Found DH's old sex tape from 20 years ago. Trying to decide what to do

[Anonymous]

You are upset about this? Find something more productive to do.

[Anonymous]

If your husband is like mine, he is basically a hoarder and kept the tape because he is incapable of throwing anything out. I would cut the tape up, and toss it.

[Anonymous]

It was part of his life. He's reluctant to throw it out, but if he's not whacking off to it weekly instead of having sex with you, why do you really care? Isn't it akin to keeping old photos of past relationships. Maybe he feels like a stud knowing he made a sex tape once. I'm a bit of a hoarder, so I can sympathize with being reluctant to take the final and irreversible step of throwing it out. If your marriage is otherwise fine, then let him have his little secret. Jeez.

[Anonymous]

I'd watch it! But you should probably leave it where you found it and pretend it doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

I had a husband who *actually* cheated.

If your DH is a good, faithful guy, I'd put the tape back and leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

Post it online and give us a link so we can judge for ourselves.

[Anonymous]

I have no way of being able to see what's on the tape. We don't have a VHS player.

I've been searching online, and you can't find them for sale. I don't even think they still make them. The only ones I see for sale are on places are eBay and craigslist.

Does anyone have a VHS ?

[Anonymous]

You're not a big fan of your DH, I can tell. Seems like a game to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no way of being able to see what's on the tape. We don't have a VHS player.

I've been searching online, and you can't find them for sale. I don't even think they still make them. The only ones I see for sale are on places are eBay and craigslist.

Does anyone have a VHS ?

I have one. Why don't you bring it over and we can watch it together. Deal??

[Anonymous]

These boards remind me I am lucky not to have an insane and jealous wife.

He had sex before he met you. His crime is being dumb enough to keep it in the house where his jealous wife might find it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Post it online and give us a link so we can judge for ourselves.

The ex girlfriend does not deserve to be humiliated like this. OP, just throw the tape away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was doing some spring cleaning in his study and while going through some boxes he had in a closet, I found a VHS tape with the name of one of his old college GF's written on it in his handwriting. I'm pretty sure it's probably a sex tape, although I can't tell for sure because we don't have a VHS machine. I don't even know anyone with a VHS anymore. Regardless, it's pretty clear what it is.

I'm trying to decide how to handle it. I'm hella angry he's kept it all these years. It's not quite like being cheated on, but it's a similar feeling.

Admittedly, he did make this long before we even knew each other, so I can't really condemn him for that part, but the fact that he kept it all this time, through three different moves, it enrages me. And why keep a VHS tape if he doesn't have a tape player to watch it on? Is this just some kind of sick male trophy type deal? It clearly hasn't been out of this box in at least a decade, judging by the dates on some of the stuff on top of the box it was in.

I'm not saying I'm going to divorce him or anything crazy. He makes a good living and I have no desire to be single, broke and with two soon to be teenagers. But I want to do something


I was thinking of maybe playing it the next time he has his office buddies over to watch a game. But as I said, we don't have a VHS machine, and he'd suspect something was up.

Ideas?

Yes. How about you first you self reflect on what in your life has led you to becoming such an ugly person. Then apologize to your DH for going through his private things.

You don't even know what is on the tape. That is not yours and is not hurting you in any way because your husband can't even watch it. Your first response is to become jealous and vengeful. But not too vengeful, because you don't want to lose your husband's money.

Usually it is the men on these forums who make me crazy, but tonight it's you lady. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was doing some spring cleaning in his study and while going through some boxes he had in a closet, I found a VHS tape with the name of one of his old college GF's written on it in his handwriting. I'm pretty sure it's probably a sex tape, although I can't tell for sure because we don't have a VHS machine. I don't even know anyone with a VHS anymore. Regardless, it's pretty clear what it is.

I'm trying to decide how to handle it. I'm hella angry he's kept it all these years. It's not quite like being cheated on, but it's a similar feeling.

Admittedly, he did make this long before we even knew each other, so I can't really condemn him for that part, but the fact that he kept it all this time, through three different moves, it enrages me. And why keep a VHS tape if he doesn't have a tape player to watch it on? Is this just some kind of sick male trophy type deal? It clearly hasn't been out of this box in at least a decade, judging by the dates on some of the stuff on top of the box it was in.

I'm not saying I'm going to divorce him or anything crazy. He makes a good living and I have no desire to be single, broke and with two soon to be teenagers. But I want to do something


I was thinking of maybe playing it the next time he has his office buddies over to watch a game. But as I said, we don't have a VHS machine, and he'd suspect something was up.

Ideas?

Yes. How about you first you self reflect on what in your life has led you to becoming such an ugly person. Then apologize to your DH for going through his private things.

You don't even know what is on the tape. That is not yours and is not hurting you in any way because your husband can't even watch it. Your first response is to become jealous and vengeful. But not too vengeful, because you don't want to lose your husband's money.

Usually it is the men on these forums who make me crazy, but tonight it's you lady. Get a grip.

+1. Seriously, he did not make that tape *at* you. And it is not yours to throw out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no way of being able to see what's on the tape. We don't have a VHS player.

I've been searching online, and you can't find them for sale. I don't even think they still make them. The only ones I see for sale are on places are eBay and craigslist.

Does anyone have a VHS ?

Any goodwill will have a dozen to choose from.

[Anonymous]

You sound completely and totally insane OP. Next level.