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The first day of preschool. Parent can't come in!
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Anonymous
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My twins will be starting preschool in the fall. The school has a policy that parents drop off at the door.
This has me very anxious. Now I am wondering if I chose the right place. Any thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Although it sounds tough. If the school has nurturing teachers, I think they will be OK. See how it goes. Sometimes it is harder on the mom than the child. |
Anonymous
| This is a tough one. It's one thing to encourage the parents to drop-off but it's another for the school to forbid parents from entering. Truthfully, I'd call the school and say that, while you understand their policy, you respectfully ask that they allow you to bring your child inside (if this is what you truly want to do). |
Anonymous
| Is there an orientation day prior to the first day of school? |
Anonymous
Drop off at the door of their classroom or the front door to the school? I wouldn't send my child to a school that didn't allow me in. |
Anonymous
| It might be so that the kids already in the class don't freak out because of all the parents in the class. |
Anonymous
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Honestly, as a teacher, I think it is a good policy. I don't need the goodbyes to drag out or parents to "interrupt" my first day routine. trust me, many children act differntly with parents in the room.
Let your child know in the car or even the night before how it will go down when you get there. In the end, he/she will be fine. Hope it goes well. |
Anonymous
| It depends on how old the children are, and if they are ready for this. |
Anonymous
| I've been at preschools like this. After the first week, which was admittedly rough, my kids were fine with it. I was not so fine, both because I felt less than welcomed and because it's an inherent inconvenience for parents. You have to line up in the hallway for arrival, it takes some time for the kids to go one-by-one through the door, some parent in front of you inevitably has to have a conversation with the teacher (even a quick one!) and this holds up the line. Then same for dismissal. It's especially annoying to be the last person in line and find the teacher is having an involved conversation with one of the parents in front of you and can't find the time to dismiss your child, while you have places to go, a screaming infant in need of lunch, etc., etc. I found I was spending 15 minutes or so standing in the hallway twice a day. While it was nice to be able to chat with other parents, I didn't like the implied message and the logistics definitely did not work for me so I found somewhere else. |
Anonymous
That is annoying! |
Anonymous
| (I meant it's annoying that they made you wait unnecessarily.) |
Anonymous
You yanked your child for that? I hope that wasn't your only problem with the place. |
Anonymous
| Why don't you call the school and ask them if it's okay for you to stay behind (not go in the classroom) but just have a peek to see if they're okay. My DD's first school (in England) had a similar policy, but they were really great about suggesting I call to check on her. I did call in the first few days and they always gave me a report of what she was doing at that moment. Her school here in DC has parents come in to drop kids off. Some parents really have a hard time leaving and you can see that it is making the drop off worse. A short sharp goodbye and handover to the teacher would be so much better. So, trust their judgment but ask if you can call or hang around for a few minutes to assure yourself. |
Anonymous
| 21:12 here, to clarify, I've been at two preschools like that, with #1 I had numerous serious issues with them and removed my child mid-year. #2, I was there with two successive kids and both times after one year switched my child to the school where all my other children are (which started in the next age group). I will say that with preschool #2, I thought the school was fine (could have communicated better, maybe) but the drop-off and pick-up routine was definitely a big downer, especially with an infant in tow. In neither case was the drop-off and pick-up routine the primary driver of my decision to go, but getting a different routine was definitely something I looked forward to. The new school had the option of dropping off and picking up at the door, for example, much nicer on a rainy day with a sleeping younger sibling in the back seat. |
Anonymous
| Is this a never come into the school when it is in session policy? I understand parents staying out of the ay when the kids are adjusting to a new classroom. Other than that I like an open door policy. |