If you show up at a date and are IMMEDIATELY not feeling it

[Anonymous]

...is it rude to just leave? I don't want to have to sit there for two hours feeling awkward, and in a way I feel like the other person wouldn't want their time wasted either.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's rude to just leave.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

And don't think he won't see through some lame subterfuge like getting an "emergency phone call so you have to leave now, sorry" either.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is rude. How can this be a question?

[Anonymous]

it just SUCKS having to sit through a date when you know you're not into the person. total waste of time.

[Anonymous]

I once arrived at a date and the guy was wearing a wedding ring
I told him this wasn't going to work for me and walked right out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once arrived at a date and the guy was wearing a wedding ring
I told him this wasn't going to work for me and walked right out.

Probably one of the few exceptions!!

[Anonymous]

Just try to enjoy the meal and think of it as a platonic situation. Always just be kind and treat them how you would want to be- you never know what will happen in the future

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once arrived at a date and the guy was wearing a wedding ring
I told him this wasn't going to work for me and walked right out.

I probably would have pointed at the ring and told him "It was nice meeting you. Give me a call when you're really available."

[Anonymous]

Is it rude to be super rude?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I would still bail. Going on a date with someone you know will result in nothing is also a waste of time and rude.

[Anonymous]

It would be rude to leave; however, it would also be rude to lead him on. Talk, be polite, it's only a couple of hours. go home and never see him again

[Anonymous]

If he's just not quite your type, but is otherwise polite and reasonable, I'd feel obligated to stay.

If he is rude, or clearly misrepresented himself to you (he's 50 pounds heavier than his photo, etc.), I think you're off the hook.

[Anonymous]

duh, this is why a first date should also be something quick like meeting up for a drink or a cup of coffee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I would still bail. Going on a date with someone you know will result in nothing is also a waste of time and rude.

Just because you know that you aren't going to date the person doesn't mean that it isn't worthwhile to spend a meal and chitchat. Be polite, talk about local news, local events, whatever you had planned to talk about when you thought there was the potential for a connection. Finish the meal, then say something pleasant about meeting them and go on your way. Sharing a friendly meal with someone is not a waste of time. It's sad that people only feel that spending time with another person is worth their while if there is a future relationship.