Is my sis being passive agressive or am I too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

I didn't have time to wrap and mail my 2-year old nephew's Christmas present so I had the order shipped directly to my sister. I know that's annoying and I don't have a great excuse except that I'm busy. She sends me this message: Thank you for the XXX!! I will wrap it for Xmas day. Larlo will love it.

While a nice message, I don't understand why she had to include the sentence about needing to wrap it and I'm annoyed that she would say that. Admittedly, I'm feeling a little guilty that I didn't make the effort to wrap the present myself. So tell me, is she trying to stick it to me or am I being way too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Uh no she's letting you know she's not just gonna hand it to him and be like "aunt Larla got you this." She's doing you a favor and you're calling her passive aggressive for it.

[Anonymous]

Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

[Anonymous]

I am hyper sensitive about everything and I wouldn't think twice about that message. I don't think she meant anything by it.

[Anonymous]

Op I think you're being too sensitive. She was probably just letting you know that she got it, appreciates it and plans to wrap it. She probably doesn't even care that its not wrapped. I wouldn't care about that.

[Anonymous]

That's a nice message. You are definitely too sensitive (and probably feeling guilty about not wrapping).

[Anonymous]

This navel-gazing, over-analyzing every interaction by sensitive millenials is really tiring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

OP here. This is what I think my sister thinks!!

[Anonymous]

I don't understand how you're reading anything negative in this nice little message your sister sent.

And the question of wrapped or not wrapped is really just a tiny insignificant blip. At least there's a gift!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

OP here. This is what I think my sister thinks!!

OP again. I would have been fine if my sister just put the gifts under the tree without wrapping or back in the original shipping box (which I've done in the same situation!). But just to set the record straight, she DOES have more time than me to wrap presents, and she would be the first to admit it. I'm not saying that that means she should, just saying the premise of your argument is flawed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, you're like my sister who has no kids, doesn't host anyone, doesn't visit anyone, and then will claim she was "too busy" or "didn't have time" to shop. I don't even care if she gets my kids anything but seriously don't act like you had less time than your sister who has a 2 yo did. You just didn't want to wrap which is fine. Quit making it sound like you're some victim here.

OP here. This is what I think my sister thinks!!

OP again. I would have been fine if my sister just put the gifts under the tree without wrapping or back in the original shipping box (which I've done in the same situation!). But just to set the record straight, she DOES have more time than me to wrap presents, and she would be the first to admit it. I'm not saying that that means she should, just saying the premise of your argument is flawed.

Don't you have a bullet journal to fill or some artisanal pickles to make?

[Anonymous]

She said, your niece will love it! Sounds nice to me! She didn't have to say that...

[Anonymous]

Too sensitive!
No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Totally too sensitive. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

I think she said that just so you would know that the kid didn't get the present immediately.