Things that are unintentional status symbols.

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Anonymous wrote:The meal-selection reply card is a necessity in today. There are too many people who are GF, vegetarian, pescetarian, etc.

If it's classless to make sure your guests needs are accommodated, so be it. I'd rather be classless than say "oh, you don't get to eat because some granny on DCUM said meal selection/reply cards are declasse."

Thankfully, your kind are dying out and there are far fewer sticks-in-asses these days.

Too many tacky people, you mean.

sounds fun to me.

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up.
I guess my family is of the shabby gentile variety of unintentional status symbols. Our generation is not wealthy by any means, but we have a 14 year old BMW, inherited from parents, old silver, inherited and used daily, because our everyday stuff was crap. No fancy kitchen remodel because our current one works just fine (same with bathrooms), we live in an old house with great bones, have the requisite golden, from a rescue org though. And we own a country home that is super plain. I grew up riding and DH sailing. Our kids go to privates and I work part time at home, mostly because I can't command the salary needed to farm stuff out (thank you liberal arts degrees!) Anyway, I never thought of my family as wealthy at all, mostly because we don't have much liquidity. I did BF each kid for over a year, and did cloth diapers. I never thought twice about that!

Your post cracks me up, b/c you are almost a satire of what we are talking about!

I know - I'm a bit embarrassed. I guess I'm so used to seeing new build mansions and brand new luxury cars, that our old stuff doesn't register with me. I do have a core group of friends from DC who have similar lifestyles, so they don't twice at our beater cars, or our hopelessly dated kitchen, etc.

Please, please tell me where you went to school.

No way - not on DCUM. Suffice it to say it's in DC.

I think I finally understand. A BMW that was purchased new 14 years ago by a WASP is not flashy because you can just point out that you'll be keeping it for a while, whereas a non-WASP, ie, Tacky McTackster buys a new BMW and comes across as declasse. So basically, the WASP code is: flashy isn't flashy when we do it, dig? You people are truly idiots.

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And i forgot to add - if a WASP sends her kids to private school, totally low-key. But if someone else does it . . . Well, you get the drift. I'm beginning to see the point that the OP of the anti-semitic thread was making....

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I agree PP.

Just like in the Great Gatsby, Tom and Daisy basically do the same things that Gatsby does. Except that Gatsby loves throwing parties.

Tom however is "classy" old money and Gatsby "new money" because he spends it in much the same ways that Tom does.

T&D's wedding was in the paper, he bought her a million dollar necklace. So please explain how Gatsby was any worse than Tom save for the fact that Tom could say "but I was born this way"?

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Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

Forget the weddings. We throw the BEST wakes an funerals around. I've told everyone, and put it in my will, that I want an Irish Wake. Days of eating, drinking, sharing stories, and really celebrating the deceased's life.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree PP.

Just like in the Great Gatsby, Tom and Daisy basically do the same things that Gatsby does. Except that Gatsby loves throwing parties.

Tom however is "classy" old money and Gatsby "new money" because he spends it in much the same ways that Tom does.

T&D's wedding was in the paper, he bought her a million dollar necklace. So please explain how Gatsby was any worse than Tom save for the fact that Tom could say "but I was born this way"?

Yeah, it's ok to spend money if you were born with it, that's not flashy. Yachts, sailing lessons, beat up BMWs, original Wellies, not knock-offs, of course, because what self-respecting old money type would wear knock-offs? Just don't spend money on any of these items if you had to earn it yourself. That is the definition of gaudy.

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Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

Forget the weddings. We throw the BEST wakes an funerals around. I've told everyone, and put it in my will, that I want an Irish Wake. Days of eating, drinking, sharing stories, and really celebrating the deceased's life.

Italians too. God Bless! Formal EVERYTHING - gotta love it!

The Swedes, not so much.

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No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

True. That is why we went with a sit-down, actually. Well, it's what is "done" in our family (North east Coast) but even when comparing costs, it is true that sit-down is else expensive than the other.

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Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

Forget the weddings. We throw the BEST wakes an funerals around. I've told everyone, and put it in my will, that I want an Irish Wake. Days of eating, drinking, sharing stories, and really celebrating the deceased's life.

True! We throw good everything!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

Absolutely.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

I was referring to the punch and cake receptions, in which case I certainly hope you have enough for all your guests. Actually, that shows how well you read!

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

Absolutely.

I don't know where you got married, but sit down is absolutely more expensive.