Things that are unintentional status symbols.

[Anonymous]

My mom went to a punch and cake church wedding a few months ago where they ran out of cake!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, you are a perfect candidate for a "bless your heart."

Additionally, most old school southerners don't have multi-course sit down dinner receptions (nor do they use the phrase "surf and turf").

Indeed, that was for YOUR benefit, little poseur. Figured it was a phrase you would be all too familiar with as you clearly dont go to many nice weddings, espcially not ones in the South.

South and "nice wedding" never go together. Southerns think it is appropriate to serve punch and cake to 300 people standing around in sweltering heat. If it is really fancy, there is a nasty red velvet groom's cake, too.

I like those kinds of receptions. I like them better than sit-down meals where you have to make awkward small talk with relatives that you haven't seen in years and then pray that the DJ is decent. Stand-up receptions are more like a garden party and less like a terrible Thanksgiving dinner.

Stand up receptions are cheap and short.

And if it's what people can afford, totally appropriate.

Actually, that shows how much you know! They are more expensive because you have to provide enough of everything (not just the chicken OR the fish) for everyone. You also have to have a lot extra so the food doesn't look bare. It is significantly more expensive to have a very nice reception with food stations and passed hors d'ouevres than a plated dinner.

Absolutely.

I don't know where you got married, but sit down is absolutely more expensive.

No. Really. It's not.

Signed,
Had a Sit-Down; It Was Cheaper

[Anonymous]

^^ totally depends on your caterer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom went to a punch and cake church wedding a few months ago where they ran out of cake!!!

What state?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up.
I guess my family is of the shabby gentile variety of unintentional status symbols. Our generation is not wealthy by any means, but we have a 14 year old BMW, inherited from parents, old silver, inherited and used daily, because our everyday stuff was crap. No fancy kitchen remodel because our current one works just fine (same with bathrooms), we live in an old house with great bones, have the requisite golden, from a rescue org though. And we own a country home that is super plain. I grew up riding and DH sailing. Our kids go to privates and I work part time at home, mostly because I can't command the salary needed to farm stuff out (thank you liberal arts degrees!) Anyway, I never thought of my family as wealthy at all, mostly because we don't have much liquidity. I did BF each kid for over a year, and did cloth diapers. I never thought twice about that!

Your post cracks me up, b/c you are almost a satire of what we are talking about!

I know - I'm a bit embarrassed. I guess I'm so used to seeing new build mansions and brand new luxury cars, that our old stuff doesn't register with me. I do have a core group of friends from DC who have similar lifestyles, so they don't twice at our beater cars, or our hopelessly dated kitchen, etc.

Please, please tell me where you went to school.

No way - not on DCUM. Suffice it to say it's in DC.

All-girl Catholic school in DC is my bet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walking to the grocery store because you simply cannot abide having to freeze some chicken.

Owning a Vitamix, a Sodastream, and a Nespresso.

Not wearing make-up.

I don't wear makeup. Never have. Not a status symbol. I just don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom went to a punch and cake church wedding a few months ago where they ran out of cake!!!

[Anonymous]

Those of you who don't like long receptions do not, I'm guessing, like to drink/dance/flirt. Weddings are the best for that!

[Anonymous]

Mmmmm punch and cake...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

Forget the weddings. We throw the BEST wakes an funerals around. I've told everyone, and put it in my will, that I want an Irish Wake. Days of eating, drinking, sharing stories, and really celebrating the deceased's life.

Italians too. God Bless! Formal EVERYTHING - gotta love it!

The Swedes, not so much.

\


I attended Swedish weddings in Sweden (although not many people actually get married there any more). They had an MC, different members of each family did skits about the couple, sang songs, read poems, played music and everyone drank themselves silly. They were great fun and on some level meaningful as they were about the lives of the couple being married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who don't like long receptions do not, I'm guessing, like to drink/dance/flirt. Weddings are the best for that!

I like drinking and dancing for two or three hours, with the possibility of carrying on if it's fun. I don't like being stuck for six hours no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Irish people throw good weddings too!

Forget the weddings. We throw the BEST wakes an funerals around. I've told everyone, and put it in my will, that I want an Irish Wake. Days of eating, drinking, sharing stories, and really celebrating the deceased's life.

Italians too. God Bless! Formal EVERYTHING - gotta love it!

The Swedes, not so much.

\


I attended Swedish weddings in Sweden (although not many people actually get married there any more). They had an MC, different members of each family did skits about the couple, sang songs, read poems, played music and everyone drank themselves silly. They were great fun and on some level meaningful as they were about the lives of the couple being married.

Yes!!! PP- my mom is 100% Irish. My dad 1/2 Italian. Great, fun loud wakes, funerals, Holidays, Weddings, etc. Fantastic!!!! I LOVE family events and my ENTIRE family--immediate and extended--_SOOO much fun!!!!

[Anonymous]

Well yeah, Irish and Italian is given that it is a great time


Not so familiar with other European weddings. I know some sullen Swedes in the States, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice a lot of moms whose kids are in private school drive Suburbans or Escalades. It is too much of a coincidence so maybe it is some sort of status symbol.

Suburbans are considered too un-green. And Escalades are only status symbols for drug dealers.

+1 they are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

For a minority, having a tall, at least average looking, non-weird, sociable white spouse.