DS wants to have sleepovers, but is still in pull-ups at night

[Anonymous]

No, don't let him. He'll be teased by others when they find out.

This will give him incentive to ditch the pull ups. That's the bigger problem.

Have him start sleeping in pjs without pull ups. Calmly change the sheets in the morning after accidents so he won't feel bad.
Eventually he'll learn to not pee in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he wear Pj's at night? I'd think he could easily just put on a pull up under his Pj's, and none of the other kids would even need to know.

Hi there. DS does not wear pajamas. He's never really been a pajama wearing kid at all, on the occasion we can get him to wear them, he usually ends up taking them off sometime in the night anyways. At home he usually sleeps in just a pull-up.

He needs to start wearing pajama bottoms if he is going to wear pull ups to other people’s homes. It is not socially acceptable to have a 7 year old kid only in pull ups at a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, don't let him. He'll be teased by others when they find out.

This will give him incentive to ditch the pull ups. That's the bigger problem.

Have him start sleeping in pjs without pull ups. Calmly change the sheets in the morning after accidents so he won't feel bad.
Eventually he'll learn to not pee in bed.

Get him a bell pad and start a training program. They work but parents need to be willing to get the child up immediately when the alarm goes off and take them to the toilet. We had our SN daughter trained in a few nights. https://bedwettingstore.com/pages/buyers-guide-bell-and-pad-alarms

[Anonymous]

I think you know this is inappropriate.

Your kid sleeps in a diaper and doesn’t even wear pajamas over it? He cannot walk around another family’s house in just a diaper. He’s SEVEN!!! That is not okay.

You know this is not okay. Stop trying to convince yourself otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He needs to start wearing pajama bottoms if he is going to wear pull ups to other people’s homes. It is not socially acceptable to have a 7 year old kid only in pull ups at a sleepover.

Anonymous wrote:
I think you know this is inappropriate.

Your kid sleeps in a diaper and doesn’t even wear pajamas over it? He cannot walk around another family’s house in just a diaper. He’s SEVEN!!! That is not okay.

You know this is not okay. Stop trying to convince yourself otherwise.

Hi there.

If I came off as a bit ignorant, sorry about that. With the lockdowns, and general covid protocol of the past year and a half or so - this truly is our first ever time attempting something like this. I honestly have no clue what is and is no considered OK, as this isn't really a topic that I've discussed or really even though of that much ever until very recently.

DS is on the swim team with these two boys, so modesty wasn't necessarily a major issue that I thought of right off the bat. Our families are quite close and supported each other big time throughout the pandemic (we live close to each other).

Right now he only goes around the house wearing just a pull-up when he's with his own family, or staying with his grandparents. If a sleepover were to happen, the idea was that he would wear a VERY large t-shirt (ie, one that goes down his knees or so) to keep things more discreet.

I've promised we've tried to get him interested in wearing pajamas in the past, but for the most part he's never been interested.

[Anonymous]

I slept in just a pullup until i was 10 even with a friend over and it was never a problem, i would say go for it if your son trust his friends not to bother him about it. ~joe

[Anonymous]

PP who suggested the pajama pants again. I think the long t-shirt would be fine with such close friends. Go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP who suggested the pajama pants again. I think the long t-shirt would be fine with such close friends. Go for it.

NP here. So he'd be wearing an oversized t-shirt but with no pants on underneath? I don't know that I'd be OK with that, at another family's house.

Does the friend have any other siblings? I feel like you're setting him up for teasing by allowing to go without pants at a friend's house like this.

[Anonymous]

My 7yo also has to wear a pull-up every night but he wears pajamas. I would try to encourage your son to wear pjs over his pull-up (not just a long shirt) when he goes to the sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP who suggested the pajama pants again. I think the long t-shirt would be fine with such close friends. Go for it.

NP here. So he'd be wearing an oversized t-shirt but with no pants on underneath? I don't know that I'd be OK with that, at another family's house.

Does the friend have any other siblings? I feel like you're setting him up for teasing by allowing to go without pants at a friend's house like this.

He would be wearing a diaper under the shirt. Its not like the kid would be in the buff.

We haven't done sleepovers with either of my kids, but we've certainly had kids over that would run around in their underwear in the evening without a seconds notice. I used to fuss about it, but as we've gotten to know the families better and spend time with them, I can care less.

[Anonymous]

He's not ready. First of all, 7 is very young for sleepovers. Second, COVID. Third, no matter how nice the kids are, I think he might get teased. Why push the issue now when we're really not supposed to be having/hosting sleepovers in the first place?

(For the record, my kids play with plenty of other kids outside, but sleepovers, no.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he wear Pj's at night? I'd think he could easily just put on a pull up under his Pj's, and none of the other kids would even need to know.

Hi there. DS does not wear pajamas. He's never really been a pajama wearing kid at all, on the occasion we can get him to wear them, he usually ends up taking them off sometime in the night anyways. At home he usually sleeps in just a pull-up.

If you're hosting the sleepover it doesn't matter what your son wears or doesn't wear to bed. If he is going to a friends house he should wear pajamas or at the very least basketball shorts. I have 2 boys who don't like wearing anything at night. They're completely fine wearing only a pull up around the house but if they were to stay at a friend's house they know to wear pajamas. Mine wear the character rompers from target. They're short legged and short sleeved. They zip up on the front and are made of thin breathable material. They are sold in the boys section not the baby section. They wear them all the time when we have those last minute errands and have to run out at night. Bottom line if he stays at a friend's house pjs should be non negotiable.

[Anonymous]

Could you get him some cool boxers to cover the pull-up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you get him some cool boxers to cover the pull-up?

+1

If this were my kid, I'd make it simple. Pajamas over the pull-up, or a long shirt and boxers to cover it.

I wouldn't feel comfortable with my kid running around a non-family members house in nothing but a pull-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP who suggested the pajama pants again. I think the long t-shirt would be fine with such close friends. Go for it.

NP here. So he'd be wearing an oversized t-shirt but with no pants on underneath? I don't know that I'd be OK with that, at another family's house.

Does the friend have any other siblings? I feel like you're setting him up for teasing by allowing to go without pants at a friend's house like this.

DP. It’s fine. Girls wear nightgowns. When the boys get older, many only wear boxers. Even at sleepovers. The long tee is okay as long as he’s comfortable and this is a good friend.