Why does my mother find it impossible to stop talking?

[Anonymous]

Even if we're watching a movie or somebody is reading, she can't be quiet for more than a minute or two. She hasn't even been here for 24 hours and I'm exhausted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if we're watching a movie or somebody is reading, she can't be quiet for more than a minute or two. She hasn't even been here for 24 hours and I'm exhausted.

My mother used to be the same. Now she's gone, and I miss it along with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if we're watching a movie or somebody is reading, she can't be quiet for more than a minute or two. She hasn't even been here for 24 hours and I'm exhausted.

My mother used to be the same. Now she's gone, and I miss it along with her.

Of course somebody had to come in with that old standby. So we got that out of the way.

[Anonymous]

My aunt is a big talker. Some people are just this way. I find it a little like a white noise machine.

[Anonymous]

When my 11yo DD talks through movies, it's impulsiveness.

When my grandmother talks and talks and talks, it's anxiety.

Either of those possibilities?

[Anonymous]

My friend does this. It's anxiety. She is completely exhausting. She never stops talking. Not even for a second and when I talk she doesn't listen. I hate that she's so anxious but it does a number on my psyche to spend more than a couple of hours with her.

[Anonymous]

My sister. NON STOP.

And all in everyone's business.

[Anonymous]

If she lives alone, it is the thrill of being around other people.

[Anonymous]

My mom too! When there's a moment of silence, you can see she can't stand it, and is wracking her brain for something to say. And doesn't ever pick up on hints that you're ok not talking. like when you're reading the paper.

[Anonymous]

My brother is like this, and with him it's extreme anxiety.

Does your mom settle down after the first couple of days? I have to monitor my talkativeness the first day or two that I see family, if it's been a while, because I have a lot of pent-up feelings of missing them, and get too talky sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister. NON STOP.

And all in everyone's business.

My mother-in-law also. And it's definitely a mental health issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother is like this, and with him it's extreme anxiety.

Does your mom settle down after the first couple of days? I have to monitor my talkativeness the first day or two that I see family, if it's been a while, because I have a lot of pent-up feelings of missing them, and get too talky sometimes.

No, it's constant. She's done it to both of her husbands and now with the boyfriend that she's lived with for years. She does it to her dog too.

[Anonymous]

Both my mother and my MIL do this. My mom is local, so we only have to deal with it for an afternoon or an evening or so. We're traveling tomorrow to stay with MIL and I'm dreading it because she's also one of those people who believe that we all MUST BE TOGETHER EVERY MOMENT. If I go to the bathroom and am gone for more than 5 minutes she starts calling for me to see where I am. If I'm reading a book on the couch she'll sit down across from me and start talking to me and will complain to DH that I'm being rude by reading. We have to talk while watching TV or watching movies. I'm an introvert who works with people all day and I just want some downtime to recharge for a few days and I don't get a minute of downtime there. I know I need to suck it up and deal, especially because she lives alone and is lonely, but it's exhausting.

Deep breaths....

[Anonymous]

Maybe ADHD too?

[Anonymous]

Lol..this is my mom too. She completely dominates the conversation and it is all about her. After a while, I just nod and smile hoping she will stop. If I have friends over, she interrupts me to make sure she gets her thoughts out. She is coming after Christmas, so I am enjoying the quiet now.