, through three different moves, it enrages me. And why keep a VHS tape if he doesn't have a tape player to watch it on? Is this just some kind of sick male trophy type deal? It clearly hasn't been out of this box in at least a decade, judging by the dates on some of the stuff on top of the box it was in.

I'm not saying I'm going to divorce him or anything crazy. He makes a good living and I have no desire to be single, broke and with two soon to be teenagers. But I want to do something


I was thinking of maybe playing it the next time he has his office buddies over to watch a game. But as I said, we don't have a VHS machine, and he'd suspect something was up.

Ideas?

[Anonymous]

Throw it out. Then ask him why he kept it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was doing some spring cleaning in his study and while going through some boxes he had in a closet, I found a VHS tape with the name of one of his old college GF's written on it in his handwriting. I'm pretty sure it's probably a sex tape, although I can't tell for sure because we don't have a VHS machine. I don't even know anyone with a VHS anymore. Regardless, it's pretty clear what it is.

I'm trying to decide how to handle it. I'm hella angry he's kept it all these years. It's not quite like being cheated on, but it's a similar feeling.

Admittedly, he did make this long before we even knew each other, so I can't really condemn him for that part, but the fact that he kept it all this time, through three different moves, it enrages me. And why keep a VHS tape if he doesn't have a tape player to watch it on? Is this just some kind of sick male trophy type deal? It clearly hasn't been out of this box in at least a decade, judging by the dates on some of the stuff on top of the box it was in.

I'm not saying I'm going to divorce him or anything crazy. He makes a good living and I have no desire to be single, broke and with two soon to be teenagers. But I want to do something


I was thinking of maybe playing it the next time he has his office buddies over to watch a game. But as I said, we don't have a VHS machine, and he'd suspect something was up.

Ideas?

Step 1 - confirm what it IS!

Then come back and ask.

[Anonymous]

Pretty dumb to make a sex tape. Did you make one too ?
It would make me more mad if I made one with him too.

[Anonymous]

Post it on youtube then link back here.

Who cares why he kept it. He probably doesn't remember that he did. Have some fun at his expense. JK about youtube, but you could hide it and threaten to play it at the next family gathering. Again don't. But have a sense of humor, OP.

[Anonymous]

Oh Lordy.

[Anonymous]

cut the tape. move on.

[Anonymous]

What a loser for making a sexy time. Gross.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

^^ sex tape

Damn autocorrect!

[Anonymous]

This wouldn't bother me that much. I still have some pictures and momento from college ex-bf. It's in a bin thrown together with old letters from friends, old diaries, decorations from my bachelorette party, the tie my DH wore when he took me to a formal dance (20 years ago)... It's my nostalia box. Granted there is no sex tape in there, but I think it's the same concept. I'd just tell your DH to "hide" it better. You guys don't even have VHS player so it's not like he watches it!

[Anonymous]

1. you don't know for sure what it is
2. he may not have gone thru his VHS tapes and know its there. My DH just went thru his tapes because we have to declutter for a basement remodel and he's moved at least twice with me.
3. Maybe he knows he has it but would feel weird just throwing it in the garbage - heck, I'm paranoid about leaving my address labels on magazines when I recycle
4. He actually does not have a VHS machine to watch it - it would be more worrying if he kept a VHS machine just for the tapes. We are finally getting rid of our VHS and only kept it (I think) because children videos from the library 10 years ago were easier to get in VHS than DVD. I remember the potty training video from our library was VHS. So basically we've kept our VHS for potty training and apparently if my DH old sex-tapes.

[Anonymous]

If I were your DH, I would be very upset that you were going through old boxes of my stuff. Does he know and give his blessing to you sorting through his stuff in his study? Major violation of privacy. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not saying I'm going to divorce him or anything crazy. He makes a good living and I have no desire to be single, broke ....

So you'll keep him around because he makes a lot of money. And you don't wanna be broke.

There's a selection of words for women like you.