DS wants to have sleepovers, but is still in pull-ups at night

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My son decided to stop wearing pull ups on his recent 7th birthday. He had accidents 3 times the first week and never again. We still have him wear pull ups when he sleeps at his grandparents home, on vacation (not our bed) or when he is super tired.

I would let him try out a sleep over at your house first and see how it goes. Get him the Goodnights or whatever brand looks like underwear and have him discreetly dispose of them in the morning.

If he sleeps at someone else’s house, tell him how he should dispose of the pull up in the morning. The only issue is that when a full pull up on on a kid or in the trash, if smells like pee. That is what I think could cause an issue where he might be teased.

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Anonymous wrote:Peejamas. I get ads on Facebook.

NO! I bought these and they were super thick and weird looking. My kids both refused to wear them. Goodnites are way less conspicuous.

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Forgive my ignorance but how late is too late for pull-ups so that medical intervention is required? That’s what I would be thinking about instead of sleepovers...

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Anonymous wrote:My son decided to stop wearing pull ups on his recent 7th birthday. He had accidents 3 times the first week and never again. We still have him wear pull ups when he sleeps at his grandparents home, on vacation (not our bed) or when he is super tired.

I would let him try out a sleep over at your house first and see how it goes. Get him the Goodnights or whatever brand looks like underwear and have him discreetly dispose of them in the morning.

If he sleeps at someone else’s house, tell him how he should dispose of the pull up in the morning. The only issue is that when a full pull up on on a kid or in the trash, if smells like pee. That is what I think could cause an issue where he might be teased.

Same, I kept dd in a pull-up at night as she was always wet in the morning. We decided at 6 that it was time to go cold turkey. She had an accident 4 nights straight and after that never again! Might be worth a try even if it means changing sheets in the middle of the night for a few days.

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So, your actual concern is that your kid might tell his friends about what is essentially a medical/developmental condition? That is actually fairly common and totally normal???

This is a YOU problem, not a kid problem. Let your kid say whatever he wants to about himself that is truthful. If he ends up getting teased, so be it. But my experience is that most kids are fairly whatever about this stuff in elementary.

And don’t stop your kid from going to sleepovers if he is cool with it (setting aside the pandemic). Let him do this. The fact is he could decide to stand up at show and tell and let the whole class know he wears a pull up. And there are problt two other kids in the class that do the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Forgive my ignorance but how late is too late for pull-ups so that medical intervention is required? That’s what I would be thinking about instead of sleepovers...

Like age 12. There is a ton of ignorance in this thread about this. It isn’t a big deal at age 7. He will age out of it in all likelihood.

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Anonymous wrote:Forgive my ignorance but how late is too late for pull-ups so that medical intervention is required? That’s what I would be thinking about instead of sleepovers...

Like age 12. There is a ton of ignorance in this thread about this. It isn’t a big deal at age 7. He will age out of it in all likelihood.

+1 Exactly what the ped said, no need to address concerns before age 12. We didn't think our DS would every be dry through the night, finally was at age 11.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried limiting all liquids after 6? Maybe use the sleepovers as an incentive to fully potty training? 7 seems quite old to wake up every single morning wet.

Unless there is a SN, this!!! I have three kids and this is the first I’m hearing of this being a thing for this age or any age remotely close to 7.

Also, what the— with the sleepovers? We are in the middle of a huge pandemic, 7yos can’t be vaccinated, delta is spreading like rapid fire, and schools are just going back. Priority needs to be on keeping schools open and not spreading within schools. Your sleepovers are going to be the reason why more kids at school need to quarantine and things eventually shut down, at best, and kids and vulnerable kids get sick and maybe some seriously so, at worst.

Thank you!!
Who is doing sleepovers now? Let’s try, really try, to keep schools open.

Obviously your kids didn't have this issue growing up but a lot of kids do. As far as sleep overs go how is it any different than the same kids who share a classroom all day spend the night with each other? If hosting parents are vaccinated I wouldn't have an issue.

Because the kids in the classroom are wearing masks. If you're one of those people who thinks masks don't work and are just hygiene theater I guess it's a non-issue. But you also have no right to complain when your kid ends up in quarantine or when their entire class reverts to virtual.

I've got news for you. The kids around here aren't wearing masks after school. They're living normal childhoods. Mine aren't old enough for covid vax. After reading another thread we all got flu shots today.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried limiting all liquids after 6? Maybe use the sleepovers as an incentive to fully potty training? 7 seems quite old to wake up every single morning wet.

Unless there is a SN, this!!! I have three kids and this is the first I’m hearing of this being a thing for this age or any age remotely close to 7.

Also, what the— with the sleepovers? We are in the middle of a huge pandemic, 7yos can’t be vaccinated, delta is spreading like rapid fire, and schools are just going back. Priority needs to be on keeping schools open and not spreading within schools. Your sleepovers are going to be the reason why more kids at school need to quarantine and things eventually shut down, at best, and kids and vulnerable kids get sick and maybe some seriously so, at worst.

Thank you!!
Who is doing sleepovers now? Let’s try, really try, to keep schools open.

Obviously your kids didn't have this issue growing up but a lot of kids do. As far as sleep overs go how is it any different than the same kids who share a classroom all day spend the night with each other? If hosting parents are vaccinated I wouldn't have an issue.

Because the kids in the classroom are wearing masks. If you're one of those people who thinks masks don't work and are just hygiene theater I guess it's a non-issue. But you also have no right to complain when your kid ends up in quarantine or when their entire class reverts to virtual.

I've got news for you. The kids around here aren't wearing masks after school. They're living normal childhoods. Mine aren't old enough for covid vax. After reading another thread we all got flu shots today.

Gross. Playing outside unmasked is one thing, but sleepovers for unvaxed kids right now is something else.

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kids around here aren't even wearing mask in school despite the mandates, they've had enough of them.

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1. I stayed in a tent with my kid and another when she was in pull ups and did it all discreetly.

2.Dr Sagie bed wetting alarm (sold on Amazon) worked for us within days and only 1 accident since in 6 months, when we had a long travel day

[Anonymous]

DS and DD both had good friends who wore pull ups at sleepovers. It was a complete non issue. Both were definitely still wearing them in 4th grade. They may have even later. The parents reached out separately to give me a heads up before the first sleepover. At some point the kids talked about it. A few times my daughters friend got up and took a shower in the morning. Everything was fine.

I was a bed wetter for a very long time as a child and wish pull ups had been invented. It’s medical and nothing to be ashamed of.

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Because the kids in the classroom are wearing masks. If you're one of those people who thinks masks don't work and are just hygiene theater I guess it's a non-issue. But you also have no right to complain when your kid ends up in quarantine or when their entire class reverts to virtual.


I've got news for you. The kids around here aren't wearing masks after school. They're living normal childhoods. Mine aren't old enough for covid vax. After reading another thread we all got flu shots today.


Gross. Playing outside unmasked is one thing, but sleepovers for unvaxed kids right now is something else.

I bet six months ago you were shaming people for not wearing masks outside. Baby steps.

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Because the kids in the classroom are wearing masks. If you're one of those people who thinks masks don't work and are just hygiene theater I guess it's a non-issue. But you also have no right to complain when your kid ends up in quarantine or when their entire class reverts to virtual.


I've got news for you. The kids around here aren't wearing masks after school. They're living normal childhoods. Mine aren't old enough for covid vax. After reading another thread we all got flu shots today.


Gross. Playing outside unmasked is one thing, but sleepovers for unvaxed kids right now is something else.

I bet six months ago you were shaming people for not wearing masks outside. Baby steps.

Try again.

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Anonymous wrote:Forgive my ignorance but how late is too late for pull-ups so that medical intervention is required? That’s what I would be thinking about instead of sleepovers...

Like age 12. There is a ton of ignorance in this thread about this. It isn’t a big deal at age 7. He will age out of it in all likelihood.

+1 Exactly what the ped said, no need to address concerns before age 12. We didn't think our DS would every be dry through the night, finally was at age 11.

Is all this bed wetting something new? I don’t remember it being like this when I was young.