Found out that I was played for a fool
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So tired of this stuff. Should I do anything here, or just learn and move on?
I dated a guy for two years. He always said that he wanted to marry me. We never fought. We had a great time together - always! Really just ideal. So one day he started acting differently. Just less into me. Within two weeks he broke with me. It was hard, but I accepted it. He gave some lame excuse (a non-reason, really). So I just found out that he had been cheating on me for 1/4 (at least) of our relationship and is now LIVING with this woman. Three weeks ago he was talking about our future. I know I should just realize that I dodged a bullet (cheater) and move on. But I feel so stupid and played. I really want to text him and tell him that I know what a cheater he is. Should I let this go? Some sort of crazy revenge? I am just so sad over it and I want to feel better. Any advice for me? Thank you. |
Anonymous
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The best revenge is to move on and cut off all contact with him. Knowing that losing him wasn't a big deal to you is what will drive him the most crazy. Delete him from your life and move on. If you do this, I can pretty much guarantee at some point in the future he'll reach back out to you. Don't respond at all, but be smug that things didn't turn out so great for him after all.
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Anonymous
| Move on. Seeking revenge only adds to the bitterness and reflects badly on you. You will feel better about yourself if you take the high road. Delete him from everything. If he left anything at your place give it away to charity. |
Anonymous
| No revenge, just move on. There is someone much better out there for you. |
Anonymous
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Did he ever say he was committed to you alone?
If not... then really you have no cause for complaint. |
Anonymous
Yes, he did. He forgot to mention that he was sticking his dick in other people. |
Anonymous
This. He already knows he's a cheater, and your telling him you know won't matter to him. It's infuriating and painful right now, but after you've healed, when you look back you'll be glad you didn't get a committment from this jerk. |
Anonymous
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Nothing would swell this guy's ego to know that you're in pieces over him.
As hard as it may be: go radio silent. Best way to get over him and his cheating. At least you didn't marry this guy and have kids. |
Anonymous
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Definitely cut bait and move on. Thirteen and a half years ago, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me just as we were about to move in together. He had just bought a condo for "us." I told him I would buy my own place, and he guffawed and said, "You're not buying shit."
Well, six months later - 13 years ago this week - I moved into my own condo. And wouldn't you know, he came crawling back to me. I wasn't interested anymore, I realized life had much more to offer than that loser. (p.s. - be smarter than me and don't eventually marry someone who is a lot like the ex you were glad to be rid of.) |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PPs, OP. Cut the cancer of him out of your life forever. He know what he did. Give him no satisfaction. Move on. I know it's easier said than done. Hug. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry, OP. I know that hurts really bad. Take comfort in the fact you weren't the skeevy nasty liar. He's gross and will stay that way, most likely. Can you look back and see any signs? That's the only thing I'd do. Check my "picker." There may be NOTHING wrong with yours and this guy is just a weird flake. But I found that "I" picked less-than-ideal partners for a long time. Otherwise, just try to focus on you. Good exercise, good food, good friends, good enrichment. Make some new rituals without him. It will hurt for awhile, but then you'll pull out of it and be ready to meet someone who truly deserves you. |
Anonymous
| Wow the responses are mature. I think of the other woman who likely is clueless about his cheating. Shouldn't the OP let her know? |
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Anonymous
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No OP, you were not played for a fool. You were a loving person committed to a relationship. It is the other person who is a fool. Sure it hurts, but be glad you are rid of him.
Not every guy sucks like him. |
Anonymous
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Trust me, karma never forgets a face.
Eventually his true authentic colors will soon emerge and this new lady in his life will have to deal w/him. Be grateful....He is now HER problem now. No longer yours!! 
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