Good, sane post. |
A friend of mine played intramural and another didn’t play sports at all. Relevance? |
I’m really not convinced that there are significant numbers of coaches in this are telling U11 or U12 players they are likely to be able to play in college, or significant numbers of parents who think you can project where kids will end when they are in elementary school. They are too young to evaluate at that age. I have no problem with a coach telling a U15 year old that he or she has the talent to play in college if they keep working hard. Coaches told my son that starting around u14, and every single one of them told him he needed to keep his grades up as well as putting in the soccer work Some of his friends were slower to develop and these talks with coaches happened later in HS. Parents and kids need to be realistic and do their due diligence. They need to understand that a club’s claims that they can help kids play in college mean only that they have had at least some success in getting one or more kids get recruited. If your kid is never promoted to the top team, you can assume that the club’s message is not directed at you, and the same may be true if the top team is not competitive or you are always on the bench. Questions like the OPs are helpful because the club’s commitment list shows that some clubs actually do place a decent number of kids on their top team or two in college, while others it’s more like a kid or two every few years. And as I said earlier in the thread, parents who think their kid may have what it takes need to talk to other parents who have been through the process and not blindly trust messages from clubs or coaches. But in any case I don’t know of any families delusional enough to think it’s fine for their son to put all his eggs in the soccer scholarship basket and stop focusing on academics and grades. You can do very well in school and soccer at the same time as long as you don’t party or goof off too much, and focusing on academics is always the top priority if you want good college options. Which person likely to be reading DCUM doesn’t understand this? |
that source looks at high school athletes. There are plenty of kids playing high school with no desire or chance to play in college. I'd like to see the same stats for MLSnext/ECNL/GA. The odds still probably aren't great, but they are probably a lot better |
What makes you believe a kid would be sacrificing academics for soccer? |
Completely agree. I can't explain the level of delusion I hear from parents every year. It's insane, but people believe some crazy stuff out there so who knows. My son plays on an ECNL team and I had a new parent last year tell me that he came to ECNL because he heard that nationally 80% of kids playing ECNL get "full rides" to D1 schools. I realized he wasn't the kind of person that was worth educating or talking to so just said, "Oh really, I didn't hear that, but it sounds like a lot of kids." This is the same guy who has instagram pages for 3 kids (2 are under 10) so they can start "getting exposure". People like that are one of the many reasons youth soccer in this country is so annoying. |
I run into these parents ALL of the time. It’s let you a bit with my U16/17 son’s friend’s parents because the reality of it all starts setting in, but the sidelines of my 13-year old son’s teams are filled with these parents. I don’t engage it. Just kind of smile and know not to put my chair near them next game. |
Hey, I'm not the coach, but they sure think/sell it. |
Lets stop talking about National Team caliber players. They are the types of players who are going to College for Soccer but that is such a small slice of the pie. Comparing them to the regular student body is like comparing Joe Burrow to the regular student body. Top ten programs participating in rigorous majors is not possible but there are a lot of very good schools and programs where students/athletes can find some balance. D1 plus school is extremely challenging but it doesn't automatically mean a player sacrificed academics. |
Our kids' Club was announcing commitments to Community Colleges. Is that a thing ????? Do they even have teams that play in D2 or D3? I was not impressed at all with any of their commits over the past 5 years my boys were with the Club. Not a single college I would want my kids to attend, to play soccer or not, with award $$ or not. |
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Before concerning themselves with college, parents need to consider if there are there even enough spots on a typical High School team!
Despite years of travel soccer, my nephew initially made the Wilson JV team but never the varsity. So much competition in this area! |
| A high school team is far easier to make than a top club team. |
Some high school teams are very competitive and very hard to make. Part of the problem in this area is that anybody can play "travel soccer". Your nephew probably would have been well-served playing rec, but everyone moves their kid to "travel" (whether they are good or not) because they want to brag to other parents. |
The girl parents are the craziest IMO, but, there are plenty of boy parents who don't get that if your kid isn't on the top team or is sitting the bench on a top team, they are not going to be getting $$ for soccer. I know a family who paid a "recruitment specialist" to help explore finding a college team for their 2nd string goalie who played on a mediocre high school team. Anybody will take your $ for something. |
It is possible to participate in rigorous majors at many schools with top D1 programs, but it’s certainly not easy. I was at the mens Final Four in 2019 and they recognized some of the players with excellent academic records. There was a goalkeeper from Stanford with a 3.9 something GPA majoring in Engineering Physics—that sounds pretty rigorous. If you go through the rosters of top teams, there are usually a few computer science or engineering majors listed, though you have to dig deeper to see if those players are getting a lot of playing time. It is certainly the case that you will not have time for much else if you have a tough academic schedule and a demanding coach. |