NCS Parents - "I wish I had known x" type advice.

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I don't question that there are parents whose kids did not have a good experience at NCS. (I feel like 25% of people at my high school were not happy, and maybe 50% of the girls -- high school is a really tough age, for girls in particular often.)

Saying things like "all teachers and administrators at School X don't care at all about students" just does not make sense to me, however. I've met bitter people who either stayed in teaching too long or shouldn't have started out in teaching, but not "everyone" at a school or in an administration. My experience is that people go into teaching because they like engaging with children! And even very challenging teachers generally do it because they think that's showing more, not less, concern for students.

So it's those sorts of very blanket statements that I have trouble with.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't question that there are parents whose kids did not have a good experience at NCS. (I feel like 25% of people at my high school were not happy, and maybe 50% of the girls -- high school is a really tough age, for girls in particular often.)

Saying things like "all teachers and administrators at School X don't care at all about students" just does not make sense to me, however. I've met bitter people who either stayed in teaching too long or shouldn't have started out in teaching, but not "everyone" at a school or in an administration. My experience is that people go into teaching because they like engaging with children! And even very challenging teachers generally do it because they think that's showing more, not less, concern for students.

So it's those sorts of very blanket statements that I have trouble with.

Ok I agree with you. I do not ever single out teachers or administrators and I do think they care. In fact I thinkthe teachers care quite. But I agree it is unkind to say the administrators do not care. But they have multiple priorities and the happiness of the gils is not high on the list.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't question that there are parents whose kids did not have a good experience at NCS. (I feel like 25% of people at my high school were not happy, and maybe 50% of the girls -- high school is a really tough age, for girls in particular often.)

Saying things like "all teachers and administrators at School X don't care at all about students" just does not make sense to me, however. I've met bitter people who either stayed in teaching too long or shouldn't have started out in teaching, but not "everyone" at a school or in an administration. My experience is that people go into teaching because they like engaging with children! And even very challenging teachers generally do it because they think that's showing more, not less, concern for students.

So it's those sorts of very blanket statements that I have trouble with.

Ok I agree with you. I do not ever single out teachers or administrators and I do think they care. In fact I thinkthe teachers care quite. But I agree it is unkind to say the administrators do not care. But they have multiple priorities and the happiness of the gils is not high on the list.

And fair enough back at you. I think it's a great institution but they really need to work on just what you have said: the overall happiness of the girls.

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Anonymous wrote:You are so silly with your "two or three posters" line. This is a 70 page thread and none believes it is two or three posters bashing the school. The truth is the truth and I started hearing murmurings when my daughter was in middle school from the upper school parents. I naively and arrogantly thought " oh well that kid can't cut it. It won't be my kid. " my kid was a superstar and still deeply dislike the experience especially at the end. And I had heard this from many parents for several years before my daughter became a senior. These were also the kids who graduated at the ltop of the class and won awards.

So you see silly poster of "there are only one or two of you" your dismissiveness makes me want to prove others points even more. I think the posters have been very balanced and fair.

Nope. Somewhere in the middle of this thread a few of you started identifying yourselves... and it really was just a couple of repeat posters. Including two very disgruntled grads from the early 90s, apparently, not that their experience is relevant 20 years later. Look, I have no connection to the place, but you need to understand that spraying hate around makes everyone wonder whether, I dunno, you're the Holton booster (less likely) or the problem really is you (more likely).

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Noone is spraying hate around and you ar ethe one with extreme views. There are many, many families unhappy with their NCS experience and there are many more than two or three posters. Your insistence that this is so just makes others of us want to disprove your assertion. You realize you are encouraging more dissent by insiting it is limited to two posters, which noone is buying anyway.

Look, I am sure NCS is struggling and I hope they do some soul searching. Kid got a great education. Would never do it again and neither would she. That is really significant and NCS should take it seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:Noone is spraying hate around and you ar ethe one with extreme views. There are many, many families unhappy with their NCS experience and there are many more than two or three posters. Your insistence that this is so just makes others of us want to disprove your assertion. You realize you are encouraging more dissent by insiting it is limited to two posters, which noone is buying anyway.

Look, I am sure NCS is struggling and I hope they do some soul searching. Kid got a great education. Would never do it again and neither would she. That is really significant and NCS should take it seriously.

You've posted that bit a few times now, about how you and supposedly others want to "disprove the assertion" that there's just a few of you. But the fact that one poster -- you! -- keeps posting the same thing kinda proves the point, dontcha think?

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Posted it once. Many others have posted and I am not the disgruntled student. Nice try. You see, I will keep answering you and keep this thread at he top ( bad idea for NCS) until you ralize you are doing the school more harm than good with your dismissiveness.

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Anonymous wrote:Posted it once. Many others have posted and I am not the disgruntled student. Nice try. You see, I will keep answering you and keep this thread at he top ( bad idea for NCS) until you ralize you are doing the school more harm than good with your dismissiveness.

And then will you hold your breath until you turn blue so that you can have your way?

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You first!

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This thread is interesting. I have a question: why was your daughter so unhappy at NCS? Was it a toxic social atmosphere? Why does your daughter think it wasn't worth the good education. Does the school turn a blind eye to the social needs of the students?

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Anonymous wrote:Posted it once. Many others have posted and I am not the disgruntled student. Nice try. You see, I will keep answering you and keep this thread at he top ( bad idea for NCS) until you ralize you are doing the school more harm than good with your dismissiveness.

And then will you hold your breath until you turn blue so that you can have your way?

+1. You keep coming back to post again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. And again. For 40+pages.

Which is exactly the point people here are making about the NCS bashers - just 1-2 people with ugly obsessions. (PS - I don't care about keeping this thread at the top because we don't/didn't have a kid at NCS. Several of us just think you're nuts, and this OCD hatred clearly undermines whatever points you're trying to make.)

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Anonymous wrote:You are so silly with your "two or three posters" line. This is a 70 page thread and none believes it is two or three posters bashing the school. The truth is the truth and I started hearing murmurings when my daughter was in middle school from the upper school parents. I naively and arrogantly thought " oh well that kid can't cut it. It won't be my kid. " my kid was a superstar and still deeply dislike the experience especially at the end. And I had heard this from many parents for several years before my daughter became a senior. These were also the kids who graduated at the ltop of the class and won awards.

So you see silly poster of "there are only one or two of you" your dismissiveness makes me want to prove others points even more. I think the posters have been very balanced and fair.

Nope. Somewhere in the middle of this thread a few of you started identifying yourselves... and it really was just a couple of repeat posters. Including two very disgruntled grads from the early 90s, apparently, not that their experience is relevant 20 years later. Look, I have no connection to the place, but you need to understand that spraying hate around makes everyone wonder whether, I dunno, you're the Holton booster (less likely) or the problem really is you (more likely).

There are more than a couple of repeat posters on this thread.

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This is a long thread but I still cannot figure out what the negative poster didn't like about the school. What didn't the administration take care of that led you to believe that they didn't care enough about the students? You can give general ideas, not specifics.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are so silly with your "two or three posters" line. This is a 70 page thread and none believes it is two or three posters bashing the school. The truth is the truth and I started hearing murmurings when my daughter was in middle school from the upper school parents. I naively and arrogantly thought " oh well that kid can't cut it. It won't be my kid. " my kid was a superstar and still deeply dislike the experience especially at the end. And I had heard this from many parents for several years before my daughter became a senior. These were also the kids who graduated at the ltop of the class and won awards.

So you see silly poster of "there are only one or two of you" your dismissiveness makes me want to prove others points even more. I think the posters have been very balanced and fair.

Nope. Somewhere in the middle of this thread a few of you started identifying yourselves... and it really was just a couple of repeat posters. Including two very disgruntled grads from the early 90s, apparently, not that their experience is relevant 20 years later. Look, I have no connection to the place, but you need to understand that spraying hate around makes everyone wonder whether, I dunno, you're the Holton booster (less likely) or the problem really is you (more likely).

There are more than a couple of repeat posters on this thread.

How is Holton working out for your DD?