It depends a lot of where you live and which school you go to. For a kid from Carlin Springs, for example, there’s a big difference between going to Campbell and going to ATS. |
| I’ve heard that at the start of middle school ATS kids can get a little frozen out at Jefferson and a Gunston but eventually people get over it. It seems like it’s not such a big issue at Kenmore, probably because there are more former ATS kids there. |
| I would worry more about ATS kids not knowing anyone from Williamsburg. Almost nobody from the Williamsburg feeders sends their kids to ATS. My daughter and I literally know of only two kids from her cohort who will be going there. Tons of kids going to Swanson, kenmore and Jefferson. |
PP didn’t ask about kids from wealthy North Arlington neighborhoods do in middle school, she asked about how kids from lower income neighborhoods do. Try to keep up. |
It sounds like if you live next to the Poors but send your kids to school with UMC kids will they develop poor habits from nearby friends? |
It’s time to put the bottle down. |
What does that mean, ATS kids can get frozen out at Jefferson? My son's best friend at Jefferson went to ATS. Our experience is that a lot of the ATS people go to HB; so a lot of the ATS kids my kids know don't go to our neighborhood Jefferson school. |
Well that was a whole bunch of word salad. |
| Frozen out? What are you teaching your kids. Say hello make friends. Where a kid comes from doesn’t matter... oh wait does it? |
Plenty of low income families understand that where you come from matters. |
Especially when "where you come from" is the place you went to get away from them. |
I think PP was just pointing out that there are fewer ATS kids at Jefferson and Gunston than the other schools mentioned. Jefferson and Gunston are probably harder to "break into" socially, because so many of the kids DO attend neighborhood elementaries (Henry/Long Branch or Oakridge/Abingdon, plus the Immersion kids at Gunston stick to themselves), so friend groups are already established from ES. It has nothing to do with where a kids lives or where they come from, it's simply who they already know. I bet the kids coming into those schools from option schools are eventually welcomed into a group by a neighbor or kid they know from sports. As a parent of an option school kid, we go out of our way to have child play sports and do camps with either neighborhood kids or friend groups outside of school so that the kid is better accustomed to breaking into new groups/making new friends. It's a life skill. |
I’m an out going officer of the asfs pta so I feel like I should correct the misinformation being spread here. At the first pta meeting elections were supposed to be held, there were at least fifteen adults who do not have kids at the school present. I know this based off of the sign in sheet. This was the first meeting I had seen this, but it’s possible that they’ve been coming for a while. At that first meeting, there were a number of people making comments that are inconsistent with asfs community values. For example, I saw someone make fun of a parent asking a question in broken English. I don’t know if that person is a member of our community or not, but behavior like that is appalling and not welcome at our school. At the second pta meeting where we voted, I saw at least three adults who do not have children at the school. I recognize one from the televised school board meetings and I talked to other two. A large number of people did leave right after the vote, but that was due to Ramadan and the provided child care ending. Early is also relative: they left at 7:30 or later, which many with small kids might consider late for a weeknight. I agree people who are not current members of the community have a right to join and contribute, but I have not seen any of them outside of these two meetings. If this is the new normal, we need to be more stringent about running background checks on volunteers. I would hate for someone to use this as a way to gain access for more nefarious reasons like child abuse or school violence. |
Are you seriously trying to associate Cherrydale parents attending ASFS PTA meetings with child abuse and school shootings? WTF is wrong with you? |
Pp here and of course I am not. I’ve been at the school for a long time, and I have no issue with establishing a walk zone or adding a traffic light or crossing guard at kirkwood so the walk zone can be expanded. I do have an issue with inviting strangers into our schools. I am saying that as a county we should be careful about encouraging people who are not current parents to be actively involved in our schools. I welcome any support the community wants to give and if people are joining because they want to contribute time and resources I welcome that. Aps has a volunteer vetting process. If the new normal is that large numbers of volunteers for our ptas are going to be people who do not have kids at the community (which from earlier threads it is), then we need to be more stringent about making sure we follow the established process for vetting. I don’t like the idea of someone with no connection to the school regularly shelving books in the library if we haven’t verified it’s not a known sex offender. |