In love with FIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Everyone is right. I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives over this. I’m going to tell FIL tonight he can’t visit unless DH is here. I know I need to talk to DH about making our marriage stronger. They will be on the agenda this weekend. Hopefully he’ll be receptive to couples therapy - we’ll see. He’s old school and doesn’t believe in therapy and is very traditional about gender roles, etc.

Big mistake. You've got to go out for a test drive to see if he's what you really need in your life.
Once the kids are in bed, put on some Shalimar, some Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie and bring him some Andre champagne. Report back to us, please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Everyone is right. I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives over this. I’m going to tell FIL tonight he can’t visit unless DH is here. I know I need to talk to DH about making our marriage stronger. They will be on the agenda this weekend. Hopefully he’ll be receptive to couples therapy - we’ll see. He’s old school and doesn’t believe in therapy and is very traditional about gender roles, etc.

Big mistake. You've got to go out for a test drive to see if he's what you really need in your life.
Once the kids are in bed, put on some Shalimar, some Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie and bring him some Andre champagne. Report back to us, please!

I'm sorry, is she going to bang her husband in an '80s rom/com?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - Everyone is right. I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives over this. I’m going to tell FIL tonight he can’t visit unless DH is here. I know I need to talk to DH about making our marriage stronger. They will be on the agenda this weekend. Hopefully he’ll be receptive to couples therapy - we’ll see. He’s old school and doesn’t believe in therapy and is very traditional about gender roles, etc.

Big mistake. You've got to go out for a test drive to see if he's what you really need in your life.
Once the kids are in bed, put on some Shalimar, some Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie and bring him some Andre champagne. Report back to us, please!

I'm sorry, is she going to bang her husband in an '80s rom/com?

She’s trying to get FIL to remember his peak performance days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Everyone is right. I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives over this. I’m going to tell FIL tonight he can’t visit unless DH is here. I know I need to talk to DH about making our marriage stronger. They will be on the agenda this weekend. Hopefully he’ll be receptive to couples therapy - we’ll see. He’s old school and doesn’t believe in therapy and is very traditional about gender roles, etc.

Ya gotta give it a go just to see if he's interested.
He could be your soul mate!

[Anonymous]

80% of Irish Catholic family disfunction can be traced to the belief that priests=therapists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:80% of Irish Catholic family disfunction can be traced to the belief that priests=therapists.

^^^ truth

[Anonymous]

There's a reason, in most societies, the traditional status of actors is historically similar to that of prostitutes. Keep away, OP, and if ever you happen to think of him, concentrate on the things that dislike or annoy you the most.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - I think he loves me too. We haven’t kissed but we have had intimate discussions. Maybe I should talk to my priest.

Priest are not trained for this.

Get therapy and stop having him visit.

We’re you molested as a child? Abandoned? Abused?

??? Priests are totally trained for this. They handle people's problems day in, day out. They were the original version of therapists, but with a heavy overlay of Christian moral code.

OP is contemplating banging her FIL.

Priests are trained in “how to obey your h” or “chore play” they are not trained in serious mental health breakdowns!!!

I disagree. And OP is not having a mental breakdown. She's just having a moment.

You sound insane.

Yea, that's a response I would expect from somebody who thinks a priest is trained to counsel people.

It's not hard to dupe somebody that believes all the fiction in the bible.

Why do you think this is OK to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - Everyone is right. I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives over this. I’m going to tell FIL tonight he can’t visit unless DH is here. I know I need to talk to DH about making our marriage stronger. They will be on the agenda this weekend. Hopefully he’ll be receptive to couples therapy - we’ll see. He’s old school and doesn’t believe in therapy and is very traditional about gender roles, etc.

Big mistake. You've got to go out for a test drive to see if he's what you really need in your life.
Once the kids are in bed, put on some Shalimar, some Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie and bring him some Andre champagne. Report back to us, please!

I'm sorry, is she going to bang her husband in an '80s rom/com?

Her husband? No!
Her husbands Dad!

[Anonymous]

So what happened last night, OP?

[Anonymous]

Ew.

[Anonymous]

This thread is pure gold

[Anonymous]

OP again - so I had a heart to heart with DH last night and amazingly he did agree to couples therapy. He left this morning for a business trip and will be back Friday night. I also talked to FIL in person today bc he came to help with kids again. I wanted to talk in person. I was honest with him and shared his feeling with me too. We held hands and I could see the love he had for me and told him I loved him too but told him we couldn’t do this anymore. We decided it’s best to stop having him come over when DH isn’t here and I’ll hire a nanny instead.

I feel better because I know I need to put my marriage and children first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - I think he loves me too. We haven’t kissed but we have had intimate discussions. Maybe I should talk to my priest.

Priest are not trained for this.

Get therapy and stop having him visit.

We’re you molested as a child? Abandoned? Abused?

??? Priests are totally trained for this. They handle people's problems day in, day out. They were the original version of therapists, but with a heavy overlay of Christian moral code.

OP is contemplating banging her FIL.

Priests are trained in “how to obey your h” or “chore play” they are not trained in serious mental health breakdowns!!!

I disagree. And OP is not having a mental breakdown. She's just having a moment.

You sound insane.

Yea, that's a response I would expect from somebody who thinks a priest is trained to counsel people.

It's not hard to dupe somebody that believes all the fiction in the bible.

Why do you think this is OK to say?

Because it is true and there have been studies that have proven it.

Do you actually think there was a Noah's ark?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again - so I had a heart to heart with DH last night and amazingly he did agree to couples therapy. He left this morning for a business trip and will be back Friday night. I also talked to FIL in person today bc he came to help with kids again. I wanted to talk in person. I was honest with him and shared his feeling with me too. We held hands and I could see the love he had for me and told him I loved him too but told him we couldn’t do this anymore. We decided it’s best to stop having him come over when DH isn’t here and I’ll hire a nanny instead.

I feel better because I know I need to put my marriage and children first.

I know OP does not recognize how incredible dysfunctional and creepy this is, she actually thinks this was a heartfelt moment with her FIL.