Sexless marriage --> sexy marriage ?
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Anonymous
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Men, women. Anybody who has been in a sexless marriage.
How long did he sexless last? Did you have an affair during the sexlessness? if no, how did that impact your spouse/marriage? How did you climb back out of sexless to sexy? |
Anonymous
| I don't know but I find it disturbing that I want to have sex with my physical therapist so badly but have zero desire to have sex with DH. I won't do it because I don't want to torpedo our lives. Not worth it in the end. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Getting a vasectomy and having her ditch the hormonal birth control helped a little. Sexlessness was making me feel more disconnected -- like I was just a valuable contributor to my wife's home financing and child raising goals. Not saying it's all better, but the worst of it lasted for about 6 years -- after the birth of our second child when the IUD was put in until the second kid reached school age, and I concluded that (with the kid now in school full time) the stresses of taking care of kids couldn't be entirely to blame for the lack of sex. |
Anonymous
NP. Ugh, you suck, Mrs. Shocked Emoticon. Go suck DH off and make sure to say your prayers with additional rosaries to get past the shock. |
Anonymous
Probably not as disturbing as your DH would find it. |
Anonymous
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Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating. |
Anonymous
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My experience almost identical to PP above. About 7 years, not totally sexless, but month long droughts, averaging 2x a month and she was never into it. Like above, ditching hormonal BC helped, as did youngest hitting kindergarten.
I can't describe the horrific effect it had on our marriage. We unraveled. I would have been one of those "sex isn't everything" posters, until it happened to me. I really stopped caring what she thought. But for our kids, I would have left. If you would have asked DW through all of this, she would have told you we had a good marriage. Delusional. She thinks no one really has sex with small kids. Reading these boards, I think she may be half right. No wonder so many men cheat during these years. Affairs x2. Never caught. They kept me from walking out in total anger. Doing better now. Probably a combo of her drive coming up, mine coming down. I would be happy with 3-4x a week, her 2x a month, we settle on about 1x a week. It's workable. |
Anonymous
How did you meet AP? |
Anonymous
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again. |
Anonymous
Are you man or woman? |
Anonymous
I'm the PP who wants to have sex with her physical therapist. I'm jealous that you get to travel through work and have that escape. My job is the least sexy ever and I only ever come into contact with middle aged women. Maybe it's for the best, though. Better to not be tempted. |
Anonymous
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So much porn.
I can't imagine what a sexless marriage must have been like before the Internet. More booze, I suppose. |
Anonymous
I feel you. We have the one and she wanted another. I said no. With basically no sex now why would I? Had one AP. |
Anonymous
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well, I never cheated (was approached by women a handful of times) and I finally couldn't take the lack of intimacy anymore so I gave her the choice - she chose divorce. I'm now very happily partnered up and having so much more sex in the last 2 years than my previous 10 year marriage.
ExW seems to be doing fine, still single according to friends. |